Why do so many guys still apparently believe that pick-up lines actually work?

Question

They don't. They're cringey, embarrassing and silly.  Stop  using them!

Msputiton · Accepted Answer

Those are the corny guys.

But most guys who ask girl out have a pick up line but their trick is to make them so smooth, you don't even know it's a pick up line.

I have a cousin he had me dying, he has this really smooth line, and he excuted it to perfection.

He married now.

He was talking to us about his line, and how to execute it.

His wife got real quiet for a moment, and looked at him and was like

Wife: you serious? That's the line you used on all your women?

Cousin: yeah

Wife: you used that shit on me.

Cousin: it worked didn't it?

Wife: your ass had me feelin special, but i was just another chick you played.

She was all kind of heated🤣

douride2 · Accepted Answer

Probably for the same reason they think we like getting dick pics.

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

Because we have to say something to initiate contact with a female. For a lot of men, a cringeworthy pick-up line is the best idea that they have had to date.
The typical male is not a good communicator. Women can talk to one another for hours. Two men can have an entire conversation in a couple of grunts and nods.
Move that into a bar, or nightclub. A man can be burning with desire for a particular girl, but have no idea how to approach her without looking like an idiot, or a creeper. That is why the bottom feeders of the pick-up artist community are able to charge men thousands of dollars for seminars, or courses, about how to talk to females.

NYlatefun · Accepted Answer

Thank you! I hate pick up lines they’re so stupid.

Levin · Answer

Obviously, they would have to be used in an ironic cheesy fashion.

They indicate that the guy is not arsed either way how the interaction goes, which shows confidence.

This guy would smash you before you even had time to type out another complaint on Gag.

Screenwriter · Answer

Nothing wrong with a pickup line, or let's call it this, a "line," if it's good and funny. If it's creepy and embarrassing, it's not a pickup line. It's a fail.

Wise, witty guys say wise, witty things and they don't cast their lines at first sight. Bad lines come from thirsty guys so bent on the outcome, they can't see the trees, it's all forest to them.

Men who take the time to talk to a woman and get to know her will discover her sense of humor, what she likes and more. Then he can use a line that works.

Effably · Answer

They absolutely can work in that a new one likely causes a chuckle or two. Talking to someone for the first time when you made them laugh is a lot easier. You also often only have a few lines to catch interest. A standardized means of doing so does reduce the sting of potential rejection.

Of course it can also play as irony, a humorous satirical conformity to expectations, or any other thing.

Generally speaking I'd say that a new pickup line that genuinely makes someone laugh and smile is good for you. That is the typical idea.

Most people in dating tend to go "Do you want to hear one?" which is more or less an invitation to laughing at it together while also conveying the intention to date.

But sure, good social skills do more. Not a lot of people have those.

Novacane · Answer

I am a grim believer that pick up lines don’t work, unless you are extremely attractive guy then let’s be honest you can say anything and women would like it. But I believe people use pick up lines because it’s hard to even satisfy a woman when it comes to catching their attention i have seen lots of women say not to “what so hard just say hi” and when men do that they follow up with “wow don’t just say hi, be creative, be different” hence when the pick up lines come in, as much as I agree they don’t work but it’s like a signal saying they are tryin to start a convo with you, because if you try to have a regular convo with a girl 8/10 she won’t even entertain that conversation.

Guy13 · Answer

We’re sorry the men of Argentina are not creative enough to squeeze some 🚼 out of their “pick-up” lines…. Come to USA for a better experience. I’ve had 2 out of 3 girls’ night women either up on their toes in their high heels 👠 or staring at my magical lips while I’m speaking.
—Maybe Biden will give you a cell phone and fly you over for free

Keyboardkat · Answer

I remember a 1968 movie with Peter Sellers called, "The Party." Sellers played a nerdy Indian sad sack whose opening line to every woman me meets at a party is to mumble, "Speak Hindustani?" Mind you, all the women he used this on were non-Indian. Needless to say, it was not successful!

Razzmatazz09090 · Answer

I'm surprised to hear this from a 40-year-old. You say what you want and I'm going to keep doing me, but in my experience I tell you pick up line can be in good icebreaker and if you can make her laugh then you're doing good. Same thing with dad jokes, I've noticed women my age appreciate a good dad joke or a silly pick up line, and even younger women appreciate a corny pickup line if they understand It's not really a pickup line it's more of a joke. But then we have these ball breakers like you who tried to make men feel bad for the sake of being men. Thanks for the advice though I'll make sure I don't use any corning pick up lines with any 40-year-olds.

