If you met someone online and you've been going on dates, when do you delete the dating app or stop talking to other people?

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rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

There's not really a code of conduct on this outside having a conversation regarding what the relationship is. Unless you've had the commitment talk there should be no assumption of exclusivity.

That's not to say to expect they are seeing other people but to just understand that's possible and you have no rights to hold that against them without coming to an agreement of some kind.

Personally I've not had relationships from dating apps. But the concept is the same when meeting someone in person. You have the talk or you don't.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Except I have joined a few dating sites,
them stopped using them nearly immediately because they charge for something always, or you have to pay to be able to send more than a certain amount of messages per day/week &/or to like/love more than a certain amount of people per day/week, and haven’t logged back in ever since, plus I don’t remember all of those sites, so it would be a pain to go through all of them to delete them, as I don’t remember and as I don’t intend logging back in to any of them ever.

Alyssa11 · Accepted Answer

I’d say when you’ve mutually agreed that there’s expectations from both of you and you want some kind of commitment together.

I met my first boyfriend through Instagram. After a couple of dates we sat down and literally went through our phones, removing every girl/boy that made us feel uncomfortable. We explained to each other who’s who and mutually established we wanted something out of our time spent together. That’s ideal for me.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Once it’s official that we’re both going to be seeing each other only…

Pj1981 · Answer

If I were going on dates with someone I wouldn't actively continue to pursue someone else but I wouldn't delete my account until I felt things were progressing. Maybe it would even be a good idea to talk about it with the person you're seeing because they obviously have an account as well.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

I don't use dating apps for principle, but if I ever found myself in such a situation, I would delete it as soon as we become official.
But that said, given my distrust and discomfort about technology, I would delete it even if I didn't - in fact, if I ever made a dating app profile it would be because someone coerced me to!

Anon621 · Answer

Me personally I have been using dating apps to try and find friendships as well which so far has not been going extremely well but I have made one good friend so I can not complain and that's why I would not delete the app unless I have those friends available to message on other applications. I would still like to keep the dating app so I could potentially make more friends

just_a_potato · Answer

I only stop talking with other people when a person and I clearly communicate we want to exclusively see eachother, so basically dating in the sense of a boyfriend or girlfriend

Birdlegs · Answer

If I meet somebody I’m immediately deleting it I don’t like dating apps at all and I can’t handle talking to more than one girl at a time

Anonymous · Answer

So I met someone and we spoke for 2 months but we spoke on the all never had any dates or even Virtual ones as they didn't said they couldn't befrke they stopped replying to me.

However after the first few days when I knew she wasn't planning to just stop replying I stopped trying to message anyone or reply to others. I feel like this fine, I did t want to delete my profile or the app simply because they may not ever date me.

However if we did go on a date and we planned another I would uninstall the app aftee a few dates. But while seeing them and that I wouldn't use it to talk to others.

camerum · Answer

I deleted mine after the first date with my would be wife. The shoe fit. However this was the exception for me.

I felt it was worth the risk. I was happy to go all in, and if it didn't work out I accepted that I would have to recreate profiles of I wanted to restart that dating style.

RealMarek · Answer

When I know I want to see where things will lead with a woman and don’t want to risk having that disrupted by interactions with other women. When I got to this point I told my girlfriend that I didn’t want to date anyone else and deactivated my online dating account.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I wouldn't talk with any new people after the first date. I would delete the app if it seemed like it was going somewhere.

kaylaS91 · Answer

I basically stopped using the app after we met for the first time. He told me he deleted his Tinder account within a week of us meeting up. (I deleted mine after we’d been together for ~3 weeks)

molonski2 · Answer

Think it really depends on the circumstance , and the intent of what you are looking to achieve. Maybe you broach the topic when the timing is correct.

jillybeanns · Answer

Until it’s discussed what our intentions are behind us dating or seeing each other. At that point I would make my decision on whether if I would delete the account or not.

Anonymous · Answer

most people who are on dating apps, stay on dating apps. they don't work out long term. again, i said "most", not all.

Anonymous · Answer

It takes too long to set the damn things up, to delete them just because you got a couple of dates. I'd rather just leave them idle and let my dating partner check that it's been weeks/months/years since I logged on to the site.

fashionguy17 · Answer

Nope. I wouldn't delete the app until we are official (boyfriend/girlfriend). I've been on a couple of dates with women... sometimes 3... sometimes 4... and then we don't talk anymore.

Djaay · Answer

I met my wife of 5 years here on gag , we both still have our accounts. Although she ever hardly is active on Herr. Me on the other hand still cruise with topics , but I'm NOT interested in anyone. She reads most everything I mention and I don't care at all.

Adam1978 · Answer

When it's not dating and it's boyfriend/girlfriend. Ie it's official.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

If I’m talking with someone and it’s clear it’s going somewhere then I will not talk to other people and just focus on her. Now, if it’s just a “hey, hello, how are you” type of interaction then that is different.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Other: I simply don't log on any more. If my lady has doubts about me, she can look me up. Last seen: 2 1/2 years ago :)

Avicenna · Answer

When you mutually agree to or when you go exclusive.

Stevo-Irl · Answer

I deleted all dating apps about a month after I found someone serious. We had been on about 3 or 4 dates I think.

Ninjazzed · Answer

Stop talking to other people unless I know it’s the real deal, then I’ll delete it.

Anonymous · Answer

When it becomes exclusive and/or official. I've had several dates before and the women still end up ghosting so that's the world we live in right now. I don't even get excited for the first few dates anymore.

Barbra98 · Answer

I say couple of dates I normally remove photos, remove Any info what I’m looking for and about me. I tried deleting POF all it did ask me 20 questions to deleted it.

klark231 · Answer

when there's commitment. i met my girlfriend in tinder and weve both deleted the app together. now were living together and enjoying each other compajy

joe_schmidt · Answer

My soon-to-be wife and I met on eHarmony. We deleted the app after we both decided to make a real go of it.

Ninani · Answer

I don't date exclusively, so it would depend on my need to date new people.

clampfan101 · Answer

Immediately. I can always reinstall and bring my account back like it was if things don’t work out.

007kingifrit · Answer

you stop talking to other people after a few dates. you delete the app entirely after a conversation about the relationship

Iron_Man · Answer

If the first date goes well and she shows enthusiasm probably after the first date

Weater67 · Answer

I just got asked this. After 15 minutes of conversation. No. Not until we meet and I can see that I ain’t been catfished

BareNecessary · Answer

Never