Why do men only care about sex?

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Like even guy friends they don’t really care about you for YOU, they care about you because you’re a FEMALE and they’ll jump at any opportunity to get inside your pants when it comes down do it.

Like why can’t they just care about you for YOU. As a HUMAN. Why are we objectified?

Mary087 · Accepted Answer

I know it’s hard to believe they do or it’s all they care for but I feel like there are some good men out there in this world who will be a gentleman and have some respect and manners for a woman’s heart and personality too. It may be hard to find and trust me, very hard to think but don’t lose hope because it’s nothing to do with you personally, you probably just are coming across a lot of f boys or players but look at it like a sign that the universe is getting their energy away from you and you’re one step closer to finding a sweet guy. This generation makes it difficult to find a mature guy but I believe in my heart they still exist, you just can’t give up even when all seems to be impossible.

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

Maybe because subconsciously they are trying to create more lesbians... lol

Guys who can't carry on an intelligent conversation and only want to have sex with me and then go on about their business make me want to stick with my girlfriends who can understand another girls needs and do care about more than just sex.

There are good guys out there, you just haven't found the right one yet. Don't give up Ms Alyssa!

OpenClose · Answer

I've put a decent amount of thought into this.

I mean for one, there's the obvious which is that testosterone makes you horny. For straight men, it makes them obsess with sex with women more. For gay men, it makes them obsess with sex with men more. For lesbians, it makes them obsess with sex with women more. For straight women, it tends to make them bi. But I had several friends in college who were trans FtM. Once they started on T, that was always THE thing they commented on. The feeling like sex went from a romantic desire to a physical urge.

Let's get this one out of the way real quick. "They’ll jump at any opportunity to get inside your pants when it comes down do it."
Keep in mind we still have to be the ones to initiate such things, so we generally have to consider opportunities wherever they appear. Or to put it another way. When you are searching for a job, almost any job comes up as a contender potentially worth applying to. When you already have a relatively good job, you just kinda don't think about it until people are presenting you with offers. You don't have to put any out, you just have to consider the ones being offered.
I feel like women's mentality is that they already have the job. And the man's mentality is that he is job searching.

Next, I think men have a lot of deep emotional issues that are masked behind sexuality. Like we'll feel general loneliness, and feel like sex will fill that. Or we have a lack of emotional intimacy with others... that we feel can only come from a romantic or sexual relationship. Like, it's been shown that men react harder to breakups. While women often confide in their friends, men generally feel like they can't turn to people for as much support, so are more likely to turn to things like drugs, forums that go toxic, or suicide. Or some men will shut down that emotionally-intimate side and just seek sex without relationships. It's almost like the only therapy we think we can get comes from girlfriends.

In fact, there are brothels in Australia that specifically take this into consideration. They'll encourage or pay their prostitutes to get degrees in psychology or sociology. Because on numerous occasions, they'll get guys who come in for sex, but when they actually get into a room together, they start to go on long talks about all these emotional issues they are having in their lives. Several have reported that the guy will just start straight-up sobbing. Almost as though every part of our emotional lives is funneled through sexuality, so once it's available, all the real issues start coming out.

It's something I find unfortunate for men, and unfortunate that women have to see the bad side of it.

Another thing to consider is that these past decades, there is the general vibe that women just want men to fuck off in general. When you tell everyone to fuck off, the only ones who are still around are the ones who don't care what you think. So you end up with an issue of sampling bias.

TruthBringer · Answer

@alyssa_11 The reality is that men DO want more than sex. But from someone who actually has something to add to their life other than sex.

"Why do men are about sex?" Asks the girl who objectifies herself by posing in a lingerie for the world to see. And YES I WILL bring up your profile picture because it is a clear sign to where your problem lies. If you have nothing to bring to the table (or to the world) other than your sexuality, then don't be surprised that you will be seen as nothing but a sexual being. Go thank feminism for that. Saying that even women who cover up are being objectified is resorting to whatboutism. Yes, women who dress modest get that as well, but baby girl there is MAJOR difference in how much a girl who dresses provocatively gets that kind of attention and a woman who is more reserved. So you cannot compare being catcalled every single day to being catcalled once a week or so.

Also, like @OlderAndWiser has pointed out: if you only attract men who are out for sex, then you need to do some serious self-reflection to your own personality and behavior. Sometimes it is not the world where the problem lies, but rather within ourselves. Because I can assume that the guys YOU are interested in are the ones you try to woe with your sexuality. So they act on your signals. Only for reality to kick you in the face and you find yourself being pumped and dumped while perhaps you wanted more. And if not you, then countless other women out there who did.

I myself am in a relationship with a girl for far more than sex. Why? Because she actually has something to offer to my life other than sex (she also doesn't dress provocatively other than in private with me). Your profile bio says you want a husband. Well, if you think any man worth his two cents will get with a girl who advertises herself like that to the world, then I have news for you.