MountAverage · Answer

The only way they can work is when done in a very obviously ironic way. That way he signals her that he too thinks these pick-up lines are cringey, which lets her know they're on a similar wavelength in that regard and they can laugh about it together.

t-8900 · Answer

its not the line that matters, it's the delivery. thats why i'd highly advise against it through text or w/e. Your body language, your tone, and your facial expression are the factors in the success of a pick up line along with to a large degree the woman's initial attraction.

HawkPerception · Answer

I've never used them myself because I've also always found them to be cringey, but to each their own. For most things that you don't like, there will be someone else in the world that does like it. I've seen a fair bit of girls on dating sites literally have "Surprise me with your best pickup line" as the first thing on their profile. To each their own, right?

Elliegirl · Answer

As long as it’s cute and funny and not creepy, pickup lines can be a good way to break the ice. If he has nothing interesting to say after that or expects me to be into him
off that one line, that’s when there’s a problem. Like, seriously, did you think I was gonna go home with you off a line I’ve heard a billion times before? Use that to let me know you think I’m cute, then be engaging and make me actually want to keep talking to you.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

I never used those since they seem too forward. I prefer to get in a fun and engaging conversation first before I even consider asking a girl out.

I sometimes wonder if guys using those actually expect to succeed or if they're just having some fun. If they're expecting to succeed to get a date, I've almost never seen one succeed that way. In the extremely, extremely rare times where I've seen that happen, I think they could have succeeded without.

AviatorTom · Answer

I don't think guys expect the pick-up lines work, it's just a way of breaking the ice when they can't think of something else to say. I always used a simple pick-up line, "Hi, my name is..."

Please don't dismiss a guy for a bad pick-up line. Some of them are petty funny.

abc3643 · Answer

They must've worked for Matt Schatt...

jshm2 · Answer

Because they do in most cases.

The purpose of "chatup lines/pickup lines" is to break ice, and introduce humour. If they don't, then you won't get far using them.

But you could come across salty bitches, or those who will have revenge sex, or just put out if you're paying for drinks.

Hence they are not always required.

globetrotter22 · Answer

I’ve never used one in my life. I’ve also can count the number of times on one hand where i saw a guy do that.

I guess i did tell one girl one time she looked like Jennifer Aniston years ago (she did). She smiled and loved hearing that. Would that be considered a pick up line?

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Because movies Movies did it movies and other forms of media Them things are good at brainwashing people and also making people do stupid stuff

demonics · Answer

Because they work? So long as you follow these simple rules. 1. Be attractive. 2. Don't be unattractive. You can literally be a convicted felon and/or pedophile. Shout out to this Tinder experiment:

lightbulb27 · Answer

that's beyond cringeworthy. sadly there's not much good training for guys and endless rejection is a challenge.

because they are really dunce... poorly trained? or, it works sometimes on drunk females.

Anonymous · Answer

I know right. I 100% lose all respect when some idiot comes up to me with anything like that.

The men that I was insanely attracted to didn’t have to use no pickup-lines. They weren’t even considered “funny”.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Please tell me. If not the pick up lines, then how can we initiate a conversation with a girl we like.

All the other girls are cool to be talked with, but that one girl may create some kind of problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we’ve been told by women that we have to do so. We can’t just say “Hey how’s it going? Mind if I join you?”

We’re expected to say something interesting and funny and different, as if talking to a woman is a goddamn elevator pitch—and if we don’t do it we’re “boring” or “not trying hard enough.”

Pick up lines work. If they didn’t there wouldn’t be pick up artists. Yes, they are nauseating and stupid, but they still manage to talk their way into your pants. Of course this doesn’t mean that they are good partners or interested in a relationship, but it does mean they know how to con their way into getting some pussy.

ronaldo75 · Answer

They're men who are ignorant as to how society and relationships have changed. Its like women who think being cute and female is enough to attract a solid good man. Nah, that's changed. women today can be cute or whatever but men now carry radar to detect shit like depression, attitude, lingering feelings towards exes, inability to control emotion, lack of drive, lack of motivation, no real goals etc etc.

DuskEmbrace_X · Answer

Too many to be honest. As if pick-up lines ever worked in the first place.

