Should I give this guy a shot?

[Anonymous]

He smokes cigars and kinda does a lot of social drinking at the weekends. While I workout a lot a lot and hasn't really done the drinking scene in my life

[melanieeeB]

If you do have a problem with that, then let it be but if you don't mind and like him, try ... you can still say no after getting to know him a little better

[Asker]

Very true I can still walk away

[jamesgoldman]

As much as I feel I should say yes and help a fellow BOTL out
Realistically him and you are like chalk and cheese but there's a chance if you can get him into the gym and whip him into shape

[slatyb]

It doesn't seem like a great match. What's attractive about him?

[Asker]

He used to be sporty in highschool do you think he could chnage again? He used to be such a geek and sporty now he's one of these popular people and dated party girls in the past

[slatyb]

That was then, this is now. Never expect another person to change, most likely they won't. If you can't love someone as they are now, don't start with them.

[Asker]

It is a gamble I'm not sure what I'll do

[princeofromance]

No, You do not want someone who is both a heavy smoker along with drinking alcohol. He will only bring you down.

[Asker]

I wonder if he will go back to his highschool ways. he's dated girls who love to party late etc and he's changed a lot

[Jamie05rhs]

Sure; give him a shot. In 10 years you'll be married with 3 kids and 2 black eyes.

[Asker]

Why will I have black eye?

[Jamie05rhs]

Because he will beat you when he's drunk.

[Asker]

I dont think he's like that he's quite shy and very nerdy

[Jamie05rhs]

You don't know people until you know them.

[ashish804]

depend u want that guy stripping u naked and banging u or not

[Asker]

He looks alright but his lifestyle may be an issue I think he's started to realise although he started to do some runs but who knows how long that will last

[ashish804]

the smell u can get off with while he is drunk and banging u is quite a thing

[Asker]

Oh shit yuck have you experienced this?

[ashish804]

yeahhhh... both the partners drink then its ok... but only one then its problem

[Asker]

Well I have noticed he's following girls that dress up for the clubs I'm just a geek and does hikes lol I've never been drunk I before

[ashish804]

so u wanna get drunk and banged?

[Asker]

Yeah it's something to think about maybe I'll see what he's like with me

[Asker]

he's a shy drunk and social smoker

[NathanDavis]

That won't be healthy

[Asker]

Do you think?

[NathanDavis]

*Have you ever kissed a smoker and tasted ashes? or have you ever kissed someone that burps or sweats alcohol?

*Will you feel the need to try and change his ways to accomodate or adjust to yours?

*Do you have an idea yet, or what actual interests do you have in common with him? or when, what time, which days you two have available to actually spend time together, and will you do stuff together or... will you be working out while he goes out to party?

[Asker]

He says he just smokes cigars as a hobbie but he seems a lot going by his instagram. It's really weird how he's gone like this probably becuase he dated some party girl. Seems like everytime he's out there is like a pint of alcohol that's on the table

[NathanDavis]

Well, the problem is that he will want to go out, without you... that is very probable, since you're just not into that lifestyle... and if you're waiting for him, he will bring those smells I mentioned, so... up to you.

[Asker]

I think I scared him off with my body anyway he probably realises himself now the more he talked with me

[NathanDavis]

What's scary about your body?

[Asker]

I'm way more in shape than him because he's gained so much weight

[NathanDavis]

So... what exactly do you see in him, that is worth for you to even try?

[Asker]

That's he's geeky and into gaming

[NathanDavis]

Well, as long as you like geeky gamers and you don't mind them to get unhealthy fat.

You can give it a chance, a try is a try... just make sure to tell him that you're willing to try and if that it does not work out for you, you might call it quits or something.

[TheBigGuy9]

I wouldn’t. Remember the weekends are time to do stuff together, go out, watch movies, etc. Who wants to go to the bar every Friday & Saturday?

[exitseven]

I don't think you will like kissing him too much.

[Asker]

🤣🤣🤣 I think I scared him off with my fit body probably think I'll be missing about his drinking lol

[exitseven]

Find somebody that shares your active lifestyle. I usually dated athletic types except one time I dated somebody I met at a bar (she was the bartender). She was the opposite and maybe that was the allure. It was fun for a while but I got tired of doing only activities that revolved around drinking.

[Asker]

Yeah he to be always doing something alcohol related. Plus I've never actually been drunk before I've only been slighly tipsy haven't allowed myself go beyond that.

[Asker]

He always seems**

[exitseven]

😎😎😎

[Asker]

I'm sure he will lose interest in me because of my lifestyle

[exitseven]

Then forget about it.

[Asker]

Ya I will... but it sucks cause I liked him

[exitseven]

Well, maybe you could date him and get it out of your system or maybe he likes you so much he cleans up his act and starts working out.

[scott04sa22]

give him a chance. You don't inhale cigar smoke

[Asker]

Yes I will but maybe I've scared him off with my fit body and he's gained a belly these days

[scott04sa22]

He could be shy

[Asker]

Yes I think he is aswell. He stalked my account for months until I reached out to him 5 months later lol

[scott04sa22]

Sounds like he's shy and might have a crush with you

[scott04sa22]

Lol..

[Asker]

Oh yeah he must do to keep trying like that for so long

[scott04sa22]

😎👍

[Bigtom155]

I would pass. Especially with the cigar smoking.

[Asker]

Do you think?

[kkirk4442]

It doesn't sound like a good match for you.