I don't understand him... help my fuck buddy is hot and cold?

[Anonymous]

Try to make this short. This guy in the beginning texted "I love u, I wanna be your lover" fast forward 5 months. Secretly we are having sex at work (I know, it's so risky but amazing) plus give him oral too. But there are times he would pull away from me emotionally, like ghosting me. I would delete him, then we would be together at work again, all over each other again (the chemistry is intense). He said he wanted, lover, girlfriend kinda thing. He wouldn't let me into his place to have sex this whole time cos he said it's messy, like EVER. Would only invite me to a hotel which I always rejected. Then I deleted him, cut off all contact, I quit on him. While later he comes back, we talk again, he started chasing up this other woman, who's in a relationship. But they aren't intimate,, I guess. He admits to me he likes her too. But that I am his crush. He said am not his friend... whatever that means. He invites me to his place (at last) and we have really hot sex. He's staring into my eyes during it, kissing me passionately, just amazing sex, then he ghosts me... again. I can't fathom him out. What are we? Just fuck buddies I guess? As trying not to catch the feels, he's so hot n cold... why? He always calls me baby. Said he only calls me that.

[spartan55]

No offense, but you are very easily conned. From what you said it sounds like he lies to you about pretty much everything. I don't know what there is to 'understand' about this guy. He has shown you who he is, but you don't seem to picking up on it.

[Asker]

Lying about what?

[spartan55]

Not going to his place because it was messy... 😂 😂 Come on.
This guy only wants sex.

[Asker]

If that was so, then why did it take him so long to let me into his place? If he wanted sex quick fix, then he wouldve let me into his place from the very beginning to use me. His place is rented out next to our work.

[spartan55]

Maybe he had a girlfriend or something, it is sketchy though. That's not really important though. He has made it clear what to expect from him. What's your next move?

[Asker]

Well, from the replies so far... am gonna dump him.

[spartan55]

I think that's a good choice.

[Anonymous]

you really are as dumb as a bag of rocks. he's using you as a fuck n chuck a pump n dump and you're stupid enough to fall for it all the bullshit that comes out of his mouth

[Asker]

Bag of rocks! Haha... ok, I deserved that.
Thanks for the straight answer. Am gonna kick his ass to the curb.

[Opinion Owner]

about time you start using your head instead of sucking on his or taking his inside you

[Asker]

I dumped him yesterday, thanks

[Anonymous]

Ouch! He's using you. You can do way better. Block him and don't look back

[Asker]

I just did, feel better for it too.