007kingifrit · Answer

I've gotten laid from pickup lines. they do work. they are conversation starters

conversations are HARD to start. it's a lot of work to find a way to speak to a stranger and they help. what are you doing to start conversations without needing pickup lines?

purplepoppy · Answer

Guys think pick up lines are like magic spells with mystical pantie removing abilities.

exitseven · Answer

I think that if a girl thinks a guy is attractive then any old pickup line will usually score. If he is a dork than he could recite the Gettysburg Address and not get any traction.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd like to say they are morons. I never understood it myself why these are a thing. i find physics better than that.
But the bigger solution would be to not reward such behavior. And yet pick up lines attracts the same type of girls, that these guys themselves are.

genericname85 · Answer

they do work xD but only if the girl is already attracted. they just don't work if she's not. i think it's a good shit test. if you use a pickup line and she still goes home with you, you know she's into you for sure xD

normalice · Answer

Guys dont know how to initiate a conversation with a stranger. Girls don't either but no one expects them to. Pick up lines are a corny way to maybe make her laugh ironically.

Anonymous · Answer

Why do 95% of women sit passively on their hands waiting patiently for the guy they desperately want to notice them, too cowardly to actually do anything about it, and then the bitter ones complain about HOW the men who actually have the courage to take action do it? Do you not see how sadly pathetic that makes you look?

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

If it's legit funny and not cringy it could work for me. Anything that talks about my looks though is an instant turn off.

Moose304 · Answer

I never really used a pickup line. I was always just who I was. Today most of the time I will just wave a girl sitting by herself over to the dartboard or pool table. However, I am also not trying to hook up, just be friends.

TallAnon · Answer

Because it does, like it or not.
You don't think we keep trying the same thing without any positive reinforcement, do you?
Make a girl laugh, treat her like she's special and tell her you like her, next thing you know she's sucking your dick.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I prefer guys who use poetry. That is creative and classy.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Pretty sure most men are aware they are cringey, but that's the point. They should be used as icebreakers to alleviate tension and be playful.

DavidRaul · Answer

Well they actually don't. Girls cringe when guys sent a pick up line, thats what i have experienced. Just have a normal conversation, thats enough for her too feel good about you

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

They were told being funny matters. Girls laugh at me all the time because i am so manly it's satirical to them

Ghostluck · Answer

I only use them to be funny, like, obviously funny because I purposely find the lamest one to say and blurt it out. It gets a laugh because they know I'm being stupid. Now, for any guy using them to truly get lucky, I pity the guy, lol.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I’ve seen em work. its just that the woman had to be either willing or interested or you need to be attractive enough.

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

I can confidently say I've seen them work, as long as they're not overly corny, or sexual. I personally don't use them, though

jasco · Answer

Honestly to you yea it doesn't work but just like with cat calling, some women like them. I have seen a few that do. The vast majority I don't know sense I don't used pick up lines but who knows.

front2back · Answer

Dating apps like Tidner, where if you don't whoo a woman in the first instant you're done for.

Anonymous · Answer

The same reason dudes still believe messaging someone on a dating app and asking if they want to fuck works. . . or sending dick pics works. . . or wearing a pussy hat and going to women's march works. . .

. . . because sometimes it does.

RafaRodri · Answer

Because women won’t reply to their texts? Maybe they’re that desperate or lack imagination I don't know

Anonymous · Answer

I assume it’s for the same reason women still get rubber tits, rubber lips, ratchet nails, spider lashes, etc... even though 99.9999999999% of men repeatedly state how garbage it makes a female look.

PortraitOfTerd · Answer

i thought the same thing, but not as many guys are as intelligent as me to realise its cringe and stupid

DiegoO · Answer

I don't know. I tried it once and meh, I never bother to do it again. Also cat calling. I did it once, and same. I just find it stupid.

shadowarrior99 · Answer

Why do so many women want and expect pick up lines?

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

It works if you are handsome and know which one to use with whom also depends on the age of the girl

ODC2112 · Answer

Because they are stupid or insecure and they seek for woman like them.

Chthou95 · Answer

Meh depends on the guy. Some guys depending on how they look can get away with it. Look up the halo effect

bamesjond0069 · Answer

The pickup line is irrelevant. If the guy is attractive to the girl any line works and if he's not then no line will work.

Deserter · Answer

It's just a way to break the ice, and it's a plus if you make her laugh

Birbman · Answer

Maybe because it has been too popularised by media.

scooogy · Answer

Wow, that sample pick-up line turned off even me as a guy. 😐

sheikalana · Answer

I guess no one ever told them is not funny.

Beerluvr · Answer

omg relax. Some guys may use them as a funny way to break the ice.

Anonymous · Answer

I know they don't so I stopped trying. If a girl likes me, she can approach me first :)

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