The guy that wants a relationship with me is in perfect gym bunny shape but I’m overweight. Should I date him?

[Anonymous]

the catch is he is not a perfect person he has no job can’t drive and isn’t long out of prison he has some a little bit unflattering tats but some girls would be attracted and used to have a major drug issue, I provided him with a lot of emotional support but he did become manipulative tell me he’s the only one who would ever love me for me etc. i know I’m attractive as I have other options that he even gets insecure about. He tells me I’m pretty often.
I’m 5’9 and 180lbs … if I dropped a pic of him you’d understand what I mean he definitely looks clean he works out all the time has sense of style and has a amazing body when I shown people pics of him they say… all he has is a bod!

[MrOracle]

What do you think matters more to the long-term success of a relationship: the person's body or their character? Are you excited about the long-term prospects of paying his way, cleaning up after him, and him spending his free time at the gym instead of with you? Potentially relapsing and getting back on drugs (that's statistically more likely than staying clean) and/or going back to prison?

He's a trash guy in a pretty package. How long do you think it will take before the pretty outside will matter less than the trashy inside?

[slatyb]

First, you are not much overweight, don't worry about that.

Second, why was he in prison? Also what do you hope to get out of this relationship? Are you just looking to have sex with him for a while? Ok, he can probably help you there. Or do you imagine him as a long-term partner? Because it sounds like he's got a lot of work to do before he could be a partner to anyone. First is finding a job.

[CallmeTheKnight]

That doesn't matter, he's into you and you're not happy about it? Sis come on, 180 lbs is not actually big in size and plus I know plenty of guys that are sculpted like mythologic gods and date plus sized women. Go ahead and date him. you never know what it'll turn out like

[Anonymous]

You can do so much better for God's sake. You are not "overweight" you have a normal figure for a woman, but don't date druggies/prison rats. Put less importance on someone's body. And don't feel like you need to change to get men, plenty of guys will like you for who you are.

[LegendaryIcon]

that's what i don't get. why do men who apparently "look like a god", get to date girls who don't look like goddesses... yet, guys who don't look like a god, don't get to date goddesses

explain this to me

[Asker]

He told me I was a goddess in his eyes one time just because I’m overweight doesn’t mean I’m unattractive

[Asker]

And honestly I’ve seen some very hot woman date some very average looking guys I don’t know where you live though but yeah

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he has too many dealbreakers. I would advise you to steer clear of dating him.

[noohair]

I see many red flags here. ""tell me he’s the only one who would ever love me for me"". He is looking for some sex, in my opinion.

[Asker]

his mother knows of me and speaks to me he’s written me handwritten letters before too like he has asked me to be in a relationship with him but I always told him let’s wait and see

[jahaims]

Depends if you wanna get fucked by a hot guy or have a productive relationship.

[Asker]

What makes you think the relationship wouldn’t be productive he does show me love and respect and he does encourage me with work outs because I am trying to get in shape

[jasco]

well tell him to get his shit together and than y'all will talk

[Wise4myage]

Forget him and focus on your body.

[anylolone]

Not long out of prison?
Then no.

[2021biguy]

No don't, find someone better.