Why has my boyfriend been silent and distant with me?

[tjconfusion]

He says he love me, but never text, or call. Always say he's working or sleep. When I ask if he lost interest or want to break up. He gets upset. I see him on Facebook active during work time, call and it says he's in a call all the time, but say he can't talk to me. When he use to talk with me anytime. But he does text good morning or goodnight beautiful, that's pretty much it all day. I ask what wrong, he continue to say nothing... Cause we use to be really close...😔

[MrNameless]

how long has this been going, and do you guys meet each other on a weekly basis?

you guys need to seriously talk about this over the phone via voice or in person. Not over text. he sounds really immature

[tjconfusion]

I do talk to him in person about it. He doesn't take the time to text me anymore. I have to call him

[spartan55]

So, how often do you see him?

[tjconfusion]

Well he drive trucks, so he's gone a lot

[tjconfusion]

We've been together a year and half... when we first got together he use to talk to me regardless of what he's doing... now he says he's always busy or sleep. He move military

[tjconfusion]

I don't get why he can't just say he wants to break up? Everytime I ask what's wrong? Or do you want to break up? He get upset and say why I'm trying to make him say something he doesn't want to say? But still act strange. In some ways, I feel he is doing it on purpose for attention maybe. But he doesn't realize how much it hurts me.

[spartan55]

You need to stop asking him if he wants to break up. That shit drives us to leave. If that's what YOU want to do, then do it. Don't pass it off on him and assume you know what he is thinking. Whatever it is he doing, it isn't for attention. Guys aren't wired to seek attention that way.
So is this more of an online relationship? You two live together?

[tjconfusion]

We see each other in person, but he drive trucks so gone a lot... so we text, call

[tjconfusion]

You're right about it drive him crazy for me to ask that... but heck, why the freaking weirdness.. we ladies don't know what to think.. especially when we've done nothing wrong

[spartan55]

You haven't done anything wrong in your mind. That's not really taking into account what HE thinks though, right?

[Marie_curie]

Well seems there is a break in your relationship. It’s not un-mendable. It’s best you have a talk about how this is making you feel. Only then can you decide whether he is busy or he’s lost interest.

[tjconfusion]

Thanks, I've asked him a lot of times. He still acts funny with me

[tjconfusion]

Seems the more I been asking, he's gotten weirder with me.. when I ask if we should separate... he gets upset. I don't know I'm just cc confused to what he wants

[Marie_curie]

Well you should tell him about how he isn't messaging or calling you but busy when you call. Tell him all your grievances. Ask him if he is genuinely busy or he has lost interest in you. You can’t be wasting you time and energy on him if he isn’t into it. Of course you should check if he has a genuine reason for it.

[tjconfusion]

Thank you. I will

[tjconfusion]

I already did all that... just want to vent. Cause I know I'm going to have to end things. I just get sick of men all of a sudden acting stupid.. 😂😢😪 but I appreciate you tho 💓

[tjconfusion]

I've even told him to just block me if he wants to break up, but he doesn't

[Marie_curie]

Well it’s your decision. Good luck💪

[tjconfusion]

Thank you 🤔