Why do some guys care only about sex?

[Anonymous]

Isn't it a sign that someone doesn't respect you, if that's the only thing he talks about

[Flower_Power]

I can't necessarily offer advice, but I've been having the same question, too. It feels like men are so "pervy" sometimes. Believe me, I hate it. The other day I was on a bus coming back to town from a golf tournament. These boys on the golf team sitting in the back of the bus were discussing which countries had the most attractive women. As a woman, I felt offended that they were audacious enough to discuss such a thing in front of me. It was also kinda offensive that they were talking about skin, hair, and eye colour.

Of course they came to an agreement that Scandinavian women are the "most attractive" because of their blue eyes and blonde hair. But my favourite part was when they were talking about Mediterranean women and their sexy curves (of course they get graphic here). Ugh it just made me so mad.

Either way, not all guys are like this (but a lot are). The only reason why they care only about sex is because they were never taught manners and that women are for more than just sex.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I am not sure why you were upset of that.

Bc even girls do that literally even to there friends.

How is that any different , just bc they have a penis doesn't mean they can't appreciate beauty all over world.

Men are the initiators they have the responsibility to take the role and start a relationship.

Do you know or imagine how hard it can be and there are something's naturally part of men.

You know how big list of women is while choosing a man

Handsome , tall, can make you laugh , sensual , sexy , communicator dirty talker brave honest dependable.

It doesn't happen in a single day

What's a guys requirement should be decent and beautiful.

If she's beautiful nothing else even matters i understand its a bit shallow.

And i do think it's true if you remove the equation of sex i think they won't care i guess unless you are related to them.

But also to prove myself wrong men are more helping than women on a larger scale to others and ate mostly kinder towards women.

What's that expectation of yours that you want them to behave differently infront of you and different without you and why is that?
They are group of strangers talking among themselves.

And did you know those guys?

[Flower_Power]

yes, i do. we go to the same school. for GaG purposes i didn’t include the R rated parts of their conversation.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

When you are amongst girls you don't talk sexual things at all?

[Flower_Power]

No, not really. Especially not in public.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

May be you are an exceptional one women do the same it's quite normal i guess those kinda stuff is required to attract a mate i guess.

Like male bird has to flaunt it colors to attract the females.

In every male species you see sex is dominant like if you take insects male bees die after having sex with queen bee , and like the grasshoppers the female insects eat of the males after sex yet they still have it.

Its in the nature i won't deny it.

If i maybe a bit direct what or how a women to could earn respect of men in your eyes?

Like you have a list that guys should do so and so to earn your respect.

I don't think guys have such lists for girls.

And how do you help your guy friends in what ways? I am asking this humbly to understand few crucial points

Hope you are not bored or offended

[SueShe]

When puberty hits boys and girls alike, their sexual hormones take over the reasoning.

Boys are much more prone to be dependent of their sexual hormones and that is why it looks as if sex is about the only thing that matters to them. Girls, fortunately, are much better at controlling their libido.

It does indeed look as if boys do basically not really care about the person as long as they are able to satisfy their sexual needs. It is sad for us girls to be seen and treated solely as an object to satisfy their urges.

Boys don't seem to want to make the slightest effort to control their basic instincts and we have to pay for it.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Ok i understand your point.

I will put it in a direct way may sound rude or just bad maybe i don't know even if i am right.

1. Yes guys do only care about sex , unless you have unlocked there minds to love you that's in your hands.

2. Respect has to be earned , and tell me what exactly have you offered the guy that he can respect you for?

3. most women always expect guys to do this, or to do that but have you ever questioned yourself what ever have you done for the guy?

4. You take there deeds for granted and use them or take there help , but how have you helped the guy in any way?

I am awaiting for your reply dear asker

[caring__1]

They basically only see you as a receptacle for their pleasure. They'll use you up and then replace you with a new one. Avoid getting involved with anyone who is single-focused. Variety and depth makes it much easier to hold one's interest and nurture a healthy relationship.

There are plenty of people who aren't single-focused, so ask yourself the reasons you keep finding yourself drawn to the single-focused ones. This is equally a problem for women who are seeking a provider, so find themselves drawn to workaholics.

[Asker]

You can't know for sure, when you meet someone. At first, they pretend to be nice and sweet, then the masks fall off

[caring__1]

Both guys and girls can play the bait and switch game. Once the real person appears, don't stick around if you don't like what you see. Take things slowly, so you don't get ahead of yourself and then feel stuck with something unhealthy. If you don't like what you see, never assume people will change for you.

[Asker]

Some people might realize their mistake and reconsider or make small changes in their behavior. However, there are many people, who never do and will try to gaslight you and make it seem like they're being crazy/irrational when you're trying to communicate your feelings to them. Thay the situation I'm in right now. I don't know if it's due to lack of empathy or selfishness of that person.
But anyway, I agree with your comment

[caring__1]

Though people can change, always take the time to learn about a person's past patterns, whether that be relationships or dealing with stress. The more ingrained the pattern, the less likely you'll see change over time. Though common, doing the same thing and expecting different results will never be functional.

[Moondog95]

It may be more of a “them” issue than a “you issue. I know a lot of guys who are so concerned with themselves, or feel so insecure that they feel they can’t bring anything else to the table - and can’t sustain a relationship
on the other hand, I know some girls who are so focused on their sex appeal or sleep around so much that guys go after them just for the sex.
Another note, I’ve literally witnessed men come out later in life as gay who were hyper sexual around women because they are projecting themselves to seem more masculine because they were afraid to face the truth = “There’s no way someone could see me as gay because all I want to do is sleep with women” or “I sleep with as many women as much as I can so there’s no way I could be gay”

[LaNc3L0TT]

If he is only looking to get sex from you, well he doesn't have serious plans with you and doesn't see you for anything else unfortunatly.

[DaySpring]

Because they don't have a worthy vision for their life and so they submit to local pleasure. Shallow pleasure is better than no pleasure at all.

That is the answer ^

[DaySpring]

Most of the time. If he has a vision then it is because he doesn't think you're good fit for a romantic relationship or he doesn't have romantic relationships apart of his life vision.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

If he has a vision , i don't think the guy would care much about what others want.

In every dedicated man's life it's all about them and even if he does greater good he will be ready to sacrifice others for it and won't take others into consideration

[DaySpring]

@Aakash_Hangargi Then that man is ignorant of the benefits that an attractive personality provides, especially in terms of success. In fact, that man would not even be able to list the characteristics and personality traits that make up an attractive personality. For if he studied it well, he would be convinced, more than anyone, of the importance of such a personality. Nevertheless, what you have said surely can be found true in some cases. Sadly, those men are ignorant of not only an attractive personality, but also other matters that pertain to success.

[anton_dee]

It ain't bout respect. It bout what's in your mind.

I have a passion for bikes, so I naturally talk bout it a lot. If I see a new bike, I wonder how will she revv and how she gonna behave under me... (i know it sounds crazy but hey.. )...

[one1wild00]

Some guys that is the case, while others are looking for a fast start connection that leads to a connection in other areas, yes, sounds backwards, but I've also seen that work.

[Anonymous]

Most guys only care about sex, when it comes to women. We don’t need you for anything else.
Any male who tells you otherwise is just virtue signalling and trying to win pick me points.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why some girls only care about sex and money.

[TrillXHippy]

When I find out I’ll let you know. I won’t find out actually cause how do I know

[KrakenAttackin]

If you have nothing to offer but sex, this is all he will want from you.

[altdbob]

Because we have been emotionally burned and don't want to go through it again.

[DevinAM]

Probably the same reason some girls only care about sex.

[In_Trance]

Some guys have nothing else to offer