Is this guy trying take a dig at my self esteem or tell me he’s not attracted to me?

[Anonymous]

I asked a guy if he had a type and he said he likes “many types”

“including your types lol”

he could have just left it at many types or he doesn’t have a type.

that really hurt my feelings.

i am avg. looking and he is handsome

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure he meant that in the hurtful way you took it. Like not as in "even you", but rather "you're one of them". But I wasn't there, but just the way I read this and knowing guys lol. But it might be just as well as he doesn't sound like the loyal type either. Maybe it's a good thing?

[Asker]

It was over text message

[Asker]

I see it as “types like mine” “avg. looking women”

[Switch91]

I don't think he's trying to say he's not attracted to you or have a dig. He sounds like a fucking idiot though because that's one of the stupidest lines I've ever heard.

[Asker]

For sure lol 😂 I question his intelligence at times

[Asker]

But deep down.. I feel like it was a dig. I definitely feel shitty because I actually liked him

[Anonymous]

If I were you, I would leave him... This is disrespectful... The best thing to do is to not give him attention, don't even look at him like, if he was nothing... And don't feel sad about it, maybe you're pretty but he is just rude...

[Asker]

I agree.. I think he was being intentionally hurtful. But I do think he felt bad because I asked him what he meant by it and he said nothing it was just in a “long winded” way he said... but his overall behavior has been sketchy towards my looks...

But oneday he took 4 days to text me back and I told him to delete my number.. I said if I looked like another girl he would respond

He said “ stop putting yourself down” “you’re beautiful as you are “ “just stop “

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah you're beautiful and if he makes you feel that you are not or that you're not good enough by playing hard to get or ghosting you then come back whenever he wants... Then you better find someone who makes you feel special

[Asker]

But why would he say that? Then turn around and say “you’re beautiful as you are “

Or did he feel the need to compliment me because I made that comment “if I were someone else... he would respond “

I don’t understand

[Opinion Owner]

Because he is kinda arrogant and he knows that he is handsome and he acts as if all the girls are running after him so he says " I like all types of girls" then maybe he felt guilty...

[Asker]

Yeah he really lowered my self esteem

Even though he does have some faults I do think he’s a decent guy but it’s best I leave him alone

He’s not the only guy who made me feel like this.

I’m getting some plastic surgery to feel better about myself. It’s my treat to myself

[Opinion Owner]

don't feel sad and don't take it personal, you're beautiful just the way you are... You just meet rude people in your way and that's normal... I've been called "ugly" before not because I'm really ugly, it's because I met someone rude... You don't need to change for them... But you could prove them wrong by being confident, don't let anyone say anything bad about your look, you can study and work harder than them and become better than them , smile and enjoy your life and I'm sure there are some guys out there who see you beautiful just the way you are... And besides confidence is attractive and makes people see you in a more beautiful way

[Asker]

So do you think it came out wrong or it was intentional?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know but maybe he said it intentionally at first because he is arrogant but he didn't mean to hurt you with it

[Asker]

I don’t understand how he would think that wouldn’t hurt my feelings.. he said he said it in a long winded way and he sincerely apologizes but it’s just so unsettling for a guy to find you attractive enough to sleep with but insult you at the same time and I did absolutely nothing to deserve that

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I feel you but he is saying that because he is an arrogant, it has nothing to do with you and he didn't think about whether it's gonna hurt you or not ... And he apologized so it's up to you to forgive him or leave him but I think leaving is better because staying with someone arrogant is only gonna break your self-esteem... So go and find someone who makes you feel pretty and trust me not all guys are the same so probably they are some guys out there who find you attractive and beautiful

[Asker]

Okay, I stopped talking to him a couple weeks ago. It still hurts because guys in general only want to sleep with me and nothing more.

But thank you 🙏

[Opinion Owner]

Ignore them and see what makes you happy and do it (maybe by going out, being successful or focusing on yourself) and you will find someone who really wants you as a whole and not a player someday ... Stay strong, you can do it ... You're welcome

[Anonymous]

He's trying to play coy in a real dumbass way.

[Asker]

Yeah 😭

It hurt my feelings though. I’m not happy with my looks