Guys my age don’t seem interested in me while older guys do, why?

[Anonymous]

I’m about to turn 21 and the last boyfriend I had was in high school, for a while I enjoyed being single and had no interest in dating but now I’d like to entertain the idea of potentially having a boyfriend again and getting into a more serious relationship. Ideally I’m looking for someone in my age range (21-25), but any guy who has expressed interest in me is typically not in that age range (usually 27+). While I’m not against dating older men (as I have been with older men) I do feel like there will be an obvious difference in interests and wants, and I do want a more serious relationship (not just sleeping with each other). I do look a little bit older than I am (people typically assume I’m around 23), but I don’t see why that would be a turn off for someone who’s 21-25. I’m 5’6, 125 lbs, somewhere between strawberry blonde/red head (turn off?), blue eyes, fair (turn off?), some freckles on my nose/cheeks/shoulders but not that many, with curves but leaning more towards a slim build. Could it be that my age range just doesn’t find my looks conventionally attractive? I tend to be a little more shy in certain social settings but are definitely social when I’m out at bars/clubs/parties (which is where most of these guys are), but it still seems like they aren’t interested. In the least conceited way possible I know I’m not ugly or unattractive, it just seems like I miss the mark for guys closer to my age. Is this just a string of bad luck or should I shift my ideal age range to older as it seems like there is more interest there anyways?

[ohshee]

Know the person that you just described is very beautiful person to me I'm also an empath so I can feel your words you're very beautiful and poetic and love different ways and he saved a lot more in the words that you didn't say I actually like that type of girl that you just described in the both of the things that you said we're turn off. Are turn on for me you sound like you're very mature you sound like you know what you want I think you had lots of passion inside that you would just like to share and no matter the age of the guy he's going to be a lucky guy. I had dated girls all different ages. What does 15 and 1/2 * 16 I lost my virginity to a 19 year old girl that was in college and losing my virginity because you're upset me piss me off because the first three times that we had sex I thought was terrible she loved it so I lost my virginity and sex really sucked as far as I was concerned and then I was going to go to hell for not being married LOL the right before she had to go back to school she called me up and wanted me to come over this weekend so I had a whole week and think about it because I wanted do you have the best sex ever so this time I went into it a whole different way and I made it all about her and when we finally finished we both had an out-of-body experiences we both saw fireworks and she told me that I was better than any guy that you'd ever done at school but anyway my point is after that I went out with a 49 year-old woman for over a year for me that was just beautiful she told me that you really like you a lot she told me that I treated her better than anybody has ever treated her she like the way that I touch and talk to her and made her feel and both of us not speaking about it do we both need it was what it was and a year later she told me that she was going to get back with your husband which I didn't even know she had a husband but you're doing that she introduced me to a 34 year old friend of hers and that was fun too while it last but Common Sense tells you then it's just for a. Of time so for me otherwise perfectly beautiful

[ChrisMaster69]

Could be a multitude of reasons, yes could be purely down to luck.

how you are dressed, how your confidence comes over can all make a difference.

Also if you are mature for your age, this can put off guys. I know when I was 20’s some girls I like were pretty much out of reach as they were more emotionally mature than me, making them just not the type to approach.

I would really not get to worried over actual age and go with who you like and are attracted to, and have a connection with.

[ChrisMaster69]

@ Pretty Pink Anon thank you for MHG most appreciated

[na2398]

I don't think your looks put them off. A few of them might potentially see you as out of their league while the others are still discovering themselves and not ready for relationships.

And you wouldn't want a guy to pursue you solely because of your looks. You want something serious too, and it takes time. :) Trust me, I've never dated anyone and wouldn't wanna get into any relationships for lust. I want genuine connections too. :)

Don't worry at all, the genuine ones would appreciate your personality, character and presence. :)

[FinalFantasyBro]

I think it has to be the thought of you being out of their league because usually guys around mine and your age are stilll looking in their selves and discovering their interest in women they want. While older men tend to easily figure out the sort of women they prefer, but if you really want a guy 21 through 25 I recommend trying to go to places usually us guys in that age range would mostly be at like the amusement park or trying to go to a bar to watch sports.

[Pj1981]

Your description seems to be the type that caught my eye when I was your age. Actually a slim girl with red or lighter strawberry blonde hair has always gotten my attention. I don't know why but it does.

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[Birdlegs]

Guys our age are becoming more shy and don’t talk to girls as much from what I hear but I meannnn if you want a guy your age 💍

[noohair]

Age is irrelevant. Don't get stuck on age, you might miss the perfect guy for you.
What is wrong with blue eyes and blond hair.
I have blue eyes and when I had hair, it was reddish blond.

[SamFromFL]

It may have to deal with how you look as guys are very visual when deciding who is attractive. Do you get looks and feel desired by guys?

[Anonymous]

Be glad that as a girl you're not expected to make the first move or hit on guys

[IncognitoBandito]

Older guys probably like the freckles

[Iron_Man]

Many women say it’s like that

[888theGreat]

Guys like young play things

[humanearth]

Who knows why