I hooked up with this guy that I’ve known for half my life and the next morning I was blocked on everything? Why?

[Anonymous]

He couldn’t get hard at all (maybe once for about 15 seconds) and after trying for like 30min we gave up. He said he wanted to see me again and try to make it up, but the next day I was blocked on everything… For context we’re both in our early 20s. It was our first time hooking up and we were both pretty excited about it.

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He was visibly stressed and frustrated and said “this isn’t me” and that it should’ve been the “best I’ve ever had”

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

He was clearly embarrassed and humiliated because he had performance anxiety.


Embarrassment can lead to shame and he probably thought blocking you would be the best way to avoid that shame and embarrassment.


After all, men are so strict on themselves when it comes to dick size ad performance, that when something like this happens, it crushes them. So, he might have felt horrible, and never wanted to see you again because of this. He might be worried that you will judge him.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

agreed, since also society sets that stigma that we have to be strong, provide, lead and take action. You get stigmatized as useless if failing in sex. If failing already to get hard, it means already being a failure in the most primitive thing every living species can do: procreating.

[Asker]

do you guys think there’s a chance I’d ever hear back from him? I’m not terribly saddened but I won’t lie and say that it didn’t hurt

[Fromdusktilldawn]

It would certainly help talking to him, even if he declines at first, you got to insist. A talk about the sitch will ease his mind

[devilish-cutie]

he is extremely embarrassed, if he doesn't seem like a bad guy and you really like him try to talk to him in rl

[Fromdusktilldawn]

this is the most obvious thing ever. The poor dude is embarrassed as hell. At first he said he want to see you again but then remember he was probably lying the whole night in he bed awake thinking about that and how that hurt his ego, his manhood and reputation. He couldn't take it and hoped to bury his embarrassment by cutting contact with you

[spartan55]

Dude is beyond embarrassed that he couldn't answer the bell...🙄Wouldn't be so bad if he didn't have all that false pornstar bravado.

[In_Trance]

Because he used you

[Asker]

but I mean it’s not like he came or anything, it was a lose-lose situation for both of us.

[In_Trance]

That most likely has a lot to do with it

[flirtatiousgirl]

He was play with you