Why do some guys string girls along?

[Justneedtokno]

we understand they are good guys out there but it’s hard to navigate the good guys from the fact boys. You start talking you think that everything‘s good and then boom they had a ghost you I don’t wanna relationship hidden quit or just confused.

The issue that I have on this site is a lot of guys sit there and think that women are just out there (yolo) screwing whoever when really we want a real relationship we try it out but then these type of situations happen. now we’re just ended up with hurt feelings add it to our body counts and closed off and guarded to men

Should women start doing the same things as men string them along until next guy comes along that we think better?

[Miristheiss]

Some guys are selfish and have low character.

If you are a party girl and want to go out and drink and meets lots of strangers and want to often go home to bed with some stranger then keep at it.

For the girls who don't want to sleep around and constantly meet new guys... strangers but want a special relationship with one person... it would be best to wait a long time to have sex... to slow down the speed that the dating goes (it's been 2 dates... I have to let him feel me up... it has been 3 dates... we must have sex).

Guys that just want sex... they should be dating the first type of girl I mentioned. If you take it slowly then those guys will most likely have moved on and found them a girl that will put out. Guys that are after a relationship and a bond with one woman will keep dating and courting you.

If you put out too soon... yeah you'll most likely end up with the first guy who will want to move on to other women and your body count will go up and you'll become less attractive to the guy that wants a long term relationship.

People will tell you it is "empowering" and liberating but not for every woman. It is "liberating" for those that want to get drunk all the time and party and to sleep around. Not so much if you are looking for long term.

[TheSpaceGnome]

"we understand they are good guys out there"

Indeed.

"but it’s hard to navigate the good guys from the fact (fuck?) boys."

Be friends first, solves that problem.

"You start talking you think that everything‘s good and then boom they had a ghost you I don’t wanna relationship hidden quit or just confused."

I'd be confused enough to bail too if a girl was rushing it, and I'm nice.

"The issue that I have on this site is a lot of guys sit there and think that women are just out there (yolo) screwing whoever when really we want a real relationship we try it out but then these type of situations happen."

Then don't rush it.

"now we’re just ended up with hurt feelings add it to our body counts and closed off and guarded to men"

Wait.. so you are just screwing whoever?

"Should women start doing the same things as men string them along until next guy comes along that we think better?"

No, women should stop humping people they barely know.

[Justneedtokno]

But what if you weren’t rushing at all. And you did try to start off as friends but it kind of get more physical. Now They are just gone. And you’re just supposed to act like nothings ever happened. And it was meaningless

[TheSpaceGnome]

The point is if you end up in that end situation, you got physical too fast.

You should know literally everything about a person before banging them, so you already know which guys aren't worth it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

it usually takes like 3 years to get to know someone.

[Toldol2]

We women are ready to be loved since We are kids. Meeting someone you like is very random. Men don’t ghost forever and they come back once they figure things out.

[Justneedtokno]

But why does it take you to leave an order you to figure it out why can’t you work it out with me

[Toldol2]

Men look for efficiency so they are singletaskers » . It is important to respect this biological difference.

[Justneedtokno]

Well in the end it left me feeling like he got what he wanted and I was just stopping part on his journey

[Toldol2]

It is very clumsy of him but technically it is a pause. Any man is immediately ready for a relationship right from the start.

[Justneedtokno]

I’m not ready but I would have like the option. You know. We were vibing so well. Oh well

[Toldol2]

I get it. But you will get to observe them better and realise they all do the same things.

[Alyssa11]

Guys don't string you along unless you have low standards. I recommend watching this:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/whhGjg2h5Lk

[Justneedtokno]

I’ve see this. Different circumstances it’s ok there are just Somme bad guys in the world

[Jamie05rhs]

That dude is 100% correct!

[Alyssa11]

@Jamie05rhs There ya go! :)

[Lionman95]

I think the main problem many guys have when they start getting in context with women is that they don´t what they want, they just wanna try things out.
It may sound sexist but from my experience especially in school experiments boys where most times trying things out before they really thought things through while girls were thinking things through before they tried something out.
Looking at my own dating experience and probably some guys were similar, we guys start dating before actually no what we want. Nearly every guy probably dreams of getting laid someday.
The reason guys string girls along is because some of us are rivals towards each other and we want to look as the best man.
That´s also why there is all this alpha/beta/omega talk.

[Justneedtokno]

So if you don’t want what we want then why don’t you just not try to try with us and just be with those I guess they’re out there. Y’all get upset about us putting guyfriend zone but you do the same things

[PositiveNote]

"Stringing along" and afraid of a relationship—that's what is up. Could be various reasons why, but guys aren't serious at all if they are taking advantage of your attention.

[Justneedtokno]

I gave him the option of just being friends

[Shy_Steve]

I think you Girls should be more upfront and honest, I understand you don't want to upset or make us Guys angry but most of you Girls don't even tell us when you do like us so us are just Guessing all the time and that can lead us to making the wrong move or missing our opportunity.

[Justneedtokno]

Umm not all girls We tell you we like you what you do with that is up to you

[coffeismytea]

if you were upfront and he's doing that, he's an idiot, but even idiots have reasons, ask him.
If you weren't upfront and are expecting miracles of guesswork, well, you shouldn't expect anything.

[Justneedtokno]

I offered to be his friend

[coffeismytea]

well, he's probably pissed off... When I get friend-zoned I normally cut relations altogether, often immediately. I am a very honest person, so, even if they ask why, I'd say: "because I'm not interested in being 'just friends'" and that's it.

You can still ask him though...

[coffeismytea]

by the way, to explain better, I'm more towards the idea of getting to know each-other, but if my initial attraction is solely sexual, well, being friends is out of question, I'll just move on.

[Justneedtokno]

No he wasn’t friend zoned he didn’t want a relationship. What else was supposed to do

[coffeismytea]

I think the best thing I can say to you with the information provided is to just move on, forget about it.

[boggboss]

Some women do sting men along lol thats what the bases if being a second option in the friend zone us I'm not saying it's right when anyone does it just that it happens to many people guys and girls

[Justneedtokno]

The issue is guys do it after sex We don’t test the waters like that. We just completely put you to the side so we don’t mess up anything. And having a guy that is a friend that can equally just talk to you about other guys also helps with things like this I wouldn’t think that you guys want us especially if you have a girl

[Anonymous]

It's really not hard to tell good guys from the bad ones. All you have to do I'd take yourself off that pedestal you crave being on and observe does his actions match his words. But most women think having their ego stroked is love. And in the end they deserve what they get. Sorry not sorry.

[jasco]

Take things slow. Eventually his true colors will come out

[Wiredone]

Actually I know women who also string guys along. Why? I don't know. If you're not really interested in a person just let them know.

[noohair]

As a guy, it is not just men doing it. Stay sincere and you will find the right guy.

[Anonymous]

Actually, women DO string men along until the next taller, richer, better-looking one comes along. This is called hypergamy.

[Justneedtokno]

No we don’t We try to stick it out until you leave us

[Opinion Owner]

Nope.

[Gwenhwyfar]

To get laid