Do guys like being a gentleman?

[Violeteyes21]

A guy I like was almost ridiculing me for saying I like when the guy is a gentleman and I appreciate chivalry. He was mocking me for liking when a guy holds open the door for me and pulls out my chair in a restaurant. I am more traditional and like when guys are the pursuers. Not to say a girl can’t chase a little- but primarily I like when the guy is the “dominant” one. I hope that makes sense. Anyway, it was really hurtful to hear the guy I like say these things because it was an indicator of how he would treat me in a relationship… : (

so my question is, do most guys feel this way and don’t like being chivalrous, or do you guys LIKE being a gentleman?

[ChrisMaster69]

There is a lot of stuff that is not mutually exclusive here.

I can still be a ‘gentleman’ hold doors open, do the seat thing etc.

equally I have zero problems if the girl is at the door first, her holding it open, it’s just common sense.

Also I am happy being the dominant one a lot of the time, however if the discussion is say decorating the house, liaising with architect (as I did with my current house), I will happily defer, and in the latter case deferred to my ex wife and daughter.

when I was married, my ex wife literally managed everything from expenses to buying stuff for the house etc, I was out of the country so much, me trying to do all of it would have been exceptionally stupid.

So basically, I can still be traditional and chivalrous but also expect my partner to go out to work, earn a decent wage and pursue her career or dreams.

[mr_empathy]

Personally, I grew up with that set of morals. Holding the door. Pulling your chair out. Go to your door with a rose or a bouquet. Make sure I walk closest to traffic. Ladies first. I see nothing wrong with that. Unfortunately for those of us that do act like this aren't very popular. Mislabeled as "pussy whipped" or a "push over" in the relationship.

"What's wrong with taking care of a woman? She takes care of you" -Meet Joe Black

[Violeteyes21]

Ugh I love hearing that. Even your username is nice😅 I love when guys are a gentleman because it makes me feel cared for. I appreciate little acts like that soooo much. I can’t be mad at the guy for not wanting to be a gentleman because not everyone was raised to be that way, but I don’t have to be with someone who isn’t a gentleman because that’s something that’s extremely important to me. It’s a core compatibility issue at that point. Also because I associate being a gentleman with being romantic. And I’m highly romantic, so if the guy wasn't a gentleman to me, I would feel very deprived in a romantic sense

[Violeteyes21]

OMG I did not mean to put the sweat emoji. That’s so embarrassing. I don’t even know how that got in there. I was trying to do the laugh with the tear but it auto translated to those emojis

[mr_empathy]

Its quite alright. I don't mind. However, now that you mention it. I am a hopeless romantic with a Bleeding Heart that I wear on my sleeve. If you like this username. You should see my pen name 🌹

[mr_empathy]

Rest assured. We are out here looking for love just as well. 🌹

[FilmGuy93]

Lots of guys love being gentlemen. Most of us just have tons of experience with "independent" women being shitty and making acting like a gentleman extremely difficult.

[NathanDavis]

holds a door... pulls a chair... that's all it takes?

[Violeteyes21]

Yea that’s like the bare minimum. I even hold open the doors for guys… and he has a problem doing that for a girl. I’m turned off but more so disappointed…

[NathanDavis]

I do that for my cat all the time

[Violeteyes21]

Hahah😂 okay…. Now I’m really getting turned off with that guy now… considering you do it for your cat. Lmao!

[dolemite89]

When a girl actually acts like a lady i don’t see the problem in holding the door open for her or giving her my coat when she’s cold. aside from that tho i don’t think women deserve anything above common courtesy for how they normally act 🤷‍♂️

[JamesBlackDragon]

I wouldn't say I like it or don't like it it's just who I am

[EnglishEuropean]

I thought women wanted equality? Was I wrong?

[Violeteyes21]

Extreme feminism has been such a problem

[EnglishEuropean]

You think it's extreme that women want to be treated like men?

[Violeteyes21]

I’m not a feminist. I believe in equal right though, but I don’t consider myself a feminist by today’s definition

[Wise4myage]

Yes, being a gentleman always feels nice.

[Diya010]

I like it