What things makes guys see a woman beyond just a fun girlfriend to lovebomb and have sex with?

[Anonymous]

Obviously a hook-up would be an easy way to tell (then again those girls don't care) but several guys are actually keeping a girl as a ''long-term girlfriend'' but will never have kids with her. The ''girlfriend'' leaves after 2-5 years of it going nowhere beyond just emotions (lovebombing bs such as ''the love of my life'', ''Oh one when we have kids'', ''oh my future wife'', etc), sex and her cooking him meals.

How can a woman avoid being placed on that category of just the fun girlfriend but no serious talk nor actual plans made (ex: talk about housing issues, sharing of goals, helping each other with bills, getting the family more involved, etc.)?

What things would make guys see a woman beyond just a ''whatever girlfriend'' you'll never have a family with?

[Anonymous]

There is no way to make a guy see a woman beyond just a fun girlfriend until he is ready to settle down, which is happening later in life today than in the past for men, if ever. Settling down is less appealing in general for men these day, for a lot of reasons.

But assuming a guy is ready, the answer to what makes a particular woman more to him than just a fun girlfriend depends on him. For a lot of guys, it's him being able to see her as the mother of his children, as a women he wants to live with and spend time with day after day. Does he genuinely enjoy her company? Does he think she will be a good parent? Is she a good lover? Do they have a lot in common?

[Asker]

Things have gotten harder but I still see this happening. I just saw some guy settling down in my area settling down and he's only 24; that's young. Others are a bit older than him and even in their 30's but certain are young.
That's why I was confused. I thought none form a family in their still 20's anymore. Someone once said about just feeling it when it's the right one, at the right moment, there is trust and she's worth risking it all; he can be young or older when it happens.

[Ralpfh]

That's an interesting question, anon.

There's not a correct answer because every single guy seeks for different aspects on a woman that make him dicide wich one is just a "fun girlfriend" or a "family girlfriend". Some guy could describe what kind of woman he wants to have a family with but, for me, the same description could be a not wife material.

There are some general characteristics I think most men want on a woman: share values, thinking, goals and someone complementary. A woman we are proud
to be with.

[Ralpfh]

Lol sorry. I sent it accidentally and I didn't finish. Obviously, men are very visual as well so we want a women who's beautiful for our eyes. I can't tell you specifically what you should do but always try to be the best version of yourself. If you notice you have some weaknesses, improve them. Take care of your self, mentally and physically. You'll notice a lot of guys will die for. Good luck girl!

[Anonymous]

A guy can still love you and not want kids. It's a rotten world to bring kids into and a hard life and you have to be rich to have kids.

[Asker]

Why should I adjust to his agenda? If he doesn't want kids then shouldn't be be finding a woman that doesn't want kids either?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes figure it out when you first start dating. There are too many single moms these days.

[Asker]

Yes and there certain people in my area raised by both parents too. I still believe in raising a child in a nuclear family. Why can't I have that goal in life?

[Opinion Owner]

You can have that goal, find someone that wants what you do.

[clampfan101]

A serious relationship needs friendship.

[Asker]

They all start as friendship and from there on, I guess it's about luck.