What does it mean when a guy tends to cancel plans with you commonly?

[haleexox]

Basically, every time me and this guy makes plans to hangout. There’s always a 50/50 chance that he ends up cancelling and reschedules (but not always). Does this mean there’s a lack of interest?

[Jake99999]

Odds are he has a lack of interest. Also its very rude to do that over and over, isn't it? Its like you are not a priority?

And I don't think you are being demanding to expect a guy you are seeing to follow through on plans.

I mean once in a blue moon is okay, but regularly?

Something is wrong. I would ask him about it and tell him how it makes you feel. He will either be really sorry about it and change his behavior (which means he is into you) or he will get all offended and make you feel like a bad person for even asking (which means he does not give a crap... and if you ask me, you should move on). Don't tolerate bad behavior in a relationship. Its never a good sign and rarely gets better.

[Iron_Man]

Why put yourself through that aggravation that would piss me off if a girl did that to me I would end it on the spot. Three strikes and you’re out really in that situation when new to each other two strikes and you’re out

[haleexox]

I understand. But the thing is, it’s kind of complicated. Lol we’ve known each for years though. And I’ve always felt like there was something between us. But at the same time I don’t know how he feels.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t take the guy that seriously he’s just a friend and leave it at that find yourself a boyfriend

[haleexox]

I guess you’re right. But I’ve always had feelings for him and it’s so hard to just shut them off. No matter how much or how many times I’ve tried

[Iron_Man]

But nothings ever happened and it’s been years already why keep tormenting yourself you have to learn to end it once and for all your feelings for him you can keep him as a friend but not a serious one

[Iron_Man]

Then maybe you should go to a professional counselor because this could go on for another 10 years and you won’t even find a boyfriend because of it.

[haleexox]

Damn, that last thing you said hit home. But I would hope it wouldn’t lead to me ending up like that.

[Iron_Man]

You can put a stop to it time to Nippet in the bud

[Jake99999]

Just look at it this way - every moment you waste on this guy who is not interested in you, is a moment you are not finding the guy who will make you forget all about him. There is no excuse for him to cancel on you that much. Don't bury your head in the sand and hope for something that is not happening. If you truly care about him, talk to him directly about it, share your feelings, find out. Then you can know where you stand. Anyone who tells you its legit for him to just blow you off 50% of the time, is not thinking about how they would feel if it was them. There is no excuse that makes it okay. Talk to him and have a heart to heart. Don't wonder about it and accept the BS.

[haleexox]

Well, thank you both for your opinions. You’ve really helped me look at my situation from a different perspective. I appreciate it.

[Iron_Man]

You’re very welcome

[Iron_Man]

Thanks for most helpful Award Hun

[haleexox]

Anytime. I felt it was best suited for you😊

[Iron_Man]

Aww Thanks

[Cynicaldreamer]

That he's not that invested in you. It's normal for people to cancel or have to reschedule plans or dates; we're human afterall and have other obligations!

But if he's habitually doing so, constantly making up excuses, or doesn't put in the effort to try and make it up to you? He's not that interested. That and he doesn't respect you.
You need to ask yourself are you going to put up with him behaving this way to you, or are you going to find someone that doesn't waste your time?

[lovedejj_xo]

Cancel on him back and then when he responds just say it it’s not working but thanks. If you have those issues BEFORE dating you should see that as a red flag. Often people don’t then wonder why the relationship is trash. Be happy he’s showing you. Now …on to the next.

[Adam1978]

Any normal grown adult can maintain a schedule, so having to cancel 50% is a sign that your not important at all. Otherwise he would respect your time and make sure that whatever time you do schedule is meet. You should at least know what he cancel for, is it work or being sick. But that shouldn't happen that frequently.

[haleexox]

Sometimes it’s work, sometimes it’s something he has to do. But even so, the day we’re suppose to meet he’s usually free. But will pick a shift last minute and cancel. (This is just an example)

[Adam1978]

Well you are certainly not high value to him if he rather work a extra shift then keep his promises. He should know how many shifts he needs to keep a float and which days you can claim them. Missing a shift because you made plans shouldn't be an issue. Just don't have so many plans that it becomes one. Everything is a sign of a bad planner and you not being important or him not setting his foot down at work. If your a slave with no control of your work hours, you should find another work asap.

[haleexox]

You have a point. But it’s not even like he was suppose to work on that set date. It’s a day off for him. But he then chose to pick up another shift instead of going through with his plans with me🤷🏾‍♀️

[ArrowheadSW]

Well, people do get busy with the lives and obligations. It could be a lack of commitment to you, or it could be that he agrees to do something before he realizes that he has other obligations for that time. If that is the case, with other commitments, he needs to get more organized with his time. Not cool to keep cancelling out.

