For some reason the Tinder and Bumble dating apps are barely working out for me. I get matches here and there (on Tinder only, but not so much on Bumble), I almost took my dad's word for it... so I did what he said regarding the pics and I put in the bio that I'm just a chill dude looking for love, looking for a gym partner, and I got around 21 matches total but all of them were either catfishes or real ones reluctant to respond... even though I always wait a day+ to start a chat... so after about four days on Tinder I deleted the account, called my dad, he advised me not to delete it and give up because here's what he said:
that he's watched a show called "love prison" and there are relationships that started after a woman is a week to even two years silent before responding to a text message
I wasn't needy, didn't get too personal, didn't even go with the boring "h-word" greetings as my dad would have suggested I went with, but I asked questions based on bio's and attempted to play emoji character games to determine a movie and etc and still hadn't gotten a response in almost a week or forever really... but that's just Tinder. It's even worse on Bumble, I get a useless catfish match or even hidden likes that I don't even match with and that's with expanding the location to worldwide... I get no likes nearby... and here's the pics my dad suggested using (plus one I decided to use which my dad also liked)
That said I recreated my accounts on dating apps and fared even worse, still got three new-ish matches (still mostly catfish ones) on Tinder but none on Bumble... my dad suggested I wait for as long as possible but for some reason I don't believe my dad when he says that girls wait a year to respond... he said one thing that's true though and that's many girls are looking for a guy like me, I just don't know it yet
but I ended up deleting them again... even as though my dad told me not to worry about the algorithm...
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Your dad seems to have your best interests in mind. That being said, you want women, right? Keep your profile up. Don't take them down until a date is secured. Women in your area may not jump at the chance to be with you, but if they haven't had a match of their type for a month, they may give you a shot.
Granted, that's not the best scenario, but when I was on Tinder, after a 2 week dry spell, I'd drop my standards and try again, working my way down my list of standards. I'm not proud of it and it's a terrible way to do it, but it worked.
Also, as a tip from one shaved head dude to another- don't put a pic up showing stubble on your head. I shave because I have a receding hairline, don't let prospective women see your hairline in a profile pic. Shaving stubble in itself isn't bad, but just keep a hardline edge to it.
Using an “h-word” as the first message wouldn’t be horrible. At least that’s less time wasted on trying to be creative. If she’s interested, she’ll respond back and then you can try to say something more interesting.
Asking a question about her bio is a good thing to do for a second message, but playing emoji charades seems too much. I don’t think many people would want to do that, especially on a dating site. It would be a different story if you were already friends with the person.