Telling a guy he doesn't satisfy you sexually?

[Anonymous]

How does that make him feel?

There's nothing wrong with his size etc, he's just a boring and selfish lover. How would it make you feel if your girlfriend told you this? Would you try to be more exciting? Or shut her out?

[Axel101]

Well if you say to me: "You don't satisfy my" then I'd be pretty hurt, I mean you can tell him, but you should say it so that he doesn't get hurt but the sex gets better, try doing some things you normally wouldn't do or try longer foreplay

[Asker]

I said something and he shut me out. I've tried before to get him to do other stuff and be attentive to me but it never worked. I didn't mean to bruise his ego, it's just frustrating after awhile of not being satisfied also.

[Axel101]

I can understand, I can also understand he got hurt a bit. It might sound weird but if he "comes" to quickly maybe he shouls try thinking about other things when he is close to coming.. I'm not ashamed to admit that when I "come" early that I usually think of something different to be able to continue for a little longer. For instance, I'll start thinking about football or something, it helps LOL.

[Asker]

Thank you Axel :), I was trying to avoid being confrontational, I told him that he shies away from the things I like and I feel as if my needs aren't being met along with his.

He got pretty upset and starting berating me for what I wanted, then told me goodnight.

[Axel101]

Hm he was just upset because he probably thought he was pleasing you and it might have come like a shock to him that you weren't enjoying it as much as he thought you were. But if you trust eachother enough then you can talk about it with no problem, ofcourse he has to come around first and realise that this is something that needs to be discussed, wether he likes it or not :)

[Abylim]

It can be offensive, but its definitely worth saying something!
Sex should be a mutual thing. Find a diplomatic way to get your point across, but stick to your guns.

[Asker]

I said something and he shut me out. I've tried before to get him to do other stuff and be attentive to me but it never worked. I didn't mean to bruise his ego, it's just frustrating after awhile of not being satisfied also.

[Anonymous]

Have you told him that you'd like to try something new in bed. Has he asked you what your fantasy is, and or have you asked his. If it still doesn't work, then tell him, you just aren't in to him anymore. You don't need to tell him it's because he's not performing well, even though I find it hard to believe you'd break up with someone over not being pleased sexually, isn't that a little shallow?

[Asker]

I never said I'd leave him. I tried everything, he's just not that type of guy I have realized. After I told him that I don't feel fulfilled he shut me out and berated me, haven't spoken all day.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, it's just something that doesn't need to be said. You don't sound like a very nice person/girl

[Asker]

I feel as if it has to be said if your partner isn't reciprocating in the bedroom. I want to be completely satisfied also.

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said, I don't think it needs to be said

[ImaSloth]

I would never have this issue... I'd just eat her out like a boss, and if she did say that... I probably ate her clit off by accident..

[Asker]

I like that lol hahahahah

[ImaSloth]

That's just how we do it up here, a cold long winter doesn't have to be cold ;) lol

[icantwait]

There are probably better ways of telling him he needs to improve without shattering his ego completely.

Definitely should be addressed, just not like that

[Sithis]

Never had any sexual experience. If my performance wasn't satisfactory then I'd try my best to make it better.

[PineappleBreath]

Just sleep with another guy to get your point across that he sucks and you had to go elsewhere to get off

[livewire63]

The sex won't get better if you don't tell him

[username3]

break up with him...

[Schnikies]

Then he will never learn, she has an opportunity to teach him whatever she likes

[username3]

i could never be with a man like that ! sex should be mutual , i was just speaking from my own perspective but you probably are right...

[bubble_tea]

it's worth a try