Boyfriend ghosted me about 2 weeks ago but didn't block me and still has me in his servers on discord. Why do you think this is?

[Anonymous]

So, basically my boyfriend ghosted me about 2 weeks ago. It's not unusual for me not to hear from him for about 5 days, however he'd always respond to a follow up or get back to me himself. I know there was some personal stuff going on, but he was still online in voice chat with his friends. Our last conversation was completely normal, he even wanted to talk to me longer. However, the next time I tried calling and messaging him, nothing. Tried the next day and nothing. So I blocked him on everything. However, he hasn't kicked me out of any of the servers (on discord) with his friends, I could still just join his voice chats. Why do you think this is? Do you think he just forgot me to the point that he doesn't realize I'm still there, or just doesn't care enough? I'm sure I'm overanlyzing, but I'd like some thoughts.

[DumBear]

You blocked him on everything after 2 days and you're still calling him your boyfriend?
How is he supposed to reply to you?
It doesn't sound like either of you take the relationship very seriously to me.
What do you want him to do if you blocked him?

[Asker]

I completely understand what you're saying. I'm doing that so that I don't keep bombarding him with texts. I'm just curious why he wouldn't respond but keep me in his servers where I could still talk and chat.

[DumBear]

Sounds like he is just a bad boyfriend and you're frustrated and doing this stuff to solicit a reaction from him. Since he isn't you're now trying to figure out why he hasn't removed you from everything.
Listen you've given him complete control over the situation.
What you should do is unblock him, explain what he's doing hurts you and that you reacted poorly and blocked him out of being upset.
If you want the relationship to continue you should ask him if he wants it to as well.
If you dont want it to continue it doesn't matter if he kept you in his servers or not. Just leave them and move on.
There could be a dozen reasons why he hasn't removed you. You implied it was normal for you and him to not talk much. He probably has barely noticed anything wrong if thats the case.
Or doesn't care.
Or he just forgot you were in those servers.

[Asker]

You're right, and gave some solid advice. I'll see what I can do, thanks :).

[DumBear]

Feel free to add me on discord if you need any more advice or want to explain it further.
Milanor#9312 is my tag

[Asker]

Great! I'll add you

[LoverXpp]

a couple should talk everyday, I don't see why he will wait 2 weeks to talk to you. If he haven't drove to see you he may be losing interest/or cheating on you. I say break it off and go with someone better who will give you attention.

[spartan55]

I'm sure he forgot.