Why does my ex get mad about hooking up if he initiates it?

[Anonymous]

Okay so long story short me and my ex broke up (it was his decision) and he is currently in a new relationship. I’m still single but still in love with him. Okay so fast forward we starting talking again 9 months after the breakup and couldn’t resist hooking up. And before you judge me he was always the one to start off the sexual talks, not me but I just go along with it because I have missed him. However, I noticed every time we hook up he get mad and blames me for us hooking up, when he is always the one rubbing on my body touching me etc first. Why does he get mad if he’s always talking about kissing me and touching me etc. he said he kind of felt guilty, and I asked if it’s about his girlfriend and he said no. I’ve asked to be just friends and cut the sexual stuff off but he doesn’t want that. But he gets mad when we get too intimate like cuddling etc. I’m confused does he want to hook up or not. He talks about sex with me a lot over the phone but in person he’s different or flips it around to make it look like it’s me who starting off those convo or initiates the sex. To be honest he’s not the best in bed so why would he accuse me of using him for sex when in reality he only came back for sex. It’s hard to tell if he’s in love with his new girl or if he still has feeling for me. I know we can’t be together so I don’t take the hookups seriously, so I’m wondering why he gets mad about something he wants to do with me if he doesn’t feel guilty about his girlfriend?

[lightbulb27]

my only guess is he is totally manipulating and lying to you and using you. Playing you like a fiddle, but worse... an artist wouldn't abuse an instrument like the way he abused you. What his true level of derangement is, I have no idea.

I'd text "done", block, suffer the pain and move on. I don't trust him nor do I trust you to make sound decisions in current state.

[Citizenkirk]

I'm not judging you but you should avoid any kind of yo-yo in and out relationship Dynamics. You should have enough respect for each other to either commit to the relationship and make it work or say goodbye and find someone you're more compatible with.

[PrettyPriya]

To me, sounds like afterwards he feels guilty for hooking up because there is no future. If it is a repetitive thing he does, I almost guarantee that is the issue.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHO!

[boggboss]

He gets mad because he feels guilt and blames u because its convenient

[PrettyPriya]

Well said. Exactly my thoughts. 👍

[Bigloveftw]

He’s mad because 1. He’s confused. He loves her and wants to give her a chance. On the other Jane he loves you and probably regrets breaking up.
2. No matter what he says he also feels guilty!

[Jamie05rhs]

"but I just go along with it.". So that lets you off the hook?

[Jamie05rhs]

He's definitely still guilty, though.

[Jamie05rhs]

And he has no right to be mad at you.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know talk to him

[In_Trance]

Stop hooking up with your ex