What Does It Mean When A Guy Wants You To Buy Clothes?

[Morgs1]

I know this is probably an odd question, so let me explain. So, my one guy friend asked me if he would look good in a certain type of pants out of the blue. I answered honestly, thinking he just wanted my opinion. Turns out, he likes me romantically. He now wants me to buy these really expensive pants in time for Spring Break, saying he wants to boost my confidence up.

I'm not really sure what this means and I don't want to get this wrong because I really like him too and I don't want him to use me.

Notes: I am very self-conscience so don't be surprised if it sounds like I'm rambling lol

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I forgot to mention that the pants are close to $80 dollars in all and I found a cheaper pair on Amazon but I don't know if he'll be upset if I go with the cheaper option.

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So, its been a year and he has been respectful about the leggings and about my choices as a whole. He did just want to make me more confident and stuff like that. I thought it was a good time to update this now lol

[SueShe]

It means nothing more than he wants sex from you. As easy as that.

One does not buy a person that is just a friend an expensive gift without expecting anything in return. That just does not exits.

Mainly in view of the fact that you are a young woman and that (I presume) the guy is in the same age group, that would lead me to believe that there are very specific intentions behind his gesture.

By accepting this gift, you tacitly accept that you may have to repay him in a way or another at a later time.

Before accepting his present, just make sure that he is totally clear about the fact that you are not going to prostitute yourself in return for his present.

[Morgs1]

I totally agree with you that I should make sure with him and I have. I have asked him if he just wants me for sex and he said (this is through text by the way), "I would never hit you or force myself on you, I push you to get them because I think they will help you feel more confident about yourself plus you will look stunning in them that [it] would be hard not wanting to be with you while you wear them. There are only positive things about it."

I'll of course, take your advice and ask again but I think what will really help is if I talk to him in person (or at least video call) because this is all through texting.

[SueShe]

Do you think that you give the impression that you are shy, introvert and that you need new, expensive clothing to change how others perceive you and make you feel more self-conscious?

I personally don't think and therefore, there must be another reason behind his behavior.

[Morgs1]

Well, no. I am an introvert and shy all the time. There must be another motive because he asked if he would look good in the same type of pants almost two years after we last talked and just brought the "i like you" like a bombshell. I was going to ask him again tonight and if he can't show me that he doesn't want me for sex, then I'll let it go.

[honeynut-scenarios]

The pants are for him, but he’s saying they would boost your confidence? What? It’s a huge red flag that he’s asking you to buy him anything, before you’ve even had the chance to see if you’re even romantically compatible. Whether you can afford them or not, you obviously have some reservations as to why he may have asked that, rightfully so.

[SignedAutographs]

The cheaper the clothes the more likely it is that they'll fall apart faster. Better to go with the more expensive ones as they're likely made better. If he's "just a friend" it shouldn't matter why he's asking. He's "just a friend" after all

[IMuser]

When you look good, it will boost your self confidence (at least temporarily)

Or maybe he just wants to see you on different clothing, like giving you dresses to try on and then seeing how you look like. Kind of like a model

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It sounds like he just wants to dress you in things that he thinks looks good in you. In other words, he’s trying to get you to wear clothes that he wants you to wear. And that’s a crappy thing to do to someone. Only you get to choose what clothes you want to wear and feel comfortable in.

[yucychan]

I don't understand. If he likes those pants so much, why can't he buy them himself?
Why do you have to buy them?

[PrettyPriya]

You have to be comfortable with it, not him. Doesn’t matter what he thinks. I know you like him but if you don’t want to spend the money, don’t.