When a guy says he is attracted to you, but says he respects you too much to have sex?

[Anonymous]

I slept with one of my friends a while back, we flirt like crazy still to the point that our friends think we are having consistent sex and he likes to bring up the 1 time we did have sex a lot. So when one of our friends asked him if we would have sex again, he said he has to much respect for me but is attracted to me… what does that even mean?

[PolishedMonkey]

He’s having sex with all your other friends now and the time he had sex with you is what is guys call “getting your foot in the door”…. IE we hit the old moped or sacrificial lamb, or whatever you want to refer to her as, some call it “taking one for the team” which unfortunately is a necessary evil, but he takes one for the team so that this moped goes on and on about how great he was in the act of sexing until, at some point all of her girlfriend either become curious and call him up OR they get so sick of hearing said “moped” dribble on and on about the one time that she was fortunate enough to find a guy to have sex with that they just throw the guy a “mercy” (another topic for another day) in hopes that the moped will find out and maybe learn not to dribble on about her sexscapades 24:7 to anyone unsuspecting enough to get caught in an elevator with her for 3+ Floors or anyone unlucky enough to end up in a line at the dmv in close proximity to this poor girl who’s got zero awareness of what’s “inappropriate conversation” for the line at the DMV. Here’s a freebie though. Talking to strangers about “getting busy” with your boy toy is NEVER appropriate, even, dare I say, on a public forum.. hint hint hint

[Asker]

Than why do you use this forum to reply to inappropriate questions? Surely a 52 year old like yourself has better things to do, no?

[20yearsolder]

Let me ask you, do you think the sex was good? Do you think that he thinks the sex was good? If he had sex with you once, there has to be another reason other than the one he's giving

[Asker]

What that the sex was bad? Haha we were drunk we don’t really remember it

[20yearsolder]

If you're willing to fuck him, and he is turning you down. There has to be a reason. You two need to get drunk together again and see what happened

[Asker]

Yeah the reason is he doesn’t wanna have sex hahaha

[20yearsolder]

Is he having sex with anybody else?

[20yearsolder]

Yeah he doesn't want to have sex, with you.

[Asker]

Yes believe he is, thanks for your input

[DonkeyDan]

Well that just sounds like a nice way of saying "well I had sex with her once, and I don't want to have sex with her again."

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

So you're friends with benefits with him...

And friends with benefits if for pathetic losers, with no lives

[Asker]

Nope just friends had sex once before we became friends

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Thats called friends with benefits

if you fuck a "friend", that's called friends with benefits

[Asker]

It is if you continue doing it which we haven’t

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

No, it's not. You fucked a dude, that was your friend, that's called friends with benefits

It'd be different if he hadn't been a friend and you had JUST met him in a bar that night

[Asker]

Dictionary
Definitions from Oxford Languages
friend with benefits
phrase of friend
INFORMAL
a friend with whom one has an occasional and casual sexual relationship.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

ONE NIGHT STAND: PERSON WHO FUCKS ANOTHER, THAT WASN'T ALREADY A FRIEND

YOU FUCKED A FRIEND, THEREFORE, IT IS A friends with benefits

YOU ARE A PATHETIC LOSER, WITH NO LIFE