Why is it that the most stereotypically masculine men are usually more worrisome/protective over their woman and who she’s been with sexually?

[Anonymous]

So, I’ve been around these types of men nearly all my life.
What I’ve noticed is that they are usually not as forgiving, lenient, or dismissive over the sexual past of the woman they are seeing.

They’ll make a lot of jokes on this stuff like they don’t really care how promiscuous or “slutty” their woman is, but it’s all just jokes.

When they are serious with a woman, they want them all to themselves. They want their woman as theirs.
MMA fighters, first responders, combat arms military, etc.
They’ve nearly all been the same in one main regard:

Dislike over women who are known as “sluts” and “whores.”

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These are assuming the men are somewhat confident and secure in themselves.

I feel like, the LESS self-respect a man has and the LESS security he has in himself, the more he’ll accept
or tolerate the same in a woman.

[MCheetah]

I have no idea, as I've never seen a correlation between masculinity/weakness in men with jealousy or possessiveness.

Although I have many flaws and insecurities I hate about myself (most of them physical), I still have self-respect and dignity and would never tolerate being cheated on or made out to be a cuck. I don't hate "sluts or whores" (aside from the predatory, lazy entitled ones on OnlyFans), but I would never want to date or marry one, either.

My feeling is a woman can be a slut or whore all she wants and no one should stop her from that but at the same time, she is not entitled to respect from society or a quality partner for what she does, either. It's basically trading her dignity and reputation for easy cash. But the pieces of trash women nowadays want the best of both worlds, with even less responsibility or accountability attached to it.

"Kiss my ass for being a lazy useless cum dumpster on OnlyFans or you're an incel and I'm going to get you Canceled on Twitter."

THAT is the BS *I'm* talking about. Not the traditional porn star with enough self-awareness to understand the internet is forever and she's likely not going to be a wife and mother in her future.

But yeah, I just don't see the relationship/connection here.

[NathanDavis]

I really don't know but I have noticed that these guys have one thing in common... they do spend a lot of time away from their partners... military people even go as far as continents away, first responders often work long shifts and they also work late nights, MMA fighters spend long hours focused on just themselves, they travel a lot, some of them won't even "touch" their wives near fights because whatever

and then you also have the actual truth... these are insecure men that lack confidence in themselves first, therefore... they have a really hard time trusting their partners to the point in which even the past that had nothing to do with them, will make their more fragile ego get all that insecure

so yes... insecure and absent, is just a bad combo to deal with for these kind of people

[Asker]

Naturally, these men have above average testosterone.

So, they are less likely to accept things that men with less testosterone would accept.

So, a lesser test man wouldn’t mind if his woman has just been with a lot of men even the night before.

These are the same types of men that don’t like doing hard/masculine stuff like fighting, shooting, physical training, etc.

These men couldn’t protect anyone and not even themselves.

So, of course it makes sense that they will get the woman that every other man has already been with….

What else can you expect from these types of men?

[NathanDavis]

that is interesting... men in the military are not willing to accept "their" women having a past, however... the men in the military are okay with raping each other and have men raping other men

is that also because of the "above average testosterone" ?

you know... biology...

[Asker]

Now you’re just talking some weird nonsense.

What are you talking about lmao….

[NathanDavis]

an right...

you're naive to the world around you, I keep forgetting that

[Asker]

Right, rather than explain you keep mocking…

Rigggghhhttt

[NathanDavis]

biology...

[Asker]

What’s biology?

[NathanDavis]

your answer for everything

[Asker]

What’s “everything?”

[NathanDavis]

never trust atoms... they make up everything

[Asker]

What are atoms? Adams? A tums?

[Dinklex3]

That hasn't been my experience. A lot of them have been pretty accepting and open minded, regardless of their past. As long as she hasn't slept with his buddies, they're fine.

[anon1903]

Thank you! I thought I was the only one who saw it! It's why I don't do alpha.

[NamerOfStars]

It comes of overvaluing status, a very strongly masculine element in psychology. The feminine counterpart is weirdly similar, but is more about position, or role within a group; the masculine kind is almost indepedent of that, and is the kind of thing that almost exists without other people, like a man would still have it alone in the woods.

The overly reductionist bon mot would be that they're lightweights who can't hold their testosterone.

[bamesjond0069]

Because we actually care about our standing in society? We have standards for ourselves? Its the same answer to the question, why do very pretty girls not usually marry men who work at mcdonalds? Because they have standards and they want to do better than other women.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don't like sluts and whores either, and would prefer a virgin, and I look nothing like those guys.

[Zenit93]

Weaker men tend to be more willing to accept behavior that emasculates them.

[Iron_Man]

It’s the nature of the beast