Guys, I need answers. What does it mean when y'all text us less than usual?

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What does it mean when y'all text us less than usual?

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

There's basically 3 things it can mean:

1: he's beginning to feel the connection you guys have is real and solid enough that he doesn't feel the need to talk to you every 4 seconds to know he's on your mind and you're not out there thinking about cheating or something. I'm gonna put him being busy in this category too.

2: you pissed him off and he's trying to figure out how/if to approach you about it. Men don't act out of emotion. When we feel like we're about to, we step back and contemplate until we feel like we have self control again. Women have a way of doing this to us a lot. (if a guy doesn't do this by the way, run for the hills)

2a: he knows he pissed you off and he's afraid

3: your worst fears, time to find a new boyfriend or go gay

HighlyVolatile · Accepted Answer

In my case, it means I like her as odd as that sounds. I spent a whole lot of time as a software developer working remotely although we constantly met face-to-face on business trips, and I've seen my share of my colleagues arguing online over text in ways they never did in person.

So I refrain from texting much with people I really like. Instead, I arrange to see them in person as often as possible and keep the texting mostly to make those arrangements. Especially early in the dating and relationship process, I wanted us to form our impressions of each other face-to-face and not through texting.

PhenomenalQueen · Accepted Answer

I can only speak for myself, when you hear “I’m busy” more than once, he’s not interested. Nobody’s that busy… Also, usually it can mean you said something offensive, he’s losing interest, maybe he wants you to initiate the conversations, the conversations aren’t going anywhere, he may be just looking for something casual, he’s being entertained by someone else, he’s in a relationship but lied, he could be a person who doesn’t like texting (but he should at least be calling you or have communicated that), it could be a lot of things… Sometimes they don’t have the courage to say they’re not interested, so they’ll just keep treating you like whatever… But the most important thing is listen to yourself, if you have doubt, something isn’t right.

Gwenhwyfar · Accepted Answer

Nothing usually. Most guys suck at texting and lose interest after a while.

IMuser · Answer

1. That I have nothing interesting to talk to you
2. I am busy with things important than you
3. I need some me time
4. I got a new chick
5. Talking to you has become way too monotonous and instead of texting, i will directly meet you soon

TheorionMage · Answer

Men typically don't 'chat'... we want you to know we're thinking of you!
You mean the world to us BUT... we generally don't dawdle.
Truthfully, we mostly have nothing new to say----
You want to be WITH us... then BE with us, ... not on the damned cell phone!

Switch91 · Answer

If it's something that's just starting I'm hesitant to text too much. Not due to a lack of interest, more self conscious about being too clingy and not wanting to scare her away.
If it's something a bit further down the line then maybe they're trying to distance themselves a bit, which I personally am not a fan of. I like people to be straight up.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

there's nothing to say. Youd want someone to just keep talking disingenuously just for the sake of giving you attention? Why should they live a lie if there's nothing interesting to say?

SamIam96 · Answer

Could be anything. Busier than usual. Dead battery. Lost interest in you. Talk. Assume the best. If your relationship is on a bumpy patch, a good attitude will help you through.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

it means we are either busier than usual, or we ran out of stuff to talk about, or we lost interest.
What is it gonna take for women to just ask us directly instead of going online and asking strangers?

sonic_fever · Answer

Depends on your relationship with the man. If you’re exclusively dating it can be he just wants some space. If you’re more in a situation ship then he’s talking to someone else. I could be more precise if I knew your specifics lol

DaveJord · Answer

Honestly it means we are losing interest or have found someone else. I don't much like texting none stop with a women. Its annoying.

chulo1992 · Answer

I'm doing that RIGHT NOW. And for me... it means I'm not too interested. In fact, I'm to the point with one chic, I will only text her IF she texts me first. Other than that... I will not initiate contact with her.

RawIronhide · Answer

Depends on the context, only then could I speculate.

jshm2 · Answer

Come on kiddo, you 12 and still learning about this?

boggboss · Answer

That I'm busy this question is so open eneded could be anything lol

Guy13 · Answer

Bored. Other interest. Other meeting our needs.  Texting can be a pain in 🚼 ‼️ Like email.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It means we are either busy, lost interest or hate texting. I can't think of many other reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

Were you being flaky? Did you ghost midconversation? Did you leave him on read more than once? Were you expecting him to start all text conversations?

Massageman · Answer

Well, for me it means my grand-daughter is spending three days with us, so I have very little time for myself.

jahaims · Answer

It isn't universal. Just because we share a gender doesn't mean we do the same things for the same reasons.

michol123 · Answer

I usually get sick of the woman’s short answers, they tell me she’s not interested and I just block her because she’s a waste of my time and energy

Anonymous · Answer

If the word busy came up more than once he’s not interested save yourself the trouble please babes.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

It means you signaled disinterest. We are responding to cues.

Waldoe · Answer

could mean anything... busy doing chores, watching a good movie, talking or helping parents... I have an idea... ASK HIM

htmndg183 · Answer

No idea. I don't ever really plan that I'm going to text more today or less tomorrow lol. It just happens 😂

OddBeMe · Answer

May mean we’re not getting the ROI we expect. We’re prob texting other chicks.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol this would be like if I were to ask "what does it mean when a woman smiles at me".   You really think that has one reason?

noohair · Answer

There is no texting etiquette. Something you see as a problem, the other person sees as normal.

LaNc3L0TT · Answer

We are not interested as we used to be, simple.

ccampbell1 · Answer

either he's busy or he's slowly moving away from you

Anonymous · Answer

Why should a guy always text more and take all the initiative?

DrHonesty · Answer

We're jerking off about someone else

skytatoe · Answer

Busier than usual or Losing interest

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

They're probably cheating.

Iron_Man · Answer

Do a little bit less at your job

driven159 · Answer

Might be busy life does happen in this world

msc545 · Answer

Means we are busy making the money you crave.

bananathunder · Answer

we're busy masturbating...

Anonymous · Answer

It means we’re losing interest.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Probably in a bad mood

Slim57 · Answer

Busy, you're boring, just not in the mood

Anonymous · Answer

Either busy or don’t want to look needy

jasco · Answer

Lost interest

Hanrej · Answer

That we're busy?

TrillXHippy · Answer

Common sense

In_Trance · Answer

It means we're busy

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