But I believe my words will most likely fall on deaf ears. Because judging by your update, you obviously do not want to actually face the truth that in the end, could help fix your 'problem'.

Anonymous · Answer

Actually, they don't. However, to the extent that it is true that men are only interested in sex, there is an explanation in evolutionary psychology.

To start, there is an old saying. "For a woman, there is no sex until there is love. For a man, it is not love until there is sex." That, in a nutshell, is the mistake in the assumption that men only care about sex. It fails to recognize that in male psychology, there is an equivalence between sex and love that does not exist for women.

The man wants sex as an affirmation that he is loved. The distinction that women make between sex and love is not an ongoing reality for men.

This, as noted, is based in evolutionary psychology. In evolutionary terms, the human male is programmed to have sex with as many females as possible. To impregnate women and produce babies. In effect, to spread his sperm - and thus is DNA - as far as possible. This to out compete other males in the evolutionary survival of the fittest.

Females have a similar biological instinct to reproduce, but it expresses itself differently because of the role the female plays in the evolutionary process. A female can normally bear only one child at a time. (In nature, most twins and multiple births would die.) The female, after giving birth, must feed and protect the baby. She therefore, in evolutionary terms, is looking for a male who can produce healthy sperm, thus healthy children, and who will then be able to find food for the mother and baby and ward off rival males and predators.

In this evolutionary context, then, a divergent psychology has developed. The woman will have sex with the male whom she deems capable of protecting her and her offspring. Thus for her, sex is the result of that attraction - love. For the male, having sex shows that the female has accepted and loves him and needs him. Thus for the male, sex is the equivalent of love. He mates with the female and in his mind this becomes love.

Now, of course, man has evolved. Interestingly, as civilization developed, rules evolved to protect the female. Thus, for example, the idea that sex happens after marriage. That sex is the result of love, not he equivalent of it. The female was weaker and so the rules of civilization echoed the female notion of love.

Yet the male's biological instinct remains. Put in the context of culture and civilization, then, something of a miscommunication has developed. The woman is seeking a man for love - in evolutionary terms, who will offer protection and find food, etc, - with whom she will then have sex. For the man, sex IS love. Even though civilized man makes the distinction, the instinct of the human male is that when he has found a woman who will have sex with him, that is an ACT OF LOVE. Part of it and integral to it.

Now oddly enough, as the old rules of society have broken down, the distinction between sex and love are getting blurrier. It looks more like the evolutionary male's understanding of sex and less that of the evolutionary woman.

That said, a man may not even recognize himself and in a civilized contemporary context it is less clear. However, make no mistake, the feelings a man gets from sex are rooted in his evolutionary origins and biological instincts and are as much love as what the female thinks love is. The man may, even in his own mind, make the distinction between sex and love, but his biological needs and instincts will, in practice, blur the distinction in a way that a woman, with a different role in evolutionary biology, does not.

cookiecrusher · Answer

Mostly evolution and testosterone.

Men are very visual, when we first see women or when she bends over at home to pick something up, or when she does something freaky in bed like gagging etc we don't like how it feels we like how she looks enthusiastic doing it.

Men in general are pretty horny to some level almost constantly, when our mind get a break from what we are currently concentrating on.

And it's normal.

Men also like hang out with women as with a buddy, we really do.

If you are woman who looks hot, what do you expect? Mens natural instict is to think about how hot you are, not oh i wonder if she would be fun to hang with, or if she would be a good mother for our kids or a good wife. That comes after and sometimes after we have calmed down a bit.

Again, it's natural reaction of the body. Some men have it more, some less.

Now, of course there are plenty of shitty men who just use women one after another. Lie and say whatever to get into her pants and call it game.

These men are usually playing the numbers game and jump on every possible woman they find, without much care of the individual woman.

Women on the otherhand mistake it for confidence and assertiveness and etc. Finding it way more attractive than a guy approaching who really doesn't do that a lot and only approaches the very few they genuinely do like and are interested in.

So you literally get used by these types of guys, for one night or for few months. And grow resentful of men in general. And later of course, most guys wouldn't want to date you for your high bodycount while are okay to add one more to the list. Increasing the problem.

Really the best men and women can do is to pick better partners, and no sex for few months, for both sides. And to look for them in better places, not in the bottom of a bottle.

For long term partners anyway.

Just to add, most women don't bring much else to the table either, only their looks. Most women can't hold a conversation with a man, only expect him to do it.

We don't care that you cook, clean or have a degree. We really don't. We have machines for that and we just really want a buddy to chill and hangout with who we find hot and can have mutual fun with.

