I have a guy friend I’ve been friends with for over 3 years now that I admittedly have feelings for. We spend almost everyday messaging each other, talking on the phone, watching movies, etc.
I never planned to admit my feelings for him, I just wanted to move on without making him feel uncomfortable..
so I started talking to other guys.. flirting etc. i ended up telling him about one of my co workers who I thought was cute.
He got rlly upset with me and didn’t talk for a couple of days. I waited until he came to me and he admitted that he was upset that I very easily flirted with my co worker but I never have with him.. and how I must think he’s not worth it etc. at this point I’m thinking he must like me back bc he keeps emphasizing that he couldn’t understand why I’ve never been that way with him. He also admits that he couldn’t stand the idea of me being in a relationship bc guy friends are usually pushed aside and he didn’t want to lose me as a friend, he even got emotional about it (which I’ve never seen him do before)
I decide fuck it! I’m just gonna tell him how I feel ! So I did. I admitted my feelings for him and told him how I didn’t expect him to feel the same etc.. he revealed that he once had feelings for me but he gave up on that idea a long time ago. He said that he wasn’t rejecting me but he hates relationships and he likes us better as friends bc if we dated each other he’d be too insecure and I’d prob regret dating him bc I’d think other guys were cuter than him.
I let him know that wouldn’t be the case but I was fine with us just being friends. Now I notice he’s a lot more caring towards me.. messaging me relatively fast. I guess I’m just confused? but I’d like to know what the best way of moving on would be?
I never planned to admit my feelings for him, I just wanted to move on without making him feel uncomfortable..
so I started talking to other guys.. flirting etc. i ended up telling him about one of my co workers who I thought was cute.
He got rlly upset with me and didn’t talk for a couple of days. I waited until he came to me and he admitted that he was upset that I very easily flirted with my co worker but I never have with him.. and how I must think he’s not worth it etc. at this point I’m thinking he must like me back bc he keeps emphasizing that he couldn’t understand why I’ve never been that way with him. He also admits that he couldn’t stand the idea of me being in a relationship bc guy friends are usually pushed aside and he didn’t want to lose me as a friend, he even got emotional about it (which I’ve never seen him do before)
I decide fuck it! I’m just gonna tell him how I feel ! So I did. I admitted my feelings for him and told him how I didn’t expect him to feel the same etc.. he revealed that he once had feelings for me but he gave up on that idea a long time ago. He said that he wasn’t rejecting me but he hates relationships and he likes us better as friends bc if we dated each other he’d be too insecure and I’d prob regret dating him bc I’d think other guys were cuter than him.
I let him know that wouldn’t be the case but I was fine with us just being friends. Now I notice he’s a lot more caring towards me.. messaging me relatively fast. I guess I’m just confused? but I’d like to know what the best way of moving on would be?
