How long into dating someone until you stop using the dating apps?

[introvertedHeartache]

2 weeks or less

1 month

2-3 months

4-5 months

6 months or more

[Avicenna]

I think you should do it as soon as you know you want to be exclusive with this person, and, obviously, definitely no later than when you officially become exclusive. The reason I say you should do it as soon as you know you want to be exclusive with them is so that you aren't distracted yourself by wondering what these other people are like and instead you focus on closing the deal with the person you know you like.

The timetable is different for each person, so that's why I recommend using the benchmark of exclusivity. That said, if the other person doesn't want to go exclusive, you are not obligated to wait because they may never want to go exclusive since they're meeting a lot of people on the apps.

[Guy13]

6 weeks of 2x a week exclusive mid-week drink and weekend date IF one is Conservative. People know by a month of basically 8 interactions…couple all day Saturdays etc too in there…

[Guy13]

The reason I wait and create a resume is because I want to be able to justify Reason for leaving the App behind. I am naturally more likely to cut it off when I think I like someone which is mostly immediately.-I love hard !!! and even more why I want some History of Relationship between us.

Then if I discover or one of my friends discover activity... or if they keep getting notifications, I have a reason to tell them to go screw themselves... and it will not be so difficult to do so. And there's no way I'm going to be doing anything beyond some kissing as I am a little cautious giving my whole person. Does this make sense?

[introvertedHeartache]

Yes I totally get that. It was around the 3rd month of dating (every Saturday) when I brought up where he saw this going and that’s when I found out he’s just talking on the app knowing I’m not on any app. At this point I went from excited to see where things go to now cautious like you said. He said he’s waiting for deeper feelings before deleting the apps but I feel like he’s not giving us a chance when he’s already got one foot always out the door. It’s been 4 months now and he’s still on it and it turns me off when I see the notifications. He keeps telling me talking means nothing and he’s not seeing them but like what is the point in talking if you don’t plan on going out with them?

[Guy13]

For sure, 4 months far exceeds my Tolerable Time Zone. I would have already cut my losses and vacated relationship. This person does not know what it is like to risk and love hard... besides himself. Sorry... but it is what it is.

[introvertedHeartache]

Yeah I get that. I’m at the point of cutting him loose. It would be worse if I waited 6 months to a year wasting my time on a guy who I believe is either not ready to commit or just self sabotaging a potentially good thing.

[Guy13]

Yep, it sucks. Enjoy the holiday weekend.