Why do I waste my time wanting and overthinking about people despite knowing that they're a terrible match?

[Anonymous]

I am a loyal, stable yet a fun person.

I fell for someone unstable, judgy, flirty and fun person.

Only good trait about him is he's sometimes kind and caring.

He led me on but now still I'm overthinking about what if he ends up with my friend?
They both are growing close these days.

He used to treat me as special
BUT HE diverted his attention towards her since the day she wore revealing clothes and seduced him.

I know I should throw both of them off down the gutter and let them live happily ever after after messing with me.

But still I wonder : WHY?
WILL HE FRIENDZONE HER?
WILL THEY MARRY?
WILL THEY BREAK UP?
WILL HE LOVE HER FOREVER OR LOSE INTEREST?

[devilish-cutie]

its because you are attracted to him and care about him. its normal and ok, thats what its called being unhappy in love, its complicated, its not always simple as someone didn't want me
sometimes you fall for someone who isn't good for you
thats why many women stay with abusers and such
its like a curse... people are not just rational, they are also emotional and emotions are hard to control and impossible to delete... all you can do is to learn how to deal with them better...
try to stay away from them as much as possible and occupay your life with anything else you are interested in

[Asker]

Thank you so much.

[devilish-cutie]

take care and good luck :)
it takes time but you do fall out of love sort of and its way easier when you fall for someone else (hopefully someone better)

[Asker]

Surely, I just have to remind myself that he flirts in the name of friendship and I shouldn't feel special or take it personally.

[devilish-cutie]

he flirts with everyone so ofc it isn't special...

[Matcha19]

I’m an over thinker too and a catch like you, so honestly I don't know. The dating pool now is so difficult b/c it’s an era of convenience.