If a girl you have a crush on avoids you, how would you guys react to that?

[Laura456]

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Let's say you met this crush again (who avoided you a while back).
Would anything she does make you like her again and forgive her?

[jaybee281]

I'd think she's not interested and talk to someone else - Like any person should - to answer the update you made on your question - I don't think I'd stop liking her but I'd be much more suspicious and wary now to the point that I'd overanalyze things - So for his sake if you decide to talk to him don't give mixed signals and don't play games be consistent - It would also depend on what avoiding means - If it meant that I texted you 3 times and you ignored me every time and that I saw you and looked your way and you clearly avoided me - Then just coming back won't cut it because I'd be resentful as well as thinking you just want my attention - Try being upfront and say honestly how you felt even if it's a tough thing to do just imagine how he feels during this..

[awkward_author]

I'd give up, and move on.

[awkward_author]

I would talk to her again, and see what happens. In my opinion, there's nothing she did that needs forgiving.

[Laura456]

Interesting, so you would try again

[awkward_author]

I'd be open to it, but I wouldn't get my hopes up.

[Laura456]

Fair enough

[Anonymous]

I'm in this situation right now. I feel sad and confused, like... did I do something wrong? Why is she acting like that? We used to get along and now it's like she's avoiding me.

I would like to talk to her because I feel good when we communicate. My reaction? I prefer not to insist, so I don't talk to her unless circumstances need it. I don't want to be clingy... if she took that decisions is for a reason, right? I'm on my own way. Even tho, I wish her the best and sometimes, I feel proud of her because she reached some of her goals.
I think every guy reacts different.
Interesting question!

[Laura456]

I hope it works out for you at the end

[Opinion Owner]

Update: reading your situation... if you still have a crush on him and you want him back, I suggest you to be straight forward, tell him why you started to avoid him. Demostrate that guy that you care and you feel sorry, as the same way you demonstrated to him you didn't care before by ignoring him... actions, not just words.
I don't really understand why you want him to like you again, it's strange.
And how long you guys haven't talked?
Maybe he doesn't want a relationship with you anymore

[Laura456]

In your situation, it sounds like you have done the right thing by giving her space.

For us, it's been 4 months apart. Then I saw him a week ago and again yesterday. We talked and something about him is different compared to the way he spoke and behave like 1 year ago. He has matured, speaks calmly and is more decisive. We're both single, so the timing seems right. I can tell from the way he looks at me that there is something still there. You're right when you said show it in actions that I care for him.

[ohboyohboy76]

I'd probably assume that she's figured out that I have those feelings but doesn't reciprocate them. After a little disappointment, I'd hopefully move on.

but infatuation does weird things, and I could also imagine interpreting the avoidance as a sign of her own crush.

[Laura456]

Yes, both are reasons

[RealMarek]

I wouldn’t assume that I knew why the lady avoided me, and so wouldn’t take it personally. That said, I would not chase after someone who had avoided me because I don’t believe in chasing women that way. If she wanted to get my attention she would probably need to initiate a conversation with me so I would know I am welcome to speak with her.

[Vikkrram]

So do you basically avoiding ur crush purposely? It's you like him but for so and so reason you avoiding him or you didn't like him?

[Laura456]

I did it at the time because I had a crush on him too but didn't know how else to act. A part of me regrets it now because we became distant for so long.

[Vikkrram]

I got that... you know why we do that because... We don't want to convey our feelings to them coz we are feared of getting rejected and we don't want to make them show coz they will be in 7th clouds.

But you know unfortunately that's why the main reason we don't get love... i hope you understand what i am trying to say Maam...

[Laura456]

You're right

[Anonymous]

Sometimes a crush will avoid you if they find out about your feelings for them and they aren't mutual. They don't want to spend too much time with you in case that makes you think they like you back, or they're not prepared to be forced to let you down.

[Jamie05rhs]

Avoiding is one thing. Ignoring is another.
There was once a girl who I thought I was friends with, and I tried saying hello to her at an event. She was rude to me. I never forgave her for that. I saw her again a few years later, and I thought about possibly speaking to her, because it seemed like she was looking at me and she wanted to talk. But I was holding a grudge against her for what she did the previous time. So I didn't talk to her.
Was I petty? Maybe. But it is what it is.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Well I wouldn't pay attention, which would drive her crush even further. This works out better than indulging such crush and then reaching a goal that she'll quickly lose interest in.

[Anonymous]

I'd move on. There's roughly 4 billion women on the planet. Why would I waste my time on one that's too stupid to see my awesomeness?🤣🤣🤣

[mark000h]

I would think she didn't like me.

[mark000h]

To answer your update, probably not. I'd be hurt and probably would bring up bad memories of what happened before. Now if she approached me the second time and things were different like she was friendly and explains her feelings to me, if I weren't dating anyone, I might be willing to give her another shot at my affections, but she'd have to make a persuasive case.

[Laura456]

Interesting point

[Luopio27]

Those who leave and return with excuses, sound like player girls.

[OlderThanILook]

I'd leave her alone and move on.

[Leonharted]

I'd move on.

[Laura456]

Why?

[Leonharted]

Why waste my time? She's made it obvious that she's not interested. Either that, or she is playing a game because she's bored and/or doesn't respect me enough to take me seriously. Either way, I deserve better.

[clampfan101]

Be disappointed and leave her alone. :/

[Wise4myage]

Id assume she's not interested and move on.

[Ray123456]

Plenty of fish in the sea

[msc545]

Find someone else to like

[TrillXHippy]

She’s not interested in me

[Anonymous]

i would tell her i love her

[In_Trance]

find a new crush

[dolemite89]

she’s not interested

[LegendaryIcon]

not sure