Is it humiliating to ask a guy who played me what he looks for in a woman?

[Anonymous]

I’m just trying to understand better what about me didn’t match up to what he looks for that made him think to play me. He didn’t answer, which sucked because I wasn’t asking in a malicious or sarcastic way I was genuinely intrigued

[jaybee281]

Well I realize you're trying to know objectively why he didn't want you - But it definitely sounds desperate like imagine some guy you rejected asking you that - You'd be like please no - But here is the catch - He "played" you because that was the mindset he was already in - He already knew he was going to do that he wasn't looking for any relationship and there is almost no woman (more like none at all but let's give it the exceptional benefit of the doubt) - So there was nothing you could do - If a guy has already decided beforehand not to come from a place of love and more of how can i lie my way into sex - you ain't changing that...

[mark000h]

Yeah, you shouldn't really do that. I get your curiosity as to why, but some people are players and don't GAF about anyone but themselves.

[jahaims]

If you have to morph yourself into something to get someone the relationship would never workout. Just do your best to be a good person

[Asker]

I would never change for a man I’m just trying to make sense of what it was because I’ve attracted other guys similar to him who I was their type so I wondered what threw him off about me. He doesn’t want to tell me so in that case how he feels isn’t my business anymore

[ReallyYouAgain]

To be honest I don't think it is humiliating but when someone plays you you better just forget about them.

[Wise4myage]

Yeah, I say don't bother with that ass hole.