Why would he delete me off Facebook? Was he just using me even though we were talking for 5 months?

[Angieje]

Ok so I’ve been talking to this guy for 5 months and at first it was long distance until I moved to his state ( it wasn’t because of him or anything my mom decided to move.) The first week of getting here he decided to book a room in this breakfast inn place. I was getting kind of nervous because why basically meet up in a hotel room for your first date? I decided to discuss with him that I wasn’t ready for sex or anything and he even apologized and I thought we came to an agreement. Well shorty after he tried having sex with me not once but twice I said I couldn’t and it kind of got awkward after that. He dropped me off in the morning and texted me 2 hours later being like “ I just got home” our texts felt different tho he went from calling me bbs to not calling me anything and taking forever to reply when we would basically talk all day everyday. The next day I then discussed with him saying I felt weird about the whole situation and he apologized and basically summed it to “ next time we’ll hang in a place without less temptations” I tried moving on from it but our texts still felt different he didn’t text me good morning anymore or tell me he was going to bed or like I said earlier calling me bbs he would even take 6 hours to reply sometimes when it was never like that. So I texted him basically being like “ hey I’m getting the vibe your not interested anymore nor wanting to move forward and just wanted to see where your at” he then said “ what makes you say that? You didn’t even respond to my last message.” I honestly didn’t respond because he replied 6 hours later and it just seemed kinda forced. So I respond “ I mean I was feeling it before so that’s why I asked” and then he literally replied a day later saying “ I was feeling it too it seemed” so I just backed off from that point on tbh I was feeling super unwanted. It’s been three days and I haven’t heard from him but he actually deleted one of his comments on my photos and unfriended me on Facebook.

[HollyK21]

Since you guys didn’t have sex I wouldn’t say he used you but I do believe the intent to use you was there. 5 months dedicated to trying to get laid and not receiving it probably really put him out but oh well. Although I can understand the disappointment, you definitely dodged a bullet.

[MzAsh]

Mostly interested in sex and he was testing you. He was hoping your boundaries would be weak despite what you told him. And when he realized sex wasn’t on the table anytime soon, he pulled back. Good on you for noticing and pulling back on him even further. Nicely executed.

[Jfranco12]

Seems like he was only interested In sex. Did either of you ever talk about a relationship or set boundaries etc? I mean he booked a breakfast inn on your first date that pretty much says it all. I would let it go and not contact again.

[Angieje]

Before I met him he would always talk about dating when we meet and things about the future. He would even make comments like “ you’re going to be staying at my place a lot” so that’s why it was so confusing. Even before meeting he mentioned just grabbing something to eat then going from there and then all a sudden it changed into this whole breakfast inn plan. When I mentioned the whole thing about not wanting sex he agreed with me and told me he just wants things to happen naturally that’s also why it threw me off when he tried having sex and then he told me over text that he “ thought I changed my mind” I was thinking about reaching out again and asking but it almost seems too desperate I’ve already tried talking to him twice and he didn’t really give me anything.

[Jfranco12]

Yeah I mean you set a boundary after the first time and then he tried to break that boundary the second time. There might’ve been a miscommunication but if you’ve tried reaching out and he’s not willing to talk then you should just back off. To me it seems like he just wanted sex otherwise he’d continue talking to you like normal but instead he’s taking many hours/days to reply. Do not put up with that, just let it go and let him contact you if he wants.

[Tunasub]

Send him another friend request letting him know that it takes more than that to get rid of you.

[888theGreat]

distance doesn't work