Nothing hurts like it when you realize the person you're trying to date and pursue has no romantic interest in you and you've been strung along the whole time. Do girls do this to test the guy, or is it more to be cruel because they don't like him in return? Or might the reason be that she doesn't have the courage to tell him flat out that she's not interested in him?
To be fair, I know guys are known to do this to. Have you ever deliberately or accidentally strung someone along?
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I have had girlfriends who did this to guys at some point. I felt sorry for those guys because they kept chasing after the girls and got hurt in the end. Different girls string the guys along for different reasons. Some of them are:
1) Some girls like to be the center of attention. I knew a girl who kept chasing after a guy who was engaged. She rejected him in the past but once she knew he had a fiancee, she couldn't swallow the fact that he had moved on and lived his life. So, she decided she WANTS him now. She kept flirting with him and use all the tricks she knows of. Luckily, the guy was very polite but did not give in. This is an example of a girl who can't accept not being the center of attention.
She will keep on using all the tricks until you give in. Once she has you, she will drop you and will lose interest. Such girls feel empty inside and they tend to reflect their misery onto other people. They thrive for drama in their lives. They are immature, irresponsible and don't think of the consequences of their acts.
Unfortunately, girls can be very smart in how they let guys believe that they love them. I feel sorry for the guys who get trapped in games like these.
2) They aren't necessarily after guys' attention, but they like to keep their options. I have a friend who criticized me for not dating multiple guys at a time. She believed that a girl must keep her options and know plenty of people until she's sure which one she wants. Ofcourse such people would die if the same was done to them. Such people don't think about how others feel. They only care for themselves.
So, a girl like this will flirt with you and other guys. She wants to guarantee having a guy in her life regardless of how the guy would feel about it.
Again, she will ditch you once she makes up her mind on which guy she wants, or when you become clingy or too romantic for her taste.
3) She used to like you, but when she knew you better she decides that you are not the one for her. She decides not to let you know. She would rather let things slide. She thinks you're going to hurt less like that.
I think it's a cowardly move though because this means you are leading on that guy. It's better to be honest and straight forward. Even if he's going to hurt now, it's better than being stringed along for a long time which hurts more.
4) I must say this. Some guys THINK the girl likes him. It's all in their mind though. They start obsessing over small things like "She smiled in my direction!", "She said HI", "She walked by me and stared at my shirt!". Well, that does not mean that she likes you. She could be nice, smiley and polite and that's it.
Such guys string themselves along with their own way of thinking. They start complaining that the girl is acting differently as of lately or that she is mean or whatever. The truth is that she never really lead him on or anything. It's all in their mind.
Hope this helps. :)1
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