Why is my past friends with benefits so hook on me, like what is so good about my pu$$y?

[Anonymous]

So long story, short. I past friends with benefits have a lot of history. But no matter, how far we are or distance we may become. We always, seems to come back to each other. But usually, we don't come back to each other: just for sex. But when that time comes, he usually initiate it. I only asked him once I believe, like last year. But anyways. We know that he is a hoe- and he isn't trying to commit to anyone. But, he has other fucks! I assume, or maybe not anymore. But other then that, he loves fucking me. And I'm just trying to figure out why. Sometimes, I get really self-conscious about my, and I don't feel as confidence as if I am knocking his boots on. But idk- he seems to like it. But what gives?

[spartan55]

What do you mean "what gives"? He likes fucking you because he knows he can and you are easy.

[Asker]

We haven't done anything for awhile

[spartan55]

So? That doesn't mean anything.

[Asker]

What are you trying to say 😋😂

[spartan55]

That you saying you haven't done anything for a while means NOTHING. You make it sound like a big deal...

[Asker]

I guess the question is when he says he misses me does he mean it. But a lot of others on here the answer this question same question I said how I made things too easy for him or how long to easy. And I was saying that I haven't, had sex with him. So maybe you guys don't do that. But my thing is him saying how he misses me what does that have anything to do with me giving anything to him. And also! He has been with other people. So why even consider fucking me. I mean he hasn't asked me anyting yeah we have been casually talking then and there. 🤷

[spartan55]

Wow, you just don't get it. He misses the pussy, it doesn't matter if you haven't had sex recently. What are you not understanding?

[spartan55]

And how do you know he has been with other people?

[Asker]

I see. I guess my next question is. Why would a guy Miss a woman's vagina. Even though it has been a while since he has bang her. And also, he has mentioned to me before in the past about when I don't hear from him just because he's dealing with others and then he confessed and admit to me back in 2018 how things are different between me and the other girls he messes with. I said how so he said having s e x with you is more meaningful and it means something. WOW! I may have answered my own question. 🤔😳😳.

[Asker]

But I see what you mean. But if things are meaningful between him and I. Why hasn't he cuffed me. Sure a lot of men like a wet tight vagina lol. But it's more to that than just sex. I don't know if he has the balls of being ready to commit himself to me. But eight years as hell of a long time of knowing each other and all we have done has been friends and Friends with Benefits. That's why I cut him off the first time like last year and walked away. And yes I know him you guys don't know anything about him other than what I say and share with you. But a person like him who says I miss you. It's hard to determine whether he's talking about me or what if he's talking about what's in between my legs. . But honestly things between him and I should be relative that's why I call him my past friends with benefits. I guess I'm really more just concerned about how can someone could be hooked on another person's body. But , wasted years and years and years of sex but not a relationship but get mad and upset if other guys take me sexually and romantically.

[spartan55]

He says that shit about the sex to sweet talk you. If he valued you for anything other than pussy you would have been in a relationship from the start.

[Asker]

You make a point.. And that's many reasons why I cut his v ass off, like last year. I'm not a toy nor someone who he can play with. Like I ac. And actually have REAL genuine feelings for him. And I can't allow myself to get hurt again by him. Nope!!

[Asker]

But see here is my thing. And I'm not trying to make excuses or give him the benefit of the doubt. Your a man, you know. But even tho it has been 8 years with him now. Instead of him playing the games having a big ego. Wouldn't he be more direct with his approach about what it is he wants. I mean at the beginning when we first met. He sweet talk me a whole lot and I allow him in my head. Smh. We know it's not real love we know it's not true love cuz he would have committed himself to me. But now a days when he does return, it doesn't seem like he doesn't want to sweet talk. We literally just have conversations and check up on each other. If sex it's something that we both want then we either proceed or he'll usually bring it up. And he randomly says out the blue that he misses me. And I'm not saying that he doesn't! It's just hard to believe with genuine and what are lies. Because back then he didn't tell the truth and there was a lot of secrets that he kept. So trust me, I'm right with you Spartan 55. And he is a male hoe. 💁.

[Asker]

But Only God Can reveal his true intentions and only Mr. Ray, Ray knows his true intentions. But it's better to keep him at arm's length. 🤷. Just to protect my sanity and my well-being heart. 🤐. I'm the type of person who I can't just sex him, I can't be in the midst of his company and say I'm come chill and relax. Just Something about him, just drives me crazy. Like I'm not in love with him. But I do have a lot of love for him and I mean a lot. And he's one person who I have been holding on for so long. It's crazy- like parts of me has moved on but part of my heart is still with him. And he knows that I am a good person he knows that I have been good to him not just want a sexual level. 😩😭😞. But if he's trying to use sex as a cover-up because he's not ready to commit himself to me or tried to keep me I'm leaving. Then that isn't cool. Like We want each other in each other's life.

