Have u ever wanted a woman and only her?

[Anonymous]

I know a guy who’s good looking but he’s been single for a long time because he likes a girl and wants to date her.

[Nik1hil]

Grade 6 I had a crush on a girl let's name her "Yal", Till grade 12, for 6 years.. I didn't flirted with any other girl! Didn't looked at any other girl or talked up any other girl and just wanted this girl to be mine...

And all she did was put me in friendzone!.. Used me to get stationary items she forgot during class!. And didn't show any interest!.. Whole she cried and pined over a guy who sexually, verbally! Physically! abused her..

And after high school ended she stopped replying me over texts too because she did cared about me.. And was just using me..

I was broken but dusted myself off took me 2 years to bounce back and went to college.. Again crushed for this girl she talked to me and was the same kind of girl.. Showed same indicated and wanted to friendzone me.. I didn't wanted to be tortured so I bolted from this one..

Moral of the story: I was stupid, and I learned it the hard way!..

Give me that Guy's contact and maybe I can convince him to date you..

[Asker]

The guy that I’m talking about is in his late 20’s. How common is that guy doesn’t get into relationships because he’s hung up on one girl?

[Nik1hil]

A guy can spend his entire life devoted to one girl, that is how us men are..


If you watched twilight, "concept of imprinting by werewolf." or you watched the vampire diaries! The concept of "Sire Bond"..
Or if you watched THE FLASH
after season 3 Flash enters speed force and lives in it for 6 months on earth but it's equivalent to infinite.. Like 7-8 Billion years in his time... When he comes back he is clinically insane..
But when he hears that Iris's life is in danger and she might die..
The sanity returns back. HE SHATTERS THE Containment chamber and Runs 4 times faster than he has ever ran Before to save her.. Look at the scene..
https://youtu.be/5QIOa45Gbps

This bond cannot be broken!..
It usually forms in teenage of a boy!..
The strength of this bond depends on how much masculine a man is..

It's just like that.. You might think he is obsessed with her.. But he has a whole other life without obsessing over her..
However!
Even if after staying a decade away from her.. When he has married other men and had kids with him..

And if someone is aiming gun at her..
This guy who has Sire bond with her will take that bullet for her..

[Nik1hil]

" he’s hung up on one girl?"

He is not hung up on that girl...
You want him to date you..

Go to him and tell him..
"I want to make you happy! And if that just every becomes single and says yes to go out with you! We can end our relationship instantly!..
I don't want to come between your real happiness, however until she isn't available, could you be there for me."

That's all it takes..
If you assure him being with you does not ruins his chances with her... He will go out with you..

[Asker]

Actually I believe it’s me that he likes but I feel like he’s too shy to pursue me.

[Nik1hil]

Stop making assumptions and just talk to him...

Girls 95% relationship problem begin because they make assumptions about things and ponder a lot before talking and seeing what it actually is...

Talk first... Collect facts and then ponder over those facts later..

[Asker]

I have talked to him occasionally in the instagram DM’s. Months ago I was mainly reaching out to him. He seemed to like talking to me. We stopped talking. Now after months he came to congratulate me on something. So far he has texted me 3 times when I’ve posted a life event (to congratulate me or offer condolences)

He doesn’t know that well at all. We have talked irl only couple times becuse of our mutual friend.

he views every story update of mine and I feel like he had been kinda mirroring what I post. Anyway I have been tempted to reach out and just start talking with him since I really like him.

My good female friend on the other hand is always like don’t send him anything/ don’t reach out to him.

[Nik1hil]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1zbdDak19E
this scene of flash and iris

if you listened to your female friend ,,, you will die single...

the reason he is not talking much to you is because you are not initiating the conversation, if you do not initiate the conversation, the man will think you are not interested in him and its dead end for relationship

[Asker]

Lol why would a guy wait for a girl to initiate conversations? He isn’t initating either. Only texts me to congratulate me….

[Nik1hil]

If he texted you to congrats you he initiated one time..
Now it's your turn to initiate..

If a guy initiate a conversation 10 times you are supposed to initiate conversation 10 times too..
If you initiate less than 8 times we consider you are not interested and we are bothering you..
So we stop initiating..

But problem with you girls is you girls don't initiate conversation for 2 reasons.
1) you do not want to be needy so you have control of the relationship..
2) when things turn ugly! You get to say.. He you were the one initiating conversations I wasn't even interested..

You don't realise this but all women are biologically programmed like that...

Just open your DM with all the guys that you have talked with (Except your crushes and boyfriends)
You never initiated conversations..
And that's your recipe for disaster

[Asker]

Last time when we stopped talking I initiated 4 tiles in a row. Then we had no contact for 8 months and now he texted me to congratulate me.

[Nik1hil]

The amount of time you wasted in talking with me...
If you had given him that much time..
You Already would be in a great conversation

[Asker]

All in all do u think he’s interested :D?

[Nik1hil]

Did he text you, if yes then he is interested..

I rest my case..
Because we are going in circles here..

[Asker]

Well eventually he did :D

[williamHD]

I mean he may not be hung up likes that specific attributes of the women so he looks for her in other people. If that makes sense cause she had the best similarity between each other in his eyes

[Asker]

What if guy has been single for a years eveb though many women have showed interest in them. At the same that he has stared one particular girl for years. He’s constantly liking sad quotes..

[williamHD]

What type of interest has she shown and many people like sad quotes. I do it on social media like tik tok just to show support to the creators because they are going through a hard time?

[williamHD]

How many years has it been though?

[Asker]

Almost a decade.

[williamHD]

Like 10 years? Or you just saying that cause it feels like it. He’s probably just looking for similarities in other people tbh. He could be hung up on her but doubt it. I know I look for similarities in girls before because if I notice one red flag that’s not similar with my compatibility then I’m gone.

[WolfKvlt]

Yes, but the ironic thing is, on many occasions too! Men are not inherently monogamous by nature, it goes against our biology. We only so choose to be.
Hope this helps!

[Asker]

So it’s common that guy stays single because he’s really intetested in one woman?

[WolfKvlt]

As long as the Man upholds monogamous morals then I don't see why he shouldn't wait until he finds a suitable enough match. Although that still gives him the freedom to consider other potential mates as well, and then choose the one that fits his level of standard.

[Asker]

I feel like I’m the girl that he’s interested but he’s confusing.

I have talked to him occasionally in the instagram DM’s. Months ago I was mainly reaching out to him. He seemed to like talking to me. We stopped talking. Now after months he came to congratulate me on something. So far he has texted me 3 times when I’ve posted a life event (to congratulate me or offer condolences)

He doesn’t know that well at all. We have talked irl only couple times becuse of our mutual friend.

he views every story update of mine and I feel like he had been kinda mirroring what I post. Anyway I have been tempted to reach out and just start talking with him since I really like him.

My good female friend on the other hand is always like don’t send him anything/ don’t reach out to him.

[WolfKvlt]

He will lead the relationship where he wants to. Continue doing your thing until he decides he wants to lead the relationship into something more. Save some love for yourself too in case he decides he'd rather focus on something else other than you.

[Asker]

So you think he’s not interested?

[WolfKvlt]

If he is interested in pursuing you, he will let you know by saying something more than just something something friendly.

[Asker]

What if he’s shy?

[WolfKvlt]

Then he's operating in a more feminine state and that's not somebody I'm sure you'd want to pursue you. Unless you're into that sort of thing. Healthy Men are confident and unafraid to go after what they want.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

nope