I know a lady who is like that with boyfriends. (She and I never dated.) She always cancels out and the guys get mad and end it with her.

[MrCommodore]

He may be interested in you, but there could be other factors which make him do this, so don't write him off based on that.

[haleexox]

You’re right. There could be a lot of factors. Some that I may know about and some that I don’t

[DarkWinterNights]

It sounds like he may have someone else he is pursuing and he may or may not have made up his mind on you yet.

[haleexox]

I’m starting to feel like he just personally never cared. And only wanted me around whenever he was bored or something.

[Dannymadness]

He’s either not into you and doesn’t want to say, or he’s just a mess and is super unreliable (or both!) Save yourself for someone who won’t mess you around

[NamerOfStars]

I don't know about INTEREST, but there certainly doesn't seem to be much regard for you or your time.

[TacosRAwesome]

Unless he works certain jobs (eg doctor or nurse), you're lowish priority to him.

[haleexox]

He doesn’t

[Enochian]

He has a life also. Don’t overthink. Even things come up in a guy’s life. You say it’s 50/50, he shows up, sometimes he doesn’t. Just don’t force things and overthink the situation. Let it play out and things will work out for the best

[ShyGuy201]

He’s probably not that into you but doesn’t have the balls to tell you.

[Ke_vin]

I thing he not really interested in u he’s just using u maybe to say to his friends look at this hot girl I got I think it’s best u move on and get someone who appreciates you

[dray995]

Either too busy or he doesn’t care enough about you to want to hang out with you. I don’t know which it is. You’d have to talk to him to find out what is going on.

[Ousaf1]

He isn't interested in you and he probably sees you as just a friend. There might be a small possibility that this man is actually the president of America cuz then I would understand it.

[Anonymous]

It means he probably works for Spirit Airlines because they cancel on everybody nearly all the time.

[haleexox]

Lmao 🤣

[DonkeyDan]

Sounds like his other girlfriend decided she wants to do something with him that day!

[haleexox]

😳 I don’t think he has a girlfriend. Lol but most likely has other options

[KrakenAttackin]

You are chasing Chad Thundercock who has plenty of options. When he gets a better offer he cancels. Why shouldn't he, he has a phone full of women who will fuck him silly with a phone call.

Don't like it? Stop chasing Chad Thundercock.

[nickaboy]

Chad Thundercock Peaked in high school

[KrakenAttackin]

@nickaboy Chad still fucks his way through legions of women. Chad can fuck your wife an hour after he meets her.

[nickaboy]

Im ahead of that I am good man so no women want me

[KrakenAttackin]

@nickaboy So stop being a "good man".

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

he's just not in to you.

once in a while is ok, but, if it's non stop, he's not in to you. real guys. domt play games

sorry hun

[TheFlak38]

now you have a slight idea of how it is to be a man.

[haleexox]

Are you saying this is something a man experiences regularly themselves?

[mysteryuser1244]

What I think you should do is schedule a movie date to go see a movie and see if he reschedules if so he might not be up to certain things that day.

[noohair]

You are a back up person. Not number 1.

[haleexox]

Damn 😞

[ohshee]

Kinda sounds like Lack of EVERYTHING..

[karaspara]

You aren't his priority sorry move on

[he-takes-a-part]

Not lack but priority of interest

[nickaboy]

Sounds like your Just a basic girl that goes after the wrong kind of guys Just to be able to complain about it

[haleexox]

Completely wrong. You don’t know anything about me. So don’t be so quick to judge. You don’t even know the full extent of the situation to even say that

[nickaboy]

You are going after a guy that lets you down half of the time you are the problem

[haleexox]

How am I the problem? Because I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt? Lol. You don’t know anything in regards to my situation

[nickaboy]

Cause you are chasing a guy that doesn't want you or obviously will go to the next after one fuck

[haleexox]

Well how exactly would I know all of that? Clearly he makes it seem like it’s one thing one sec and then another, another sec. And I’ve been told by people that they think he likes me but it’s still questionable

[nickaboy]

Any guy that actually wants love from you will do at least 3 things what will make you consider him a stalker

[haleexox]

Loool 😂 not necessarily in a stalker way

[nickaboy]

Exactly those 3 things are
1 display actual interest
2. Help you when you feel down
3. Compliment you for no reason

[haleexox]

But that’s the thing. If he knows that I’m feeling down. He’ll act concerned. And it seems like there’s some interest there but then again I’m not sure. Maybe he just wants one thing, or I’m just someone he acknowledges when he’s bored or something. He would also compliment me randomly but not consistently

[msc545]

usually means he met someone else.

[Hillary86]

He’s not that serious or he’s not into you.

[Avicenna]

Or he's flaky

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's a player.

[Sketti2021]

Probably