Yeah I already posted like two days ago but I realised some things and now it makes more sense and I want some advice
This guy picked me up at a concert. I always see stuff like that as an opportunity and he was 100% my type. There were many people we mutually know and he told me to tell everyone who harasses me I'm his girlfriend for some reason
Then we went out to his car. I don't recall a lot as I was really drunk but we started making out. We didn't have sex because we didn't have protection and he told me it's okay he'll just use his hands. Then suddenly I got nauseous and got out of the car and threw up, I think I've literally never been so drunk in my life. He told me it's okay and told me not to worry as it's happened to him many times. He literally kissed me after I threw up like
Then what I remember is suddenly we're in the backseat, there's a blanket, I'm still drunk as fuck for some reason, I fall on the seat close my eyes, he asks me if I want to sleep and I'm like yeahhhh (No I sure as hell wouldn't have said that if I was in my right mind)
In the morning I wake up, worst headache of my life and I still feel drunk, I'm laying there and he's just sitting there looking depressed. I held his hand, he laid on me put his head on my chest and I just held him, then he kissed me got up got dressed and sat in the front. He asked me why I'm looking at him like that and I said oh nothing (I was worried because he was so quiet) but I was still out of it
I got dressed too, he drove me to the station, we didn't exchange anything and he hugged me and we said bye
Then I try look for his Instagram later that day and find out I'm blocked. I didn't even know he knows my Instagram by the way.
I really liked him and I'm not sure if maybe he thought I'm just not into him or something or what do you think? I'm so sad I can't believe I just fell asleep but I was so drunk. If I ever see him again he'll probably ignore me. Should I just let this go? I want to scream lol
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Dang sis, that's a tricky situation. From the sounds of it, you were both really drunk and things kinda spiraled. A few thoughts:
- Definitely don't beat yourself up too much. We've all been there doing dumb shit when we're smashed.
- Seems like you were both down for it at first, but he probably got weird feelings being the only sober one after you passed out.
- Blocking you is an overreaction on his part though. He should've talked it out when you were sober.
- If you really want closure, you could try finding a mutual friend to put in a good word for you and see if he'll unblock to chat. Explain your side calmly.
- But there's a chance he just wants to forget it happened. Up to you if you can let it go at that.
- In future, maybe hold back on the drinking till you really know a guy! Live and learn sis.
For now, keep your head up. His blocking you says more about him than you. If it's meant to be, he'll come around. And if not, you'll meet someone even better who won't disappear on ya!
You got sloppy drunk, threw up and passed out. Bunch of red flags there for anyone over 22-24. Know your limit.
If he's ony 21 or 22, maybe it's something else or maybe he's mature for his age... hard to say without knowing him.
Yeah I'm 21 and he's like 29 I'd guess. But we're both in a scene where that happens a lot I guess, he was really drunk too. This literally never happens to me though, I never throw up from alcohol I don't know what was wrong, I just wish I could show the real me and not whatever that was
If he's 29 I'd bet that is it. I know at that point in my life I was already at the point where we're not even leaving together if you're that far gone. It may be a scene where it happens a lot, but he wasn't going home with the scene he was going home with you. What was different this time? Drink on an empty stomach? Dehydrated? Different drinks than normal? Sucks if he's gone gone, but at least figure out what happened so you can prevent it in the future.
I know getting that drunk can be mortifying and you’re blaming yourself a lot at the moment, but there’s no need to beat yourself up. This outcome may have been inevitable if he has no intention to stay, and it’s probably better you didn’t have sex because then you might feel used.