I don't know you or your life story lady, so it's not directly at you at any point. It's just how it is in my view for the majority of cases.

qupid911 · Answer

Not every man does. We live in the age of stereotypes. Guys only want the prettiest woman, with all the assets, cook, clean, knows when to stop talking, listen, yada yada. Women want the tall, handsome, buff guy with a thick and long dck that’s great in bed, makes the first move, mind readers, makes bank and actually helps around the house, great with kids and gives them attention. Stuff like that is portrayed in media so hard that when you’re actually raised right or have realistic expectations, you realize that’s not the case. There are guys out there that don’t even want sex, they just want a partner that passes the vibe check, independent and not defined by them. A man can value a women without the need to see her naked. Sure sex is nice, hormones are a thing and whatnot. All the guys that simply want a woman only for sex makes it harder for the guys that don’t want women for sex. Just like women have been objectified and stereotyped over the years, guys have too. Maybe, just maybe, we’ll see a change.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

1. Aguy who doesn't care about sex is a guy that is despised by girls.
2. Girls usually get attracted more to guys like who ignore them or just font care.

3. Girls take it on as a challenge , to prove there worth that why isn't he intrested in me or why doesn't he make a move he is insulting me in a way my feminiity and am i not attractive enough.

4. Girls are objectified\sexualised because they want to be objectified\sexualised and it's actually not objectification it's glorification on a higher level.

5. Its like there is an artist their art and the audience.

6. The artist art value is only by his likings of the audience.

7. The real world that's how it works there is beauty and there is an admirer , you can't change the nature a flower is to bloom only when a bee steels it's nector.

8. Like an anon said maybe it's the only thing you can offer them.
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9. I had a question like you expect care , but how as a girl in a life of guy as a friend you show care to him?

10. How is that you make him know you genuinely care about him?

11. What exactly you do that would want to care about you.

12. Guys to a lot for other guys in helping more than in many ways.

13. What is that you offer?

14. Aguy can put all the efforts , but how would you be thankful and how is that you help them back?

15. at least men are clear with what they really want.

16. There are people who have good vibe together but it has to start way young and they have to trust that you genuinely care and not just use them when you require in name of care and emotional quantification.

17. If you find a way to convey the guy you really care about him and not what he has to offer then he will definitely care for you without asking what you have to offer.

TRORT · Answer

Men are very Attractive to women, we are always being teased every single day we leave our house. Women wear provocative clothing showing off their Breast tight pants to show their ass. Short that show your ass cheeks. And yes we want Relationship to have family and get married. But when Woman is show notice and they are flirting and we flirting back most of woman get offensive say we only want them for sex. I was homeschooled from 3rd to 12 and when I got into the real world never having friends nor being with people my own age. Girls naturally would try to flirt with me. I was raised of courting/dating a woman for marriage. And I wasn’t ready to start dating. And girl would get mad and make false statements! “ I might be GAY!” Just because I wasn’t flirting with them. Guy are always very mistreated if we play along and flirt with you ladies or we don’t. Women should look at this situation like this. Your starving and your walking by the food court and you see everyone eating which inturn is making you very hungry. And food court hands out “sample” and think of Sample as girl showing you interest in you if you take the sample when you are starving your going to want more.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

A lot of that about guy “friends” is quite true.

So, I do not think the only thing men care about is sex.

Is it important? Yes
Can it cloud men’s judgments and thinking? Certainly.

Does it have to cloud them? No

Women are human beings and while I feel all sorts of things for them such as lust, arousal, and whatever….

They’re also feeling, loving, and unique persons.

Once you understand this, I feel like you look at them in LESS objective ways. You can still feel lust and other sexual emotions about them, but it’s always overshadowed by them being human and having a personality (which is more important).

You just need to meet better men. Smarter ones.

I know you may be enticed by handsome and seemingly charismatic and mysterious men.

But

These men may be bad for you.
For your emotions and thoughts

You just need to resist.

It’s the same for me.
Tons of attractive women.
Are a lot of them bad for me? Fuck yeah
What can I do? Not get with them even though they are physically attractive to me.

To ME, this is easy to do. Other men? Not so much

ThinkFitness23 · Answer

I’ll be brutally honest and try to keep this as short as possible because there are many factors.

You may feel this way for some of the following:

1. Women generally fascinate us and many are incredibly beautiful.

2. There’s parts of the brain which are not equal in males & females, generally there is a part of the brain which is 5 x larger in males which relates to sex.

3. Men are more visually triggered than women, hence more men watch porn but how many do you find reading racy novels? Women do such and use imagination and there mind.

4. The world is set up to accommodate men in this regard. Examples in many young woman's profile pictures you will see:

Poses
Pouting
Lots of flesh

The image is an advert by the women who have simply grown into to society, of course they won’t all see it this way.

Girls sex alone and attraction probably won’t keep a man.

Guys if you want to pleasure a woman fully your going to have to play with the best sexual organ in all her body… The Brain

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Anonymous · Answer

Not strictly true, but most men are naturally programed to priorities access to sex, as women are naturally programed to prioritize relationship for the sake of long term child care.

