What are the reasons guys won't approach a girl?

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For example me, I am physically attractive with a bit of everything a man needs, I am smart, funny and a sweet person but I am still single and with no man after me. Not looking for a boyfriend, I want a male friend with "wide horizons" if possible.

IDontBelieveIt · Accepted Answer

I liked to go to females for advice about relationships, I am new to this site and saw invite so I clicked it I got a nasty message back "don't try to invite me again" Agape93 I wasn't interested in it as I don't know it, just to ask someone else's opinion I used to adore females and always had respect but they have been destroying my hope in them for some years now. If you read comments on here from guys you will read that a lot.
shyness
rejection
sick of playing games stringing us along to boost their ego like the attention
and nasty females that we can't even give a friendly smile (with no intentions and not seeing it as anything more than being friendly)
I'm not saying all but I'm losing hope very quickly.

Dchrls78104 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't approach a girl:
1. If I knew that doing so would put my life or freedom in danger (Aziz Ansari dated a girl and was accused of rape when the date went badly; a 16 year old boy in my country tried to talk to a certain girl and was shot to death for it).
2. If I knew her to be racist or feminist.
3. If I saw her being unpleasant to someone else.
4. If she was large or overweight.
5. If she was a minor.
6. If she smoked, drank, or did drugs.
7. If she was not a natural born and fully heterosexual adult female.
8. If I saw her boyfriend, husband, or child.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

think we're out of his league, we're in group, got rejected too many times to try anymore, the list probably goes on

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The same reason that girls won't approach guys. REJECTION.

Anonymous · Answer

She's already taken.
He believes she's already taken.
He believes she's gay.
He is already taken.
He is not looking for a relationship.
He is gay.
He is interested in or pursuing a different girl.
He has already approached her and been shot down.
He flirted with her, but she did not flirt back, thus showing she is not interested.
She gives off the wrong vibe.
She reminds him of someone he hates. / She looks like an ex.
She's not his type.
She has a shitty personality.
He's too shy.

There are way too many possible reasons to list here, but women tend to believe the one that allows them to feel good about themselves.

Lionman95 · Answer

1. Many girls knowadays seem they don´t want to be approached
2. Many of guys are way too shy and we´re too afraid that they´re made fun of later.
3. Modern hook-up culture satisfies the sexual need.
4. Many guys tell themselves nowadays they don´t need to approach because equality means girls can apporach them as well-
5. Many guys are players, they don´t want a long-term relationship.

caring__1 · Answer

Your last sentence provides the reason. Guys won't approach you if they feel they won't measure up to your high expectations. Too many girls are more interested in being provided a lifestyle than creating a special connection. Help people feel safe, and accepted as they are, if you want them to approach you for more than just a challenging conquest.

Paul09 · Answer

Rejection. And I'll never get why a man has to do all the first moves, so much pressure.. Waste of time and money. Always seems like I'm giving out free meals. Can I have at least 1 date pay for my meal lol

KostasKouvalis · Answer

They don't know that. My friend once told me there was a hot girl in our school, guys wouldn't approach her because everyone assumed she had a boyfriend cuz she was hot

BrutalLee_Honest · Answer

Guys won’t approach unless a woman gives him a reason too.. body language is everything and attraction is real.. For example, if i catch a woman stealing glances at me, staring at me like a kid looks at candy, and smiles at me every time i walk by her then yeah i’ll approach.. but if she's minding her business, not even giving me a glance, no smiles and walks passed me without even saying anything then im pretty much going about my day..

Ekvark · Answer

Sometimes a girl you find attractive can be intimidating by either thinking "I'm nowhere near her league" or "she's prolly got a boyfriend" or "she's likely got guys after her all the time, I'll just leave her be"

ChiTown33 · Answer

Basically the juice has to be worth the squeeze. Women believe it or not tell guys whether or not to approach. Some women don't get their demeanor sometimes says " stay away". Guys don't like rejection so they're not going to approach without some sort of a sign that says "come over here".
Personally I don't approach women.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

1. I'm not interested in her. 2. I'm busy 3. She's working Intimidation only takes place when men have piss poor social skills and are afraid to speak up about anything. So it's not valid in my book

Tunasub · Answer

This is the first question that popped into my head when I read the body of your question. I didn't read any other responses so I don't know if it's been asked but I doubt it has..

Please don't take offense...

Are you Bat shit crazy?

Nikola321 · Answer

Shy guys won't approach cuz they shy :D Others, well, many guys would like to know if u like them back before trying anything. You could do that w hinting them.

Finchie40 · Answer

I just wrote this question and will give ya the answer why I later on tonight , unless you want to inbox Me

Andres77 · Answer

Maybe you project so much confidence that guy's feel like you're out of their league.

hellionthesagereborn · Answer

What the hell does a "male friend with wide horizons" even mean?

FEARLESSHERO · Answer

Well I personally start things off as friends. Thats where every relationship starts. Its the humble beginnings for. If we can link as friends we can link on anything else

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

how long have you been single now? a lot of guys, resent, that they are always the ones expected to approach

COMMODOREII · Answer

I'll be your male friend with "wide horizons". 😜😏

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Maybe you must be looking too busy, intimidating, serious etc.  I like a friend with wide horizons 😅

Anonymous · Answer

The risk of being MeTooed then imprisoned for life or executed

Anonymous · Answer

After a while, we get tired of rejection. Want to get to know me? Approach me.

Gentlemanhard · Answer

It varies, but in my case I'm very shy, it's something that has always haunted me

G5TWA1 · Answer

cause they are pussies, what's your excuse?

dudeinohio · Answer

Probably shy/have social anxiety.

taboomaster · Answer

Possible sexual harassment charges

anylolone · Answer

Same as for girls not to approach a guy.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Why don't you try making the first move?

Yellovv · Answer

That is depends about your personality...

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