Why is my coworker nervous around me but doesn't talk much when I try to start convos? He will end them abruptly even when HE starts them?

[Anonymous]

And when i ask him a question like small talk he has ONE WORD ANSWER.

This guy used to hit on me years ago!

[Anonymous]

He's either moved on. Or he wants you to think he's moved on.
I used to like a woman I worked with. I asked her out and she rejected me. It was tough to take as we had a very good working relationship that spilled over into our personal lives. She liked me, I know she did. And having to listen about all her dating failures I knew I'd treat her better than any of those guys had. So I asked her out and she smiled ear to ear then rejected me. Obviously it hurt but I liked what we had that I didn't want to change anything. So on the surface I moved on. But afterwards anytime I did anything that any friend would do. She had to let me know that we were JUST friends. I knew that! I wasn't asking her out again. And after a while I started to resent the fact she didn't seem to want to move on from the rejection. So minus the nervous part I started doing what the guy you're talking about is doing. Not because I wanted to date her anymore. But I did still like her. And for some reason she couldn't accept that I could live with her just being a friend again. So after a while I came to conclusion she wasn't my friend she just acted the part for attention. And so I just didn't want to associate for her. Because it wasn't a healthy relationship. After that she just got more and more toxic till she eventually just quit. Not before making attempts to try to get me fired though. Lol
I still wish her happiness though. I guess I just like to see the good in everyone (no matter how small).
So I understand this guys actions.

[Asker]

We never had any deep conversation so i dont see how it could be that serious

[Opinion Owner]

It's probably not that serious. And he's probably not nervous.

[Asker]

Why not nervous? What is he then?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't know I don't know him personally. I can only go off the info you give me. You said he "acts nervous". But then you say you haven't had any deep conversations. Why would he be nervous around you? I mean I could understand it if you'd showed some interest in him. But you've not hinted at anything of the sort. So I have to conclude it's in your head

[Asker]

Well he used to hit on me and gove me some attentions unwarranted. I figured that maybe he liked me? I mean also we had some eye contacts over the years that very much seemed strong to me. His eyes effect me! I figured maybe he feels something too especially when we ave locked eyes fr no apparent reason.

[Opinion Owner]

And you didn't return his advances because? Yeah he might have been hitting on you as you said. But you didn't return his advances so he moved on. Now he's probably just playing with you. What reason would he have to do otherwise.

[Iron_Man]

He is nervous he's shy he's a horrible Communicator he chokes in the line of fire he's a long work in progress are you sure you want to put up with that and date him

[Asker]

Haha thats cute. I don't know. I guess i have patience.

[Iron_Man]

ok lol

[Guy13]

Uncomfortable to the point he can’t stay in your presence. His conscious may be acting up.

[Avicenna]

Must still be attracted to you- a lot