Nature affords men 2 successful mating strategies where as women have only the one.

You need to learn to accept and acknowledge nature if your going to work with it rather than against it. You will never win working against it.
As a woman you need to find and keep men who favor the 2nd mating strategist of commitment, acknowledging their natural needs to keep them balanced.

Men likewise spent large sums of money and time on women acknowledge their natural needs. A lot of women do not appreciate the fact that a man is essentially giving up a large sum of his time and resources to them for free for the most part.

They think they are just entitled to it perhaps because their parents did it for them and each-other. But perhaps what they didn't see was how their mother was managing their father to keep that system going.

You must understand nature and work with it.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

That's not a good way to think about things miss alyssa rapunzel!
Maybe the majority of men are like that, but not all of them unless you see me that i'm not a man, maybe an alien 🤣🤣

Personally all the women who likes me whether online or irl and you're one of these ladies 🙂 if i wanted to get in their pants than i would be in the hospital or dead cause i ain't no sex hulk 😂😂

I care about everyone and when i care about a woman i care for her as a whole, i never treated a woman in a good way just so i have a chance to get in her pants cause that's not what i aim for and you would be surprised that even if women offered me to feel free if i want to get in her pants and i refused because you already know that i don't have sex without marriage and all the women who knows me are aware of this fact, which means if i treat them good and took care of them they instantly know that i'm doing it because i like them as a whole and because i care about them and sex is something that i never think of unless if i was in serious relationship with a girl and it will only happens after marriage...

On the other hand you might tell me what about touching a girl on her private places or see her naked, well my answer is no because i don't have the right to see a girl naked unless she is my wife or even touch her private places...

The only girls that i can see naked are on porn sites 🤣🤣 and tbh i don't like such things anymore because their lame and repeating the same things over and over again, i can tell you that i'm never the way i used to be when i was a teenager or in my early 20's...

There is nothing like real life, real love, real wife and real sex...

jasco · Answer

Ever heard the saying sex sells? Well its true, society has made it this way to the point where a lot of men see women only as pleasure dolls. Of course this isn't all over, its usually only in areas where technology is extremely high and bad parenting, no/bad morals, lack of empathy and such that cause a lot of men not see women anymore than sex. Of course their are who women who only bring sex and if enough women offer that and only that to that man, eventually he may start seeing women for nothing more than sex. Porn can do that to which is why porn is bad But women make money off of it, some make big money off of porn or only fans. So yea if men start thinking more with their brains than their dicks and if women start using their brains instead of their bodies, than this objectiving will eventually lower. It won't stop because their are assholes. It will lower if we have better morals, better teaching and better parents. People need to stop using sex to get what they want, people need to stop watching so much and making so much porn, people need to understand that actions have reactions. If you post yourself naked, rather you like it or not someones gonna view as nothing more than a sex doll. Is that right? No nor is it fair but thats just how the world is

Anonymous · Answer

Because generally speaking, most guys have a higher sex drive I believe (ie most guys would like it at least once, EVERY day, where a lot of women are happy with only a couple times a week, if that), and the fact that many guys aren't getting ANY sex, EVER! I was actually talking with a woman on this site yesterday about this. I think because guys talk about sex so much, that women ASSUME that we are HAVING sex all the time, but you have to remember how most women are! lol Single guys are most likely NEVER (or very rarely) having sex. So we want it even more than we naturally do, which is already daily! Plus we are visual, and visually stimulated 24/7. Think about it for a minute, 24/7, everywhere! Not just everyday women we see, but in ALL media, internet, tv, advertising etc. Another thing a lot of women don't realize is unlike you, we don't see someone attractive and just think, "oh, they're attractive" (we can, but...), a lot of the time, seeing an attractive woman totally arouses us or puts us in the mood for sex. A lot of women don't understand that because you're not the same that way.

odd1out_sask · Answer

Sometimes it could seem that way for girls because they're not as interested in sex as guys are. I know from personal experience this is not the case for me but it could seem that way because I love sex and I will have it everyday if I can which is the same as most guys. The difference may be that if I find that the relationship is nothing but sex I tend to veer away from it because even though sex is very important to me it can't be the only thing in a relationship.

Guys tend to use sex as validation that they are in a good place and it is extremely simple for girls to give guys that validation whereas girls need the romance and all the little extras that guys need to educate themselves in a different way for each girl because not only does each girl require something different it seems, for most of them anyway, guys have to figure it out themselves making it a lot more difficult for us guys to give you girls validation. So if a guy is not giving you that validation and trying for you, try talking with him and letting him know what you need out of the relationship. And if he is giving you that validation, and if the only thing he asked for is sex on a regular basis then is really that hard?

