I deleted my message after it took him too long to open it. Am I petty?

[Anonymous]

I sent a guy message. It was on delivered for 6 days. I deleted my message after 6 days. I felt like after 6 days I don’t even need their reply anymore.
I had just sent ”what are you upto”

Once before it took him 2 days to reply. He told me that he had some notification problems and didn’t see my message. I don’t know if I buy that excuse anymore.

[MoniqueTLC]

Six days is quite some time for someone to 'not see' a text, so he probably saw but just didn't feel the need to respond. He could have left you on read but keeping it on delivered just gives him an opening to make an excuse.
You didn't have to delete it, as it wouldn't change anything but if it made you feel better than just move on from it. Sounds like you may not be a priority for this guy so let him do his thing, and you carry on with your own, without giving him anymore thought

[Asker]

Maybe he thought he could answer to my message whenever he wants and then pretend that he didn’t see it lol but when I deleted it he can’t do that

[Asker]

I wanted to let him know that I don’t want his reply anymore.

[Asker]

And I don’t but his bullshit

[Asker]

From now on if he wants to talk to me he has to send me a text

[Asker]

Buy*

[Asker]

In the past he once said that he didn’t see my message for 2 days because he didn’t got notification. So i feel like he wanted to use that same excuse.

[Asker]

He also said then that he uses whatsapp rarely

[Asker]

Also I deleted the message from both sides. He can’t see my message and can’t reply to it.

[MoniqueTLC]

Yes, moving forward, let him message you. He needs to put in some effort if he wants your attention!

[Asker]

Yes that’s my plan

[Asker]

I saw him suddenly yesterday he was online but I had already deleted my message. When my message was still on delivered I never saw him on online.

[Anonymous]

Not petty. He took too long to respond. It's better than my boyfriend. He messages then deletes it. And when he's mad and knows I don't like to be left on read, he messages, then deletes it. So trust me, if it's taking him that long to read it, then it's fine to delete it. Different story if it was five minutes later (and a constant thing).

[Asker]

Maybe he thought he could answer to my message whenever he wants and then pretend that he didn’t see it lol but when I deleted it he can’t do that

[Asker]

I don’t believe the bullshit excuse ooh I didn’t get notification

[Asker]

In the past he once said that he didn’t see my message for 2 days because he didn’t got notification. So i feel like he wanted to use that same excuse.

[Opinion Owner]

Girl I hear you. Preach it. Shit men I say. You know what we need? To go out, party and show these guys what their missing out on. he is clearly using it an an excuse, but may I just say that oy are saving yourself from him right now. Part from him, and if he does ever hit you up, leave him on delivered for a really long time, then respond saying, "Sorry, I was busy." Or maybeee leave him on read. He is absolutely loving the fact that he is getting attention, but take that away from him sis!

[Asker]

Yeah I won’t contact him anymore.

[spartan55]

That's a really important sounding message you are throwing a fit about. I wouldn't have responded to it either.

[boggboss]

I wouldn't say its petty just silly as he will still know u sent it so it dont change anything

[Asker]

Yeah but I don’t want his reply anymore

[Asker]

How do you know that he knows that I sent it?

[Asker]

Maybe he thought he could answer to my message whenever he wants and then pretend that he didn’t see it lol but when I deleted it he can’t do that

[boggboss]

So if u didn't want the replay why not just move on don't even focus on him or if he replaied

Because most apps tend to say if the person deleted a message and objectify if he didn't see it that means he done nothing wrong by not opening it so either way it dont help

[boggboss]

Or maybe your oberthinking from all the mind games u play or have had played on you

[Asker]

But I feel like he purposely did not open my message

[Asker]

I don’t believe that for 6 days he hasn’t checked his whatsapp even if he uses it rarely.

[Asker]

And yeah he can now see that I’ve deleted a message but he hasn’t asked me about it and the message wasn’t relevant anymore

[boggboss]

So even if he ignored it deliberately why delete the message if u feel he took the piss just remove him and move on clearly your upset about it so why only delete the message

[Asker]

Because removing him won’t remove the message and I eant him to know that I don’t need his reply after leaving my message on delivered for 6 days. In the past he once said that he didn’t see my message for 2 days because he didn’t got notification. So i feel like he wanted to use that same excuse. I’m not contacting him anymore.

[Asker]

If he wants to chat with me it’s upto him to contact me.

[boggboss]

Lol but if he didn't care to respond why would he care that u removed it just shows you was upset that he didn't respond

[Asker]

But if he didn’t really see it he won’t know what it was.

[Asker]

Well now he knows either way I’m not messaging him.

[boggboss]

It won't matter because he will know because u deleted it

[Asker]

That’s the point. He can’t reply to it anymore if he wanted to play the excuse ” ooh I didn’t see it ”

[boggboss]

Well he can always reply and just say sorry I didn't I had this what is it u asked lol

[Asker]

I didn’t want him to do that that’s why I deleted my message.

[boggboss]

But he still can do that

[Asker]

I deleted the message from both sides

[Asker]

He can’t see it anymore.

[boggboss]

So he won't be informed that u deleted it or know that the notification is gone lol

[Asker]

”Well he can always reply and just say sorry I didn't I had this what is it u asked lol”
If he does that I say that it wasn’t anything important.

[Asker]

He will see an alert that message was deleted

[boggboss]

So he will see it so he can always respond

[Asker]

No the only thing he can see is ” this message is deleted”

[boggboss]

And he can ask what u sent it dont prevent him from asking

[Asker]

Yeah. He can ask me that if he wants to. I’m not messaging first though.

[Asker]

by the way I saw his friend’s snap and he looked depressed/miserable lol. Fidgeting with his hands… He was out with his group of friends.

[boggboss]

Why are u so obsessed with him

[Asker]

I just noticee that. I follow his friend and I came cross that story

[FilmGuy93]

That's not really, it's just obvious that that relationship won't be going anywhere.

[Asker]

by the way I saw his friend’s snap and he looked depressed/miserable lol. Fidgeting with his hands… He was out with his group of friends.

[Asker]

Also he’s been now been more frequently online on whatsapp

[FilmGuy93]

There you go! You have to know when it's time to say adios

[Asker]

What’s there you go?

[FilmGuy93]

Oh, it's an expression native English speakers use as another way of say "that is an example of what I mean."

[Asker]

That he’s now more online on whatsapp?

[FilmGuy93]

No that he was out with his friends, his hands were fidgeting and he looked miserable. Clearly something is bothering him, and he isn't talking with you about it.

[TheMajesticKing777]

You can't be petty for just changing your mind lol

[Asker]

Maybe he thought he could answer to my message whenever he wants and then pretend that he didn’t see it lol but when I deleted it he can’t do that
That’s why I deleted it.

[TheMajesticKing777]

I know why you deleted it, I was giving you a finesse, nice job with the self snitching 😂

[Asker]

Anyway was it the right thing to do?

[Asker]

at least he knows now that I don’t need his reply anymore.

[Asker]

And I don’t believe the bullshit excuse ooh I didn’t get notification

[TheMajesticKing777]

It's only the right thing to do if you decided to move on and not try again some other time lol

[Asker]

I won’t contact him anymore. If he wants to talk to me he can send me a message.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Then it's all good

[Asker]

by the way I saw his friend’s snap and he looked depressed/miserable lol. Fidgeting with his hands… He was out with his group of friends.

[TheMajesticKing777]

That's all him lol

[Asker]

What do u mean?

[TheMajesticKing777]

That's his problem lol

[Asker]

Yeah. Here’s more background:

we had fall out recently and earlier a month ago I had removed him from Instagram. I wanted to see if he’s open to work things out.. I still kept him on whatsapp. My first conversation with him after the fallout was pleasent and he was replying promptly…

[TheMajesticKing777]

He finally messaged you?

[Asker]

I reached out to him both times.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Lol.

[Asker]

What?

[TheMajesticKing777]

Read the the tenth comment counting up our conversation from my "lol" 😂

[Asker]

After he left me on delivered I haven’t messaged him

[TheMajesticKing777]

So when was this, I'm confused lol

[Asker]

The conversation that ended up me being left delivered (I initiated it) and the conversation before that.

[Asker]

I haven’t initiated any new conversations after I deleted my last message to him

[TheMajesticKing777]

Has he contacted you you since you went ghost?

[Asker]

I deleted my message on Tuesday night and now it’s Friday morning where I live. No he hasn’t contacted me.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Then what did you mean by fallout?

[Asker]

It happened a month ago. Because of some issues didn’t want to continue to date. I then removed him from my Instagram (we both use that more actively)

[TheMajesticKing777]

Oh okay, interesting, let's see what happens I guess

[Asker]

Or he’s still pissed about the instagram thing. When I first removed him from there he noticed and said that it was radical for me to remove him

[TheMajesticKing777]

Well at least now he knows you aren't just going to wait for him

[Asker]

Wait for what? For him to reply my message?

[TheMajesticKing777]

Yep.

[Asker]

Do you think he probably would’ve replied with the lame excuse “ sorry I didn’t saw your message” ?
maybe that way he wanted me to add him back on Instagram lol…. Because if he never intended to reply to me would’ve just left me on read.