What to do with a man who plays?

[Toldol2]

My Crush says one thing , does another , cancels me at the last minute , he deleted me off social média When I confront him he acts aloof and got angry at me saying there is a lot of misunderstandings between us. Now it makes me less anxious since he Also told me that He has personal issues that makes him take bad decisions in general. I care for him even tho it makes it clear that a love relationship could be very difficult he plays too much. But As a woman I am tryng to evolve and act better. So what can I do not to make him feel weird on return?

[Corina_J]

There's a likely chance that he might not know how to deal with his own emotions and may be afraid of the strong ones, like love and desire, for example.

If this is his case, he likely is internally very confused and doesn't trust himself or how to work through his feelings, let alone know how to react or show them.

And I agree with the idea of you being there for him as a friend. It may help to encourage an environment where he (and you) can grow trust.

[Toldol2]

Thanks a lot 🙏🏾 . I also think he needs his energy to take care of himself more. I can be a friend its less stressfull

[Corina_J]

You're welcome. Wish you the best for future.

[eblehe]

WHat do you mean by you're trying to evolve and act better?

[Toldol2]

I have been rude with the ones we call players. But people go through hard things. I don’t want to be this person who disminish someone just because I don’t get the relationship I want with someone at the exact time I think I should have it …

[eblehe]

I respect the way you think. that is very mature and empathetic. I understand you try your best to not be rude to him. If I were you I'd try to be his friend and not think about a relationship yet. I get it that he has personal issues but he also need to put effort into this, if he doesn't already. I'd say dont expect too much from him, let him work through his issues, if you really want to be with him, stay by his side for now as a friend.

[Toldol2]

Thank you thats what I needed to confirm. Not easy from my only one perspective. But you are right thats what I should do be a friend

[eblehe]

I hope you figure this out :)

[Star_88]

Just avoid guys like him.
I have -100 tolerance for players.

[Wise4myage]

You block him and move on.

[Toldol2]

Seems like thats what I’ve always done in the past :D block and move on 🤦🏾‍♀️

[Wise4myage]

Sounds like you aren't learning anything.

[Toldol2]

Maybe