Why are men so against their girlfriends having close male friends?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed this a lot and I feel like it's only because they as men know how men in general are. They have been/are attracted to their female friends in that way and they know that's more than likely the case with their girlfriend and her male friends.

So on that note men and women really can't be just friends because there will always be some sort of attraction present.

Talked about this with a potential boyfriend. He mentioned how he thinks it's ok for us to have friends of opposite genders. Yet he complained because he noticed how guys were commenting on my posts on fb. One specifically, I mentioned wanting to go for a drive and talk about life. He signed about the fact that he couldn't imagine me just wanting to go chill with one of them late at night... I guess it's a double standard for men.

[Pnp4unMe]

I don't know let me ask you this if you and I were in a relationship for nine years and I just had all these girlfriends that were real chummy with me and we hung out all the time and I go Netflix and chill with them would you be a little jealous would you be a little suspicious when would you want it to be that way or would you want me not to have those girlfriends? It's the same way with our women and their guy friends. Common sense and common courtesy and common respect

[Asker]

Yeah, I would. The thing is, why is it an issue for him and other men yet they have female friends and deem it ok to do the same that they wouldn't want their girlfriends doing?

[Rob17792]

because the guy doesn't cheat unlike the girl who might have in the past cheated on him

[Anonymous]

You’re not with the right guy. Obviously these friends you need to be close to are giving you something your boyfriend isn’t. Once you meet the right guy, you won’t need close guy friends. I know this only because I had close female friends while I was in relationships until I met my wife and I had no need for close female friends after.

[GaGirls]

They are not secure in the relationship. The relationship makes up you and them so it must be you that are not secure in. They don't trust whoever they are dating. This lack of trust may come from their own insecurities or rational evidence or lack of evidence. The fact remains they are not secure in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

not really because guys want to be with that woman that guy is with and guys know this. which is why it's ok for her to have gay male friends but not straight male friends because guys know how other guys think

[Asker]

He also could have thought like that himself about his female friends though. Like he's a guy and knows how guys think but he was also more than likely in that position before which is why he's so worried

[Opinion Owner]

the woman he's with could have cheated on him in the past with other guys

[Opinion Owner]

and he hasn't cheated

[StevenHs]

I thought it was women who didn't want their boyfriends to have women friends

[Anonymous]

because you cannot see how those guy-friends look when you bend over in front of them

[Asker]

Can the same not be said for the man when he's around his female friends?

[Opinion Owner]

totally. if he is uncomfortable with you and your male friends, he should not be around his lady friends either. fair is fair

[Anonymous]

Same reason women are so against their boyfriends having close male friends.

[Asker]

Wrong. I don't know anyone that would be against that

[Opinion Owner]

Bullshit. This is at least as big an issue for women as it is for men.

[hhhffg7889]

Used to be jealousy. I don't mind now

[Anonymous]

Jealousy and insecurity.

[GaGirls]

All jealousy stems from lack of awareness, doubt, and insecurity. Na I just made that up but it sounds good.

[Jouth]

I don't know

[mynameisiremm]

They are jealous