Does anyone struggle with conversations? In general do you ever worried you become boring or on and on same topic? ? Wish I was smarter?

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i am realising I think I am boring with conversations. people lose interest very quickly when it subjects am interested in. I get scared to make a conversation with people just in case they zone out. I feel am not smart enough once I start to proceed intelligence long conversations. It’s like I think it clear, but when comes to words it goes all jumbled. Then I get frustrated because I can’t clearly say what I think.

Massageman · Accepted Answer

You could make a good living writing biden's speeches - - - - - - - but I digress - - - --

you don't have to be a genius on particular topics to talk about them.
Timely "that's interesting", or "I never knew that- ya' learn something new each day", type of comments are certainly welcome.

And you don't have to be an expert to be enthusiastic about a topic. The enthusiasm about something goes a long way into helping "pull" your thinking INTO that topic. An example for me: I took the "mandatory" 3 years of piano as a kid when it was fashionable around 1960. I slogged through the finger exercises. I fought to have good form with correct fingering, but I never really got all that good at it. Now, after seeing how much easier it is to play using correct methodology, I enthusiastically look for more info on my own and practice without being forced to: my interest is pulling me along to learn more. There are a lot of "artists" that make many (really poor) paintings and drawings as they learn : their interest (in art) pulls them along until they become more skilled. But, I'm not going to tear apart someone's dreams/goals by telling them their art is "wrong" technically. I may comment about the use of complementary colors, or explain what "perspective" is if they need help in those areas, because my training for my bachelor degree taught me those things. Even without any technical knowledge about art/photography/graphics, someone can certainly converse: ie. "What were you thinking about when you painted that tree?" "Did it bring back a feeling from your childhood?" "Your lake is very pretty. Did you ever visit/camp at a lake? I did and I had a lot of fun". Good conversation doesn't have to be complicated. Don't overthink it and just let it happen! You do NOT have to get all philosophical about things about which you chat. Good luck.

Guy__ · Accepted Answer

I'm exactly as you describe, except I don't worry about it. I think let the awkwardness flow and trust that it assists with sexual tension. When talking to other people than girls I'm interested in, I just trust that they'll forgive it, and if they don't it's their problem.

Blackcupcake · Accepted Answer

no people really enjoy talking to me and I know I am a fun person to talk to.

I think you just need to find the right people who match your vibe, cause I’m sure you’re not boring or unintelligent. maybe you’re just talking to the “wrong” people

Vikkrram · Answer

It happens coz you become over excited when you speaking , and what you have knowledge wid you , you want to share all at a same time. So that's why it happens

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I thought people are generally shallow and like shallow conversations. For me, it was kinda opposite as for you. My conversations are bit too technical and factual so others don't like them.

bowenw · Answer

I'm the same as you. I overthink things and my brain gets too far ahead of my mouth.

TrillXHippy · Answer

I struggle a lot with conversations. I’m a boring guy so I don’t really don’t know what to talk about so I’m normally quiet

nawtee_me · Answer

practice makes perfect if there is a perfect when it comes to conversations. They are not always so easy...

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I'm not good at conversations unless i know someone pretty well. It sucks.

spartan55 · Answer

I've been given the gift of gab.

Anonymous · Answer

I am still thinking about your small feet

In_Trance · Answer

No, not an issue for me

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