How could I continue after a guy deleted his message?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy at a ball yesterday, and we exchanged our Instagram later. It was a great talk. After the ball, I firstly sent him a message saying he was charming and nice to meet him. He replied me like 5 hours later, saying “it was great to meet you too. You looked amazing:) it’s the shame that the night ends so early.”
I saw the notification this morning, but I forgot to read it on Instagram. After around 8 hours, he deleted his message 😭. What can I do now? I don’t mean to ignore him 😭

[Guy13]

Tell him you had a life and stop being spoiled little Banquet Boy or BallBoy if you prefer.
That’s really freaky behavior for a guy as that’s how a woman woukd react. You did say you all had nice talk. You found a guy who may be emotional before sex like a girl. 😭

[Asker]

Exactly! But I wanna be polite and make friends with him at least.

[Guy13]

It’s not your issue. Maybe, he’s PMSing

[hypotheticallyurs]

Here’s a few things you can do:
Power move: answer to his deleted message and pretend he didn’t delete it
Polite move: pretend he didn’t send it and just ask about something else
Curious move: ask why he deleted it and let him know, depending on his answer, that you saw it

[Asker]

Which one is better? I can’t imagine how will he react 😢

[hypotheticallyurs]

It’s rlly up to you, but I am super curious so I would do the curious move. It can also lead into some playful flirting if he denies it — u can tease him and try to competitively pull it outta him. Depends on the guy tho 🙏

[Asker]

Do I need to explain to him why I didn’t read the message?

[hypotheticallyurs]

Nah u dont, not unless it’s asked or it becomes obv important!

[Asker]

Hi, I sent my message about asking why he deleted. He read it, and hasn’t given me a reply so far. Does it mean we are done?

[hypotheticallyurs]

It doesn’t! It likely means he’s nervous and might need some time. When you see him in person or the next time you talk just treat him like you usually do and encourage him subtlety :)

[Asker]

Okayyy! Thank you so much! Your comments helped me a lot!

[hypotheticallyurs]

I’m glad!! :D

[WhitneySnow]

Apologize right away. Tell him “Thank you😊” and you totally didn’t mean to ignore him.

[Anonymous]

Is this what people do now, they don’t exchange phone numbers but instead use Instagram?

[RuthlessAggression]

A ball? Is this the 1800's?

And I would just move on. Typically those types of things are a "heat of the moment" thing.

[Asker]

Maybe you are right

[RuthlessAggression]

I usually am

[Jamie05rhs]

Call him out! Say "why did you delete your message?". Call him out for being a pansy. Lol

[Asker]

I asked, and I saw he read it, but no reply. Does it mean we are done?

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow. That's crazy. He's losing a good opportunity just because he's a chicken. I'm sorry; I don't really know what to tell you.

[Asker]

🥹anyway thank you for your reply)

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome.

[doe9de]

Just ask him why he deleted it.

[Asker]

I asked, and I saw he has read my message, but he hasn’t replied to me

[Iron_Man]

That’s odd I don’t like to delete messages

[spartan55]

Then don't.