On the other hand if you truly feel like all he is interested in is sex and he doesn't give you any sort of validation to earn it then you should decide whether or not the relationship is worth staying in.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Lol I see this a lot. Let me explain. Women are beholden to sex like women or beholden to what a man can give them (wealth without having to work, money, expensive gifts, security…) women don’t want men for men either. Women want men so they don’t have to do much of anything else. So it’s an exchange… it’s always has been. Men do so much for women and women try to manipulate men into getting what they want besides having to give anything in return.

And for the objectifying women. I saw the best video on it. Women always say, “I have the right to show off my body without getting objectified…” well, he is a thought.. why are you showing off your body to random people in the first place? If you didn’t want to be show off your body, you would only a) show your friends, take pictures and leave it in your camera roll, etc… you do have a right to do what you want… however, you can’t expect to do what you want and expect others to do what you want as well. It doesn’t work that way.. another goood example is women will feel that 99% of people they aren’t attracted too is objectifying them. But the 1% of guys that’s she is attracted to that does the same thing is ok. Moral of the story is, you want to show off your body, you can’t control what people think or say. You have the right to have no one touch you. But that’s it. If you don’t like what people are doing. Don’t post your pics on social media to draw that attention. Y’all alway say you have a right to do what you want, well everyone else has rights just like you. You can control who comments on you or who looks at you on social media. But that’s it.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

i would flag here the lack of comprehensiveness in the mind of asker. When you say objectifying girls over centuries have themselved liked muscluar men, lifting on their muscles treating them a little bad and that in general also has been observed. you can't clap from one hand. so its both ways. Objectifying is a subjective word. Girls see salary, looks height, so are the boys they check on their parameters. GIrls get off easily and can switch relations at ease. Strategically speaking to them attachment is replaced by the word Love in most cases to fight of their loneliness, deprivation may be in love in attention in care. To boys love means love every single thought about her, it may be that it becomes more transient than girls but more intense and true it is than the counterpart.
Phase wise if you have been in any relationship and relation boys believe they can only commit to if their needs are also fulfilled simultaneously the more smartly you do it the more attractive you become. Otherwise no guy would only like texting talking meeting up shopping its just the opposite these are liked by girls for them to have confidence and for guy to gain their trust so ultimately everything becomes girl oriented If he ask sex they call creepy and vagyera its society made of males dont forget. And when a guy doesn't want to share girls interest they name him he might be cheating or not intrested anymore. If law one day would include psychologist to amend it, more number of girls would be found in penitentiary than guys. SO objectifying can be different for people its just that do you respect every one or are you mean. Reader knows who h/she is

TransAm85 · Answer

This is not true. Men have feelings and emotions just like us, but they express themselves differently. That being said, in ur age range, men also have other priorities before a steady relationship, so of course sex is a substitute. It doesn't mean they don't care about you, but they're not looking for anything serious. Possibly you can find one in ur age range, but I doubt it. Ur young, I dk why u care about a b/f so much. Go to school, have fun w/ur friends, and enjoy ur 20s! Men will always be around..

Subarugirl · Answer

Long story short, men care about a lot more than just sex, however they either don’t talk about it or don’t realize it. Men have this deep desire to be respected, most also want intimacy, and they get that feeling of intimacy through physical intimacy while for women, they want that emotional intimacy. When it comes down to objectification, that’s more of a social and cultural issue. Instead of boys being taught to see girls as peers, society and toxic masculinity teaches them to see women as objects, or sexual conquests. You can feel free to blame purity culture for that one along with pornography.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I'd say almost all men do care about sex, it is in their nature BUT they can and do care about you or us too.

I've had male friends that even when I was drunk and making a move on them, refused... said I care about you too much as a friend to lose you, I'd rather stay friends. They are some of the best friends I've ever had, they would watch out for me.

Best thing I say and what I did with my current man, is no sex until we've dated a lot and been together for awhile. I know some guys will fake it until they get it, but it makes it a lot of extra work.

So far it seems to be working out really well with him, but I've been down this road many times before so I keep expecting something to go wrong, but that is my issue, not his.

You just haven't found the right guy yet. Don't give up hope.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

I admit as a guy I think about sex but i also care about how she feels to. It can’t be a one sided affair where I’m just taking advantage of her. So I understand. Not saying this to sugarcoat my answer, genuinely mean that. But it’s also the culture, the environment we live in.