[Asker]

But sex shouldn't be something, that pops up with him. I'm too chicken enough to ask him what does he really want from me!" Tell me what do you really want. But I feel like that would be way easier because I don't think he would about his attentions. Just something about this just doesn't seem right, most of fwbs don't last as long and once something is cut off it's cut out there's no going back. But with him! And I. We never seen so just let things go and move forwards. But I agree with you it's me and him was supposed to be together and if things we're meant. He would have been with me, already. . So smh. But like I told you. I can't get myself caught up I can't allow myself to go backwards. I love him with everything within me but I can't allow myself to get hurt again nor repeat bad habits. First of all I'm too old for friends with benefits relationships. I'm giving people the benefit of the doubt to screw me and they give me nothing but either hurt feelings or making me very confused. And I'm tired of being confused with a man who can't get it right who is it ready to commit or who just in for the sex. WTF!

[spartan55]

Friends with benefits is a terrible deal for women. 9/10 they are the one who catch feelings, and end up heartbroken. You can't think if you fuck a guy enough he will 'come around' and want to commit, too many women believe that, and it WON'T HAPPEN.

[Asker]

Your RIGHT. And with him not being clear what it is that he wants from me other than sex. I'm afraid I'm not willing to move forward with him in any kind of way. Him and I can remain friends, if he can do just that. I talked to a psychic this past week. And I asked her why all of a sudden after a year of non-communication why is he wanted to reach out now what does he want. She said well he's not doing this for you she said it's more of an ego thing. She said what that means if you give him the opportunity of talking to him it's almost kind of like he needs some type of approvement to knows that he still is important. She said, he knows that he isn't shit. And she said no he's starting to feel the rafter and she said he needs your energy. But she said this is not about you at the moment this is for him his ego. She said a part of him he feels guilty about how he treated me and now he wants to make up for all those lost times. And I said oh I see but she did tell me don't dig too deep in the situation with him. She said nothing changed too much about him. She said I'm not saying that he doesn't like you. But she said he knows that he messed up. So she said if you communicate with him that's allowing him to know that he still means something that he still worse something and he matters. It's like so if I get her to talk to me I'm still in the game and if not then I lost. She actually told me not to contact him, she said he really wants you that bad then make him work for your attention and time. And I said but isn't it playing my game. She said absolutely not she said I can read in your car the way that he made you feel with low and things wasn't healthy between him and you. She said you give too much time and energy to this guy. And if he serious about you to make him Chase for your attention and your energy. She told me stop putting and so much energy and time into people that's not doing that for you.

[OutWestBandit]

Fucking with no commitments and drama is always an appealing prospect.
Plus, he can keep trying and there is no penalty for asking. Cause he is a friend. lol

That's a deal there.

[Asker]

We don't have any drama! We get ALONE fine

[OutWestBandit]

yep thats sounds perfect

[Asker]

Not really! He never once asked me to be his lady.

[OutWestBandit]

Is that what I just stated?
Fucking with no commitments
Fucking with no drama
No penalty for only calling you for sex

he has a sweet deal

[Asker]

Yeah you did. That's why I stopped having sex with him, like last year. And is not guarantee that he has to commit himself to me. But years 8 years no relationship. I refuse to be used

[RHK36]

Nothing other than if he wants it he can probably get it. Your available regardless of the fact that it's been a while.

[Asker]

I see. Well he hasn't asked me anything yet. Not that I'm expecting him to. But it is what it is 🤷

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

why do you allow him to be?

friends with benefits, is for pathetic losers, with no lives

[Asker]

I haven't had sex with him in awhile.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

that doesn't matter

if you're "still friends" with him, that's called, allowing him to be "so in to you"

[Asker]

Yes. We do talk! Then and there. But we can just be friends and not have sex

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

hahahahahahaha

[Asker]

What? I'm frfr. Maybe he won't know how that's probably what your thinking.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

thats so funny, i forgot to laugh, smells like you forgot to take a bath

[Asker]

😂😂

[ManWithThePlan123]

Maybe you are one of his only fuck buddies at the moment.

[Asker]

Well. We haven't had sex in like a year with each other. I had sex with someone this year. And I am sure that he has too. But again. He haven't touch each other in a year. And at the moment, we have been talking- then and there. Nothing more and nothing less.

[anylolone]

It's not your pussy, it's you in general.
Pussy and dicks aren't magic objects with magical powers.

[TheBigGuy9]

So this is just one guy? He’s horny. Need I say more?

[Asker]

😋pretty much

[Luckycharms12]

Cos he knows he can gave that pussy when he wants it I guess. And have good chemistry

[Asker]

We do have a lot of history. It's now 8 years.. wow.

[Luckycharms12]

Maybe your better off moving on

[Asker]

I have in some ways.

[In_Trance]

Maybe just because it's readily available

[Asker]

We haven't had sex...

[In_Trance]

Smfh... then there's nothing good about your pussy!!! WTF would you even ask that for?

[Asker]

I don't think I make things easy for him I did before in the past but what's wrong with us just talking nothing more nothing less

[BIG-BLACK-Robinson]

You got a fat white pale ass?

[Asker]

Well both of us are black lol.