Why am I not getting any interest from decent men?

[Anonymous]

The only men who approach me and ask for my number are roadmen and drug dealers. I can’t marry them. I never get any interest from decent men. Wtf? Like why?

[oliver4love]

Mostly decent boy's have shy nature.. And if in profile Pic it's you.. Any cute decent boy feel nervous or shy for propose a beautiful girl like you for friendship or love.. Otherside You mentioned the category of boy's (roadmen and drug dealers) that propose you frankly have no respect for girl's mostly have only sexual feelings..

[boggboss]

They are the ones that tend to be confidant enough to ask a women out yes there are others that would be stand up citizens but when u expect a guy to ask you out and many women think the same as you the market becomes flipped with less guys doing it these days and the amount off women out there waiting is super high

[jshm2]

You probably aren't decent. Not saying that to simply piss you off, but you need to understand that you are as much game as they are.

To be honest if you're being approached by roadmen and drug dealers, I doubt you're marriage material anyway. Else you need to do a total image overhaul.

[Asker]

You’re calling a virgin girl who never drank a sip of alcohol in her life, hardly gets out the house, never goes out unless its for work, only spends time with family, cooks, cleans, wears modest clothes, has never even smoked non-marriage material? Whatf is marriage material to you these days? A hoe who sleeps around and stays out partying?

[Ke_vin]

@Sarahr123 ur are definitely marriage material the what I look for in a girl and that’s quit hard to find in Trinidad who ever has you should be greatful

[lightbulb27]

have you been hurt badly in the past? what you project is dark... fear. what you project is what you draw. if that's true as you look through your past wounds... put effort into healing your heart, wounds, and you're chances improve drawing better.

otherwise, is it availability of quaility people.

[ToastyOats]

If I've learned on thing from life it that whenever someone is totally baffled and also angry about a situation, they will also be offended by anyone telling them the truth or giving them actual solutions to their problem.
If you really want a good answer to this it will undoubtedly require you to be open to ideas you would not normally be open too.
For me to answer this question it will also need me to have more details about you. If your serious about a solution please reply.

[Asker]

Of course. I can give you details. What exactly would you like to know?

[ToastyOats]

What country do you live in?

[Asker]

England.

[ToastyOats]

You need to dress and act like the man you want. Here's the part that might be tough. Most white men are very loyal to their race. That's probably why you are scraping the bottom of the barrel when it comes to the indigenous population.
If your only attracting men of your people that are unwholsome then Im not sure.

[Asker]

I live around all Asians. I’m not going for White men. We also stick to our race. I’m talking about my own men 😂

[Asker]

I’m from London and live around pretty much all my own people. I don’t want to marry out of culture anyway. I’m looking into trapping an Indian only.

[ToastyOats]

I don't blame ya! 😅. My best advice then would be, seek out older men and women you can respect and have them help you screen your applicants.
If you don't have any elders like that, then find them! First step. I think your awesome, you'll do fine.

[ToastyOats]

Plus, any social networking you do will be a big plus for your future husband whenever you get it toghether. Im from America, by the way, the most culturally corrupted country on earth. Young people here are having to do way more on their own than any generation before them. Its okay, we will make it.

[ohshee]

I think your in the wrong place. Because you were absolutely beautiful and I don't understand 5 more minutes or not trying to communicate with you I know I would be

[Anonymous]

Decent men believe the feminist propaganda and don’t want to “assault” women by daring to approach them in public

see what happened? Now girls r left with the assholes. That’s what happens when you “teach men not to rape” the bad boys don’t give a fuck and the good boys get so self conscious they can’t approach

[Still-alive]

time for you to do some approaching yourself miss

you know how the saying goes right?

[MrCommodore]

It may be due to the places where you are socialising

[Asker]

I don’t really socialise with you g single men. Road men and drug dealers approach me randomly on the streets when I’m on my way to work or something.

[MrCommodore]

Oh I understand what you mean now. I'm not sure that decent men will hang out in the same streets as drug dealers, and perhaps some road workers are decent men.

Obviously you are seeking someone from a respected trade to marry.

[Asker]

By road men I was meaning boys who just hang around on the streets all day and are unemployed. Since I am 23 now I do beed to start thinking about prospects for marriage. I always hear that men are supposed to chase and woo women but no decent man seems to be interested. I don’t know if they are shy or just not interested.

[MrCommodore]

Probably shy.

[MrCommodore]

Is that profile picture actually you?

[Asker]

Yes of course it is

[MrCommodore]

Ok, I asked as quite often people use fake pictures here. You look very pretty, I suspect nice decent men would be interested in you, but meeting them will be the problem.

[Asker]

Yes I am aware that I am physically attractive but it doesn’t seem to do much. Even when I have indirectly indicated to people that I am interested they seem to speak very formally. Why can’t they be direct? I mean I feel shy.

[MrCommodore]

When you say indirectly indicated, what do you mean? I ask, as men (including myself) often seem unable to read signs of interest from a woman.

[Asker]

As in I stalked this guy non stop on LinkedIn for a month and then he must have got creeped out and blocked me (I had no pic up either) and then I ordered from his company and made him deliver something to my place so I could see him in person and then although he was sweet over the dms where I gave him feedback he just never took it further than that. How much more could I have done to show I was interested? I got so pissed off that I deleted Instagram. That was the only boy I have been interested in in many years. But then again I heard he is a very conservative and religious guy.

[Asker]

He must have known for sure that I was the same girl because of my name. I don’t know why he wouldn’t be interested.

[MrCommodore]

Yes but this was through his place of work, he probably could be fired if he misunderstood a message and flirted with a girl who was not interested. Conservative religious men are usually more reserved and not as forward.

[Asker]

When he made the delivery he did not even say a word. My sister said he was probably shy. He did speak more over the dms but no indication of actual romantic interest. I was also kind of scared to make much more of a direct effort in case I got brutally rejected. 😂 I just can’t get it off my mind now.

[MrCommodore]

Well based on your one picture, you're definitely beautiful looking, so I doubt guys would brutally reject you. I think the problem is maybe your body language isn't giving strong enough signs for guys to approach. This is something you can fix.

[SomeStoner]

Look at places where people do hobbies you like, meet people with mutual interests. If the only place you can meet men is the drug dealer infested streets of whatever trashy city center you're in it's not surprising.

[Ke_vin]

I’m a decent guy and I’m very shy I like a girl and wasn’t able to go talk to her so some other guy did and now I’m regretting my decision for not going to talk to her

[Anonymous]

Respect for that mindset.

Try to wear differently maybe your clothes are slutty and you act bitchy so be more class I don't say wear expensive things or act as celebrity but be more gentle and wear classy clothes. Good luck

[Asker]

I dress very classy. I don’t even reveal any part of my body. My clothes are even relatively loose.

[Opinion Owner]

Then another city another place different friends. Don't rush it he will find you

[ToastyOats]

That's good for attracting better men these days.

[Ailaw22]

Depends in the kind of area of you live by discription it looks like roadside romeos approach you 😂Is there any coworkers who likes you or maybe visiting a decent place can help you find gentleman

[backblueblack22]

Maybe you need to do some approaching yourself. Like saying hello or something

[BeachLuvR97]

You are a girl of exotic beauty! The answer is simple. You stick good guys in the "friend zone."

[Asker]

I don’t get the chance to do that. I hardly know any guys and the ones I come in contact with don’t even show any interest to begin with.

[BeachLuvR97]

It sounds like you look right past them, then.

[Anonymous]

Most normal decent men aren’t going to approach you even if they find you very attractive. This is what the dating world is like these days.

[Anonymous]

Get off you butt and do some work first, then you can actually complain.

[FilmGuy93]

What sort of people do you surround yourself with?

[Asker]

Orthodox, religious, conservative idiots.

[FilmGuy93]

I see... that was a very telling answer. The reason you're attracting drug dealers and other miscreants is because you regard the law abiding people in your life as bland and stupid. You come across as rebellious, so you are attracting other rebellious people.

[Asker]

How are people who like honour killings and women wearing tents law abiding?

[cloud9vortex1234]

You just answered your own question. Just because you're around those people doesn't mean you're someone different underneath the surface. By your answer, it sounds like you're a Wild Woman trying to fit into something that's not you. It seems like your attracting those people. Society where you live really forces you into a corner? Am I right?

[Asker]

@cloud9vortex1234 well, I have never gotten along with the Orthodox people I was forced to be around because of the kind of family I was born into. I live in London but around very Orthodox people. I have always been described as rebellious because I always broke all the rules and dressed differently. They’d be covered from head to toe and I’d be in mini-skirts and mini dresses. I have always felt suffocated by their cult and wanted to escape it but it doesn’t mean I’ll marry a drug dealer. I want a decent father for my kids just not a religious one.

[FilmGuy93]

@Sarahr123 It really depends on what the law of the land is where you live. But that's not the point. The point is that you are surrounded with people who aren't the kind of person you are and other people are picking up on that.

[cloud9vortex1234]

No, I was just going to type that. I'm not recommending marrying a Drug Dealer that at all. I don't think you have to be Super Religious to find some Genuinely Good People. I think you need to break those rules to be happy. It doesn't mean your a Bad Person either.

[BeachLuvR97]

Umm, conservative people are not idiots. Conservatives are usually people who have learned from their own experiences & those of others, and they live in the real world. If your attitude is that conservatives are idiots, then you deserve to be single, for the sake of the guy.

[Asker]

@BeachLuvR97 No! Islamic religion for instance is conservative. Would you allow your daughter to marry one?

[BeachLuvR97]

What are you talking about? They're almost all pro-Palestine Democrats.

[Asker]

@BeachLuvR97 I didn’t mean conservatice in a political sense. I meant conservative as in backward, misogynistic, disgusting, pathetic, close-minded, religious, indoctrinated idiots.

[BeachLuvR97]

I think that you mean "extremist," then. Your definition doesn't fit "conservative" in a non-political sense, either.

[BeachLuvR97]

Forgive me, but I feel like you're being more narrow-minded than the people whom you're calling idiots.

[Asker]

@BeachLuvR97 are you a Muslim?

[BeachLuvR97]

Absolutely not. I am a former atheist who now follows the teachings of Christ from the Bible.

[Asker]

@BeachLuvR97 well then you don’t know anything about the cult. There is no such thing as extremist. If anyone calls themselves a Muslim they are extreme regardless of how liberal they’d like to say they are. Christianity is another cult. All the Abrahamic religions caused the most bloodshed in the world.

[FilmGuy93]

@Sarahr123 agreed. The only push back I would give you about the cult point is to say that Christianity expressly tells it's followers to interact inclusively with non-believer society, while Islam and Judaism tend to separate from non-believer society. The are plenty of separatist sects of Christianity though.

[888theGreat]

Because most men don't find Indian women attractive and odd

[Asker]

Most Indian men marry Indian women and I live around Indians so your point is invalid

[Asker]

Lool never mind looking at the fat hideous thing you are I can see why you’re so bitter

[Bklynbadboy12]

Maybe the decent guys are intimidated

[Browneye57]

You choose poorly.

[Asker]

How can I choose when there are no options?

[Browneye57]

Oh, now we're gonna start the victim-claiming routine. Sure. Geebus.

[sponge-bob]

Whats are roadmen?