If we listen to modern music or shows, it promotes sex through lyrics and tv shows or even shows. Girls/women have to understand they are usually the ones that are pursued, not guys. I’ve talked to girls but apparently when a girl or woman picks a guy she looks at height, weight, she ponders how it will be like for her to be in bed with him.

proNutro · Answer

I actually have incredibly nice guy friends, like legit genuine ones that aren’t friends with me because they want to jump at any opportunity. So, it frustrates me when people who don’t even know them say that when not all guy friends are like this.
Some people actually just do enjoy friendship and don’t want anything more.
Also, not all men care only about sex. A lot of men and a lot of women do but also a lot of them don’t.
Just need to find the good people who will actually care about you for YOU.

dustybiker · Answer

Of course there is always going to be that “select group”. In fairness it’s not the case with most men, unless that’s all you have to offer them. They’ll either be polite or not know what to say to you.
It can be fun being in the middle of a home repair store, or other, talking about the details of some project. Surrounded by a group of men with their mouths dropped because you know what a flange is. They forget you’re a woman briefly, as you finish their sentences, completely understanding what they are getting at. Then expression snaps back as if talking to a woman, then back to a man... Due to this shock to their system you are solidly remembered and respected the next time you go in. A few times, when seen walking through the door, yelled at from several aisles down, asking if you can explain something to their coworker or if they can hire you, again. Respect is earned no matter who you are talking to. Pretty powerful stuff when accomplished.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not 100 percent true but sex is important to us when we really like a girl , Sex is a way we feel connected to a girl especially a girl we gave our heart to , a way we express our feelings for her if a girl that we love and care about stops giving is sex we start to feel she doesn’t value us anymore and start to feel she is losing interest in us , We feel she is up to no good and doesn’t love us the way we love her , Why sex in relationships is important , when sex dies down usually the relationship does as well , and resentments set in that can tear a relationship apart , A guy that loves his girl doesn’t want her banging some other dude , her intimacy and affection makes us feel she loves and values us so we will protect her at all cost , when she pulls away we feel disrespected and hurt that she doesn’t look up to us anymore

Valso · Answer

Probably because women have shown so many of us that you're good for nothing else. You women suck even at friendship and are certainly incapable of giving love and trust the way a man can, so what do you expect? I used to care about women for them, as humans but one showed me that was wrong by breaking my heart. After that I kept seeing the same thing with other women, my friends' girlfriends and my best friend's wife as well, so I started using women what they were intended for by the nature - breeding tools. I've been doing so ever since and never regretted it.

LEETSBEREAL · Answer

It's programming if your attractive he'll be attracted to you. Even if he doesn't want to be. No one can control attraction. You like what you like.

Beat the shit out of him and he'll lose all attraction for you point blank. No man will admit that it happened let alone want you sexually. Any sexual desires he had that will kill it instantly believe me. 😂😂The majority of my friends are male. We are still great friends coz I know how to have a laugh, give great advice plus compared to me. They are shitty gamers 😂😂😂 who still can't beat me. I am practically one of them now. They know I can handle myself so they call me for serious shit as well. Show him you can hold your own that attraction will be replaced with respect.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

The way to avoid these men is to give them the idea you will be a lot of work to get into bed, like if he believes he has to date you for months or years, pay for a wedding, but a home, and marry you, to get sex, he won’t chase you down if he is not interested in your heart and soul.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

That's absolutely not true! All the men in my life want a serious relationship. BUT,
they want it with the right woman. It doesn't mean though that they wouldn't take what's offered by women. Also, as I can see, bringing up sex early is a good way to filter women.
I have a mate who doesn't date, so he doesn't have sex either as he wants to find someone he can settle down with. I knew a guy who waited until marriage. My brother said no to sex when she was too easy.

Guy13 · Answer

For the same reason women only care about:
Emotion and punishing man with 30 minutes of incessant, “how my day went, how your day went, Mom called…sister called…”. And house-walking “carrying own make-believe conversation in head OR out loud talking…not sure if talking to guy or herself‼️ BECAUSE girls are wired that
way.
SO GOOD SEX IS EARNED and.., PART OF DEAL…and the only way you’re going to get me to endure Feminine 🧠. I’ll even pay you per BJ just to avoid the “nagging” Divorce…

TheorionMage · Answer

BECAUSE YOU possess control of an irreplaceable natural resource
in a hypocritical society which denies you MEANINGFUL pragmatic preparation
to negotiate YOUR unique divine franchise!

Those who DO insightfully master the unwritten 'rules of society' are branded 'sluts',
trophy wives or 'gold diggers' yet are 'scandalous' $$$ public Celebrities ~

Everyone WANTS the FAITHFUL shameless 'bad girl' arm-candy...
who'll only be 'scandalous' WITH YOU.
"... Lookie what (not WHO) I've got!!! "

LDN924853 · Answer

Short versions, some men just see the hookup culture and bluntly go into it without the games. Others just need to communicate it like women but actually do say it and with double standards its "all the time"

Men today fit mostly Into two categories. They either want something lasting and long term but do want satisfaction in it considering how little women really do know and/or try in bed. Many women think its just a particpation ribbon type of thing for showing up and dont put real work in. Is it a big thing? No, do men have to specifically say what they want often because they usually go unheard yes. The other side is a lot of men see onlyfans, hookup culture etc and just dont hide in it like women do because they are less mess types. Women say "no hookups" but play games and say theyre "down" after one date. Men won't bother with those little ins and outs so to speak and will just bluntly cut through the showmanship.

