Are guys more likeable being manly and strong, or loveable and soft?

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bsann2015 · Accepted Answer

I don't find guys attractive but I would think it's probably a balance between the two.
But in all honesty be yourself because others opinions don't matter as much as being who you are and what you are.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Accepted Answer

Women don't like soft teddy bear men. Women like very strong and manly man mixed in with respectfulness and gentleness with her and well mannerd.

Moose304 · Answer

I'm 63 so in all honesty, I am a "Boomer"! I also very rarely date boomers these days. I almost always date Generation X and Millennials! 90% of the time when I ask a date what does she want to eat her reply is "I'm not really choosy, you just decide and I am game"! I also find most of the women I see seem to be more of the type that wants me to be the Alpha in the relationship. So I think unless the lady has a lot of toxic miserable friends that poison her this BS they had rather be with a strong secure male. There are so many different dynamics here it is not possible to explain all of my meaning. I will just say this. I do NOT enjoy being with dumb women. I rather be with a lady that has an education, is articulate and the two of us can discuss a topic! This does NOT mean in any kind of a way that such a lady stops being feminine! There is nothing wrong with a female being feminine and desiring to be with a strong secure male. With all of this said. In all honesty, I won't waste my time with a female that wants her man to me a teddy bear! Sorry, this is just how I feel!

Anonymous · Answer

I think the preference of that is much like anything else, it is dependent on the tastes of each individual person, I don't believe there is a right one to be like or aim to be like because there is a number of people who like the personality that may be the opposite.

I myself prefer guys who are loveable and soft, I suppose with that I feel more emotionally close with them and I do not go for manly and strong guys as their physique and personality doesn't click with me, I don't mind socialising with a strong person but I would not fall in love with one, I have only ever felt those feelings for guys who were not a strong type but very loving and kind hearted individuals, but I didn't tell them because I was too concerned about ruining the great mood we had already...

But that is my taste, someone else may really prefer a strong reliable guy and not like the idea of someone who is not strong and primarily emotionally.

SAUL077 · Answer

Okay. As a guy, I was a collegiate boxer and compete for over 7 years. I love fighting poeple and taking charge. I love working out and generally I consider myself to be someone who enjoy to manly things. But... with my girlfriend, she just makes me fucking melt. I'll say gooey lovie shit with her, I'll share my feelings and be emotional vulnerable with her. At the same time, I'll beat the crap out of someone if they ever tried to hurt her. You can be both. Humans are complicated. Even lions love to cuddle, they are not always vicious animals. You don't have to be either. You don't always have to be tough, you can be vulnerable if the situation allows. In other words, being emotional is okay but don't let it stop you from doing what you want to do in life. And don't let the idea of being masculine all the time destroy your mental health. It's a balance.

_Troian_ · Answer

Thats our nature to be manly and strong, this is what nature orders us to be thats why we have mostly testestorone. Man is designed to fight, protect his family and then die our task is to make our loved ones live, Woman is designed to be protected, cared and loved. We have duties and tasks which nature gave to us, if we obey to it then we'll help healthy generations to live in this world.

Otherwise you will see %80 of the world being LGBT and BLM supporters, men dressing like a women and women losing their feminity because of it.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I tend to change between them both and likely other types of person.

i have found guys who are trying to be the macho type 24/7 tend to be arseholes.

it’s something you try when young but soon realise you look like a complete cock, that and girls will take the piss.

i think the word is just being normal and being yourself, rather than trying to force yourself into a given mould of type.

TruthBringer · Answer

Any man with enough experience in dating women knows that women would prefer a masculine, strong and stoic guy over being lovable and soft right away. However, that doesn't mean that a guy should be immune to receiving and giving love and affection. But do say goodbye to your chances of attracting a woman when you're soft and acting like the typical 'nice guy' from the start.

So in short: being manly and strong will increase your chances of success with women.

Anonymous · Answer

Both. It's like an M&M... tough on the outside but soft and sweet on the inside.

PAcc92 · Answer

In my experience women either take to you or they don't, the mistake is in valuing their opinion. Just be yourself, remember that women lose all their sexual value after 30, just be the best you that you can be in the meantime and let them degrade in value.

