I fell in love for the first time with a girl
We were texting a lot, laughing, hugging i thought everything was perfect, but she got a boyfriend and started avoiding our meetings
She might know that i love her, but i haven't said it yet
I can't move on because she keeps texting me and i don't want to hurt her buy totally ignoring her
We have to meet sometimes, because we are in a same group of sport and I don't know what i want to do
When i try to forget her it is extremely painful, but when she reaches out or we meet in person it makes me hurt too
I literally thing about beating her f ing boyfriend till his last breath whenever i see him in the street and i try my best to not do anything that will affect her
How can i move on, eliminate my feelings i think of her every second 24/7 and no matter what i can't stop it
I can't talk to anyone about that, I can't even train normally, she is effecting my body, causing fatigue, pain and destroys my motivation. Dedication is the only thing that pushing me towards my goals
I want this to end and become a person i will be proud of and will not look in the mirror with a hatred
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Dude, that's a really rough situation. Breaking feelings for your first love is so freakin' hard. But you gotta take care of yourself man. A few things that might help:
- Distance is key. Limit texts/hangouts with her as much as possible, even if it's painful at first. Outta sight, outta mind, you know?
- Channel your energy elsewhere. Throw yourself hardcore into your sport, the gym, hobbies - anything to keep busy and improve yourself.
- Talk it out. Find a good friend you can vent to. Talking helps process feelings rather than letting them fester inside.
- Remind yourself of your worth. You're a king - don't ever forget that. Hold your head high when you see her boyfriend, don't stoop to his level no matter what.
- Give it time. Healing takes awhile. Be patient with yourself but keep putting in the work. One day you'll wake up and she won't consume your thoughts like before.
- Stay busy. Pick up a side project, work more hours, focus on school - fill your free time so you aren't just alone with your mind.
You got this bro. Don't lose sight of who you want to become. This too shall pass - stay strong til it does! You deserve way better than longing after someone else's girl.
She's not that into you. Go no contact with her and find a girl who's into you.
I can't avoid to meet her
Why do u love a girl so much , that to one who has a boyfriend
she had no boyfriend when i meet her and she did things for me that noone done
Things like what? Bruh am sure she did the same things with a lot of guys as friends obviously
she was approaching me and no matter how weird or lame i was she kept approach
she was hugging me, laughing with me and we had great conversations, we were texting each other whole day, she was the first one to initiate conversations, she was sending voice messages about so small things happened in her life, i knew everything she was doing and she know mine, but everything changed i saw her today and she just shake my hands didn't even try to communicate i asked few questions and I don't know she was totally uninterrested, i feel so stupid to though that someone like her could actually like me, it was my happiest period of my life, we even hanged out twice, but how can something good happend to me? Everything started to fall apart, when i thought that i lost everything in life she gave me motivation in life, i started changing, everything was going good in sport, in life, university, but this motivation, this hope gave me the pain i can't describe, after her everything changed to worst, i can't trust people, the only thing i am doing right now is thinking about her or doing something extreme to forget about her for some time
She left because women don’t chase brother. It’s unmasculine for a man to let a women chase him , how do u both look
? then.
She didn't chase. It was for a first days when she initiated conversations, but i was bringing up a lot of topics and after that we initiated almost same ammount of conversation, but wth am i talking about the fact is that she is lost now and i can't erase her from my head
Any idea what to do? Should i just ghost her next time she texts me? Or should i give her short and cold answers?
What’s wrong with u? U said u like her now u ghost her? Get help
Are you even reading? I said i f ing love her, but she got a Boyfriend!!!
How do u 3 look?
I try to not get involved and let her be happy with her boyfriend, but i can't just go and tell her: hey i love, i know you have a boyfriend, so please don't contact me again
Thats why i was wondering what was the best way to end contact
What’s so great about her? How she looks
How do u know she has a boyfriend? maybe it's not true, do u have proof?