RealMarek · Answer

There are a lot of reasons for this. First, men looking for sexual conquests has always been a thing even when it was socially frowned upon. Now that we have had decades of “liberation” combined with technology like tinder, fewer people expect monogamy, so there is little inhibition about simply seeking sex without seeking a relationship to go with it. That said, it is not all men (or women) who just want sex. A healthy man will, make no mistake, desire sex, but it is possible for a man to want it to come with a real relationship and to wait until the time is right. If you want such a man you need to be as clear about that expectation and reject those who don’t meet it. It’s not easy.

SmokyOne · Answer

I don't think that we do to be fair.. it may come down to your choice in friends and the environment you are pursuing.

Personally I was raised to always be respectful, especially towards women. I have 6 sisters and believe me when I say they weren't/ aren't shy about putting me in my place when I start behaving like a "mindless pig" as another user wrote.

Through highschool and adulthood the majority of my friends were female and I did sleep with a few of them but it was generally initiated by them. Still friends with all of them today a decade or so later.

skytatoe · Answer

You know, if someone likes YOU as a person, its quite normal for them to also develop attraction. Doesn't mean you're objectified, that's a very unfortunate frame to be coming from cause you'll miss out on a lot of people who genuinely like you AND are attracted.

If they're attracted of course they're gonna want sex. But I mean you can find guys who aren't attracted to you no matter how amazing of a person you are, mostly gay people or people who find you completely not their type. And you can be friends with them, but it'll be rarer, the more of an attractive body, face and personality you have, the harder it will be.

Ekiewlen · Answer

Sadly it goes like this. In order for the species to survive ineffably it must go like this. MEN are programmed on a biological level to always want/be ready for copulation.

women are only ready/available/willing SOMETIMES.
in this way the species has successfully survived ice ages and any number of terrible things that have Befallen humanity (esp early on)

it’s a species fail safe. We always want to have sex so when u guys want to that one time we’re ready. So boom. More humans.

lucas262 · Answer

You can present yourself in any way you want. And I as a man reserve the right to look.

Feminism created this nonsense, along with the sexual revolution, the nerfing of the family unit, and the bogus # me too and divorce laws that dis incentivesed the idea of marriage.

For most men it's too dangerous and unfulfilling to marry And have been burned enough dating it because about sex and feelings don't matter kind of thing.

Best you can do is, not give it up refuse to be pressured and mot open that up till a guy wants more, but you need to be looking for the real thing to have it.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

I have multiple guy friends that genuinely like me for me no sexual or romance involved. I guess it's not about the company you keep. If you don't like something tell that person or group you don't like it. If they don't listen find better friend. Not all men are like that hon

Apple1996 · Answer

Have you ever met a man? They all have 1001 freaking hobbies so obviously they care about a lot more then just sex...

mobiusforniner · Answer

We dont. Why do women think sex is all men want? And why equate love to sexual intent? If I have feelings for my female friend, that doesn't mean I want to sleep with her. Often its an emotion that builds over time. It means i care about her and want her to be happy. I will work hard to ensure she feels loved and cared for.

you're just upset your guy friends have feelings for you, you can't reciprocate them, so you blame their supposed sexual intent as justification for being butthurt the friendship has ended.

Sure, there are assholes who have sex as their only objective, but to paint all guys with that brush is ridiculous.

dscott · Answer

My wife and I married for physical attraction and sex we are happily married 10 years later and have sex 7 days a week 3 to 10 times a day we have a lot of sex and that's why we got married if it wasn't about sex we would just be platonic freinds and I would not live with her or spend money on her because men marry for sex and women marry for security let's say what it really is

VLAD76 · Answer

The idea men only care about sex us a common misconception that has been known for a long time now, and maybe men can want it more then a women it's all apples and oranges and essentially about the birds and the bees. Its Really down to securing your genetics! A lot of if female species on earth will have 2 or more mates to secure pregnancy and she stronger genetics/DNA. Take live bearing fish like the Molly the ratio is 2 males to every female! But yes men and women are equally interested in sex because if this were not the case your question nor my answer would quite possibly never happened!

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Who says we only care about sex? Sex is the tip of the iceberg in terms of the value men can get from having women in our lives, romantically or platonically. The men who *only* care about sex just have tunnel vision because they're too immature to see past their immediate sexual fixation.

Tonita91996 · Answer

Nobody understands lust I don't really understand it myself I don't know what that is supposed to mean why they will sleep with you especially if they don't like you. I'm not a man and it gives me a headache trying to understand them. The only thing I don't like is when they get you in trouble and call you the slut when they easily sleep with you like you did to them. The stuff is crazy just a bunch of foolishness.