Anonymous · Answer

You have to be manly and strong when she seems it appropriate, and loveable and soft when she deems that appropriate. And even in the same situation at different times, she might require a different attitude from you. You don't get a heads-up, either, you're just supposed to know.

So just be who you are and let her leave if she doesn't like it. Because once you give in to the bullshit, you can never get it right

Smashingdoozy · Answer

It must be incredibly exhausting being with a man who doesn't show his softer side and always has to be so macho.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Share your opinion with me. You are a girl. I am a guy. I need to know what kind of guys girls prefer. So that I can try to make changes in me also.

whatever932 · Answer

Women will say I want a soft loveable man and when they get him  They put him in the frnd zone And then they go behind a strong manly man men, Don't focus on women's words, focus on her actions

DonkeyDan · Answer

A good balance of the 2 is probably the best option.

AviatorTom · Answer

A combination is best, based on what women have told me.

Anonymous · Answer

Manly and strong when protecting you, soft when arguing with you.  unfortunately many guys are manly and strong when arguing with you, soft towards people who are fiercer…

Somegirl678 · Answer

manly obviously for most of the time, but sometimes i like a guy to stroke gentle or give me a massage lol

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I couldn't vote because I've been with guys who have been be all four of those things.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I love strong and manly guys who like to be soft and loving with me :D

InsideBeauty · Answer

They are more likeable being manly and strong but the best guys are the ones that are soft.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

A guy can be manly and strong and loveable and soft lol

Babygirl_S · Answer

I love someone who seems to be a combination of both

DiegoO · Answer

I've came to understand that every woman is different, and what you point can even vary from culture to culture. There is not a simple a answer for your question.

sensible27 · Answer

I think rational and loving people are the best. Me, duh

Andres77 · Answer

Hard and rough on the outside, soft and cuddle worthy on the inside.

t-8900 · Answer

gonna depend entirely on the girl. there is no right or wrong answer i suppose.

JCtoyota · Answer

Most of the women I know, both young and old, want their men to be big and strong. I don't know any that want cupcakes for husbands or boyfriends. Maybe some do, but I never run unto them.

Jayplays900 · Answer

Depends on the guy. I like being soft and loveable, as it just makes me feel nice and relaxed. But most people don't like the idea of being with a guy like that, so it's just how it is.

YOKIGUY · Answer

At first he may be manly and strong because first, he doesn't know you, second, he wants to attract your attention, but when you begin to know him and he feels comfortable with you he will be lovable and soft

Trevorrow · Answer

I do prefer a little of both. Make everything much more interesting.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Either as long as they have a good spirit. Like Glow Ten Mirrors of Loyalty

MJtheCoach · Answer

If women wanted a feminine guy they would’ve dated girls!

Grubhub · Answer

I’m manly and strong and women are intimidated. 😂 idc screw em. Not all but most women

Shiningtempest · Answer

@kayla45 Guys are more loveable if they aren't egotistical jerks.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Find a man who can do both.

fonduegirl · Answer

Loveable and soft UwU

NathanDavis · Answer

why pick? I am all of that... and a lot more

Wiredone · Answer

I think women prefer a combination of the two

Sam2021 · Answer

MANLY MASCULINE MEN MAN MEN MAN

WowwGirl · Answer

Nothing soft about masculinity

JosyJosy · Answer

Both work

anylolone · Answer

Depends by what you mean by likeable.

Katie1964 · Answer

Manly and strong

LegendaryIcon · Answer

well, you're married, when do you like him which?

EaterPeter · Answer

Whatever she is in mood for

Wowboi · Answer

You tell us lol when you make up your mind

AmandaYVR · Answer

Good poll, Kayla!

TheCloud2 · Answer

Depends on the dick size

Julious0202 · Answer

currently? very effeminate

Smf1989 · Answer

I'm Loveable and soft

Kaylove96 · Answer

All the above

Ailito · Answer

Depends on the guy

Kkoalalita · Answer

A bit of both

Blackcupcake · Answer

a mix of all!

Anonymous · Answer

Why not both?

Anonymous · Answer

Both is the best

mikkun_ · Answer

it all depends.

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