Why do men never develop interest in me?

[Anonymous]

God, does a girl always have to show some interest first? I’m not fat, I’m pretty. Sure, I’m also shy and awkward in social settings, and I don’t really make friends. It seems like a girl always has to be in a guy’s friend group to be even remotely considered a potential girlfriend.

[EllaNella]

if you're so shy, maybe they don't even notice you? you have to put yourself out there, you can't expect everything to just fall into your lap

[Adaeva]

If you are young and pretty, guys are interested. If guys are not interested, you are not pretty. However, if you are pretty and think guys are not interested, guy that are don't count because they are not tall, dark, and handsome,

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣 so you don't want to say anything, do anything. Yet you think he should fall madly in love with you... makes sense. 🤣

[Asker]

Other girls on here say guys hit on them all the time.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, now why do you think that is?

[Asker]

You tell me.

[Opinion Owner]

These other women whether you choose to see it are putting effort towards men. I'm not suggesting all or maybe even half of these women have any real interest in any of these guys. But they skillfully know how to manipulate them to achieve a desired reaction. I always say no guy ever really makes the first move. Women always make the first move. How subtle it is depends on her and how much she wants his attention. It's akin to fishing. Women Bait the hook and just wait for him to bite. If he doesn't bite she changes tactics subtlety till he does. It could be as simple as a smile or a provocative movement (I don't want to go as far as to say pose). The key is plausible deniability. Women want to be able to deny that she ever did anything to gain his attention. She wants to be able to be convincing that it was all his idea.
This is why men lowkey don't really trust any woman. We know bottom line their deceptive nature. But their whole life is spent honing it. But we all also know this is just the way your gender is wired. And that generally it's not malicious but rather a point of pride. Any experienced guy just learns to ACCEPT this fact about your gender.
Hope this helps you. 🙂

[Asker]

So, I can just smile at a guy and I should expect him to do what? Do I have to smile at him often? I did actually smile at a guy one time when I was in middle school because he caught me looking at him, and he later on asked me to a dance, but I haven’t been that way in a long time.

Oh, and what sort of provocative movement or pose are u suggesting?

[Opinion Owner]

It's little things playing with your hair. Licking your lips... I guess lol. I mean I'm not a woman. It'd be best to ask your fellow women where the dividing line is. I purposely stayed away from the term "pose". Because you don't want it to seem deliberate. The point is to make him think it was his idea. Guys are stupid like that lol. Women draws us in without even knowing they're doing it. We think we're just interested of our own volition.
I'm not sure where the line is. But if you cross it guys might think you're just a tease or a slut.
My advice, play around with it.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Because men prefer virgins...

[Asker]

First, I am a virgin.

How about you stop inserting your agenda into questions that have nothing to do with it?

[JohnK123]

Well yeah
we have to know who the f u are before we date you haha

[Anonymous]

How long have you been single now

[Asker]

Since 1994.

[Asker]

The dreadful day of my birth.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry to hear that, have you tried online dating or dating apps?

[Asker]

Yea, recently for a month or so. I don’t feel that dating apps were right for me. And I didn’t enjoy meeting people.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah because most of society thinks and I agree as well, that the average woman has way more options on dating apps than the average guy does

[Asker]

I did have a lot of people liking me.

[Opinion Owner]

And let me guess, you just didn't like or just were not attracted to those guys in return?

[Asker]

Well, I used it for about a month. I got about 600 guys that swiped right. I didn’t swipe right on the majority of them, and of the ones I did swipe right on, about half never messaged me (but I was also on a small island, so a lot of the guys were only there on vacation.) I met up for a walk with two guys that were living very close to me, but I didn’t really enjoy the experience. It was pretty boring - nothing like in the movies. And I hate meeting new people anyway, so I probably won’t be doing that ever again.

[Opinion Owner]

So the attraction wasn't mutual?

[Asker]

Not really. One didn’t look as nice as he did in the pictures, and with both I felt like there was no spark.

[Opinion Owner]

Also most of society and people agree that it's more shocking to hear of a woman reaching a certain age still being single than compared to a guy, still single as in never had anyone or never dated anyone.

Probably because girls are the ones that get pursued and hit on

[Asker]

Guys in real life never ask me out.