Waldoe · Answer

Do you want the Truth or some 'Feel Good' excuse?
I'll try the "Truth" ...
Men and all other Male Creatures were created to Impregnate the female of their species, dog, horse, bull, cat...
Thats our #1 Goal... eating and sleeping just enables us to perform our #1 Goal... so, you probably wonder Why? some try to explain it through God, or Religion... but Frogs are not religious... and they act just like Pigs or Donkeys or Humans or Mice... the female lifts her tail and ALL the males gather around...

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If all the men you meet are only interested in sex, you need to change something that you are doing. We are not all like that, just as all women are not alike. Thinking we are all alike just because we are men is called a prejudice.

Jay3344 · Answer

I don’t think that’s true. If it was we wouldn’t have the innovations and creations that men have been responsible for. It takes dedication and caring to discover, create music and art, build structures that last centuries. I mean men care about a lot of things. Sex is just up there with the rest.

Phoenix98 · Answer

A lot us don’t it’s just a stereotype.

And if your being used just for sex and or let yourself be objectified then what does that say about you? Especially if you let it happen.

We do care about sex but it’s by far the only thing we care or think about.

garykingg · Answer

No we care more about our goals, our purpose and our dreams. Why do you think some men embark on MGTOW and NOFAP? To be the best version of themselves, and leave a mark on this Earth before they die. Move out of our way. Sex isn't the goal, its a distraction.

NathanDavis · Answer

your auto-correct must be acting up... Why do ~absolute douchebags~ only care about sex? ***

RawIronhide · Answer

Hey you're making a judgement about what's going on in someone else's brain witch is impossible to do. The reason you think men objectify you is because you FEEL objectified regardless of how that person actually is perceiving you. You create your own tourment.

SamIam96 · Answer

I don't agree with the "only" characterization. Sure, sex is a huge part of our instinctive drives. We are also driven to eat and drink regularly. I push back on you saying only. We DO enjoy your company and other aspects of a good relationship. I think a sexless relationship is a non-starter for most men.

themann43 · Answer

This is not true to some extent. If we enjoy being around you and see you as a potential mate, then we care about things like hanging out and going on dates.

But like if im out at the club on Saturday night, then yeah im just looking to dance with you, have drinks, then have sex. Or something like that 🤷🏻‍♂️

So i guess it depends where your meeting guys to some extent…

Anonymous · Answer

A friend here described it perfectly. It’s an “exchange”. Women don’t just want men for being men, either. They want financial freedom, independence, security etc.
They want something to brag.
Suppose someone quite handsome or wealthy objectifies you. Would you complain? I don’t think so.

Anonymous · Answer

Cause women are not that great as people. Constantly nagging and complaining. Entitled princess attitude and superficial as fuck. Taking pictures of themselves all day long and posting shots of their ass on social media for attention. Then you wonder why guys only want you for your body. Quit blaming men and take responsibility

baldsubhuman · Answer

Because humans are animals. I don't know why women act as if only men are bound by instincts when women are also the same. The only difference is that women also want sex (with best males) but they value other things like resources and status etc. Men are just honest about it.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Maybe you're meeting/hanging around the wrong kind of men, because ALL men aren't like that even though there may be some that are.

AvaOneLasTime · Answer

Not only about sex. And not all.
Everyone has his own passions, hobbies, loved and closed ones, interests, goals, and those are all things they care about. In my experience, late at night, many men actually want to cuddle.

TallAnon · Answer

Biology, women are made to pick the ideal partner and nurture children. Men are made to impregnate as many women as possible and protect the ones producing offspring.

We can act however smart we want, put on a suit and write poems, but we are all born an animal with basic instincts.

McKellar · Answer

Perhaps guys who have and want side chicks,... yes I can understand your question.
To other guys who do truly desire a beautiful and fruitful type of a relationship,... no that's not the case. Don't get me wrong sex is absolutely great and wonderful to have and should be part within every romantic relationship but not always necessarily the key focused point. There are many elements within a romantic relationship that also keeps the relationship together and stable. Like I mentioned, sex isn't necessarily the main key focused point, but it is important within a romantic relationship. Just like the saying goes, "The couple that plays together, stays together".

Unless you have guy friends who are in your friendzone?

Anonymous · Answer

Sex is so important. I am a female and i give importance on sex in a relationship a lot. It is not for just for men. But i understand what you mean when you say ‘’only’’ care about sex. I think this is not only because their libido it is about the social pressure. When a man thinks that ‘’ He has high score’’ he also thinks He is very significant person. It is really miserable thought but because of the society pressure this is the fact today.

TheFlak38 · Answer

Because you don't have anything else to offer. All you have is your sexual assets that you're exhibiting all the time, non-stop. Women love to be objectified. Women are sex objects.

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