So I’ve (23) been dating my girlfriend (22) for 4 years now, recently moved in with here nearly 1k Miles from my city for her to go to law school. I hated the idea of moving up until I left and at first I had told her if she accepted we would have to break up because I don’t trust her enough to do long distance.
Our relationship when it stated seemed awesome and I fell for her out of pity because she said no one wanted to ever stay with her and she seemed sweet ( Red Flag! ) but I found out a week before moving with her that she was cheating on me a lot the first 6 months of dating ( found evidence ). All that said I’ve caught her in the past having an affair with the guy that popped her cherry within those first 6 months and ironically he had a girlfriend at the time that happened.
I do think she’s cheated on me since, over the past year she’s been living with her sister by a dog park and her sister would always joke about how friendly my girlfriend was to other guys at the dog park and that she would sneak liquor in the dog park to talk to “Dog dads”, there was one time she was supposed to pick me up from work, I was working security for a football game from a gig I got from my football team and the parking at the stadium is always crazy so it saves money to car pool and just get picked up and she said she would pick me up and she was hours late and her excuse was sorry I fell asleep, I called her like 40 times because it was cold out and just walked home, I don’t really believe that. A little over a year ago I found small men’s underwear in her room ( I got a double x ass) so I knew it wasn’t mine and I brought it up and she said it was her little brothers because sometimes he pees the bed, he’s a 280ib 16 year old though ( I was close to his weight at the same age, maybe a bit more and I couldn’t fit into a large ).
I loved her more than any prior girl but I’m starting to hate her thinking who she truly is. Should I work on this, talk to her or just end it?
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Honestly, once the trust is gone it doesn’t come back.
But you did the right thing trying to live with her before claiming you wanted to marry her.
Saved yourself A LOT of trouble some of these other guys keep running into.
The issue is I feel like I ran my self though 4 years of trouble, like I literally caught her in bed with another guy and forgave her because she said they only kissed ( and then she kept talking to him until I had to tell her it’s me or him and she had to block him about a year into the relationship and recently I also found that she has been talking to him on Snapchat again), yes I was like 19 and naive but I still feel humiliated, used and brainless for letting this happen to me. It’s sad and ironic that it feels like yesterday this girl was saying to me I’m alone, all I want is someone to love me and now I actually feel that way because I’ve put all my care into a facade ( that said I should never of fed into the bullshit she spewed and I should never had been forgiving ). All I wanted was someone to love and help and provide for and with and what I got was being an idiot to someone’s fetish.
Everyone makes mistakes.
Learn from the experience and move on.
She moved out. It's over.
I assume you had to ask her out
No actually, I expect her to treat me worthless now at this point now but the first couple months before those red flags where being waved, we were actually kinda happy together and it was like a short lived time where it was sweet.