Why am I nice and jovial even towards people who violate me?

[Remnaourei2]

Like people who knowingly put my health at risk and are just selfish people. Or people who are annoying or harassing me on purpose. I have learned how to just ignore the latter at my job for the most part. Ignoring guys who do nothing but harass me and exist to neg me and so on and so forth. Extremely selfish, immature individuals.

But there are other situations where I can't get away from people who are selfish and violate me. Like a roommate who smokes pot inside even though they know it causes me health problems. I feel like I am just still nice even though I have been angry about this before. I realised I can't control others. And I don't know... I wonder if it's ok to be nice and happy even to people who are bad to me.

Sometimes I have to wonder.

[Anonymous]

Because you have high level of empathy, you feel guilty fast and also you put others first, it's a good thing when it comes to a relationship with the right person... but also it could be a problem when it comes to cold-hearted people like these because they won't stop annoying you unless you stand up for yourself... These kind of people won't get hurt easily so don't be afraid to defend yourself, they deserve it and even if you said harsh words, they would just go away and search for another victim to abuse, they won't even get sad...

[Remnaourei2]

I think its notmy nature to insult even when insulted but thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I know because I was like you but now I'm still nice but with boundaries and rules... I don't insult anybody but I defend myself, I tell them to not talk to me again, or to leave in a cold way... People like these are useless and you will feel much better once they leave...

[Remnaourei2]

Ahh if you mean ignoring and avoiding such people as much as possible or doing gray rock... I definitely have been learning how to do that and how effective it is. I assumed you meant like telling people to screw off.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah Don't ignore them because they will come back, they will just leave when they feel that you could say something that makes them feel bad or embarrassed, you could ask a friend for a good reply then say it to them

[Remnaourei2]

I often think of saying "I'm not your friend." Or "im not interested."

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah you could say that in a cold way so that they could them leave, Good luck, you can do it 🤗

[Opinion Owner]

*They could leave

[Remnaourei2]

Thanks so much! I hope i will do it one day.

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome you can do it 🤗

[Remnaourei2]

you're right i need to get some air in my chest and speak my truth haha. God bless!

[Opinion Owner]

Hahaha I know how it feels 😂 good luck

[Guy13]

Some guy will find you and value that trait that others take advantage of. Hopefully, you’ll be able to let go of the bad for the good natured

[Remnaourei2]

Thank you this gives me hope

[Guy13]

I find it attractive…how hard you love. It’s very difficult to find another that gives one a sense of “I’m in for the long haul” 👍

[Remnaourei2]

Thats aeesome to hear thank you. I hope God blesses me to stick out any issues when i make a commitment.