Why does a guy look when I'm not looking but avoids/ gets distant when I physically get closer?

[Anonymous]

It's a gym setting

[SimpleGuy95]

Because he's unsure how he feels about you.
You may have attracted his eyes but maybe he's uncomfortable because he's already taken or he's insecure and therefore not ready to speak it out.

[Asker]

That makes a lot of sense. I'm a friendly girl. Do I need to come off as more friendly or?

[SimpleGuy95]

Yes it could help but I´m not really sure what he´s up to, therefore don´t be discouraged if he avoids a conversation.

[spartan55]

Aren't you kind of old for this type of thing?

[Asker]

Old? I'm just being observant. I can't tell if someone is into me or not

[spartan55]

How about TALK to them instead? Staring means nothing.

[Asker]

That's the thing... if I see someone who doesn't want to cross paths with me for whatever reason... that doesn't intrigue me to want to talk to them

[spartan55]

That makes no sense. How do you know if someone wants to talk to you or not?

[Asker]

I never said he wanted to talk to me.
I said his body language is showing he's not interested. Like not wanting to bump into me or cross paths. Him acting that way doesn't make me want to chase after him

[Asker]

Let alone talk to him

[spartan55]

I never said that you said he wanted to talk to you. Chasing? Please. Nobody is chasing anyone here. You think you know what he thinks because of your assessment of his body language? All this bullshit and you won't even talk to him... have fun by yourself. Seems like you expect guys to just come to you while you do nothing.

[spartan55]

You think he is deliberately avoiding you? You are out of your mind. He has no idea you are interested.

[Asker]

He does I stared him down and smiled at him. I have to look approachable right. I can't and won't approach a guy first because its unlady like. I just guess we are both going to miss out on eachother then

[spartan55]

Unladylike? Uh... this isn't the 1960's anymore. I'm just telling you from a guy's POV that your way will not work very well.

[Asker]

To be honest I used to approach hella men and ask them out in highschool. I got rejected ALL the time. So I've learned I have to be approachable. Not chase after a guy or even speak to him first. I feel men really value women more based on the girl they had to work the hardest for. I really believe that. there's no way I can approach someone I'm attracted to anymore because of fear of rejection hence the story about highschool... so I guess I'm going to be single then