Is our relationship failing?

[Anonymous]

This might seem silly I don't know. When me and my boyfriend used to have sex, he used to always make sure I finished too and he’s cuddle and kiss me loads afterwards and now he doesn’t care once he’s finished he just says he’s tired and doesn’t even hug me. Have I done something wrong?

Yes it is

No it’s normal

[Anonymous]

Based on just the information above, I don't know if your entire relationship is failing. I think there are too many other factors to consider. Is he more considerate and loving towards you in other ways? Does he still make you and your relationship a priority? Does he make you feel special and cared for?

If the answer is yes to the other questions above, you're probably fine. My boyfriend isn't a physically affectionate person, and sometimes it's hard for me to reconcile that with his feelings for me. But, he makes me a priority, he never flakes on me, he includes me in every aspect of his life, he makes future plans with me, he makes sure I'm a part of his family and friends circle. If your guy shows you in other ways that you're still important to him, I wouldn't sweat it too much. I would suggest you talk to him about it though and let him know how you're feeling. It may not even dawn on him that he has been acting differently after sex, and unless you tell him, he won't know.

[rainbowbi]

it is wrong , it seems to me that he doesn't care about you having fun or enjoying sex now and it is all about him having his fun. so my question for you is do you enjoy this relationship like you used to do? if no u should either talk to him and solve the problem or break up
and also another thing if you guys been together for a long time and like have strong feeling , you should ask him the reason and talk to him gently and make sex fun and new again

[admles]

It's hard to say from such little information.

He may have some personal issues he's dealing with, I went through similar when I Was younger, sex basically became a chore and I wanted it over and to be left alone (I didn't even really want it, tbh, just did it for her.)

[Yourfriend2021]

I don't think it's you, it seems like he is the problem.

[Anonymous]

Try talking to him about it, of course, and look at all other factors. Has he experienced mood swings, has he worked more than normal, has he had a bad spell or otherwise? Your relationship may be failing, and turning into simply a sex arrangement, but also check that he's not going through a bad patch of depression or exhaustion.

That doesn't excuse his actions, but you can at least find something that may be the cause.

[Anonymous]

What did he used to do to make you finish?

I ask because in my experience it very rare for the woman to orgasm.

Few times it happened.

Few times she asked me to keep doing something but 95% of the time it's only me who orgasms.

[spartan55]

Sounds like he got tired of you being lame in bed.