Why won't he touch my gina?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating this guy for 2 months. He made it clear that he doesn't like giving oral. Okay, no big deal. But I soon realized he won't even touch me down there. He tells me how pretty it is and I good I look, but he still won't.

I am very open an sexual, but even if I bring up doing things to him that he might like (if he were bi or gay), but he doesn't want that. Sex is amazing. He just won't touch me.

And if I want sex and he doesn't, he giggles and pulls away. This is so out of the norm for me. Again, I wouldn't care if he was bi. But he is adamant that he just doesn't do that stuff. I feel like I'm losing an uphill battle because I can tell there is something he's not telling me.

[NamerOfStars]

Well, it could be that he's gay and in denial, and if so, there's not much you can do about that. But a more likely possibility is that he lacks confidence about it. This is going to sound very stupid, and it is, but it's true: men put a lot of stock, ego-wise, into their ability to please their partners. And women often expect them to; many will be turned off if he doesn't know how to get her off. It's safer, attraction-wise, for a man to avoid it altogether than risk upsetting her by revealing that he doesn't know what he's doing. It's kind of like dancing; doing it poorly turns women off more than not doing it at all.

Luckily, there's an obvious solution- TELL him. If he balks at using his hands, then pick yourself up a new vibrator or other stimulator and tell him you want him to use it on you. If need be, say something like "they say it's better if you have someone else holding it" (there are probably devices for which this is even true), and give him explicit instructions and clear feedback (this is key- you want him to not merely see, but HEAR that it's working). The goal is to let him learn without losing face; he'll probably be more willing to try if he thinks he doesn't stand to lose anything.

[Wise4myage]

He's got issues alright and they could be related to childhood trauma. So I guess, its either accept how he is or move on. At least the sex is good, right?

[Asker]

Oh, it's very good!

[Wise4myage]

Nice.

[Luckycharms12]

Maybe need find someone more on your level sexually

[MrOracle]

Yeah, he definitely has some issues going on. I don't know what, exactly, but it's NOT normal.

[Sambelfast198526]

Is he may be just a shy person. I know for sure you wouldn't have to ask me to touch you there.

[MaximilianIV]

If he won't touch your "Gina" I can always lend a helping hand heh 👿👿👿👿

[Avicenna]

Doesn’t sound confident

[Tunasub]

Maybe because you call it "Gina"

[Prideful]

Why y'all are getting weirdos as partners 😂

[Pterodon]

You’re not sexually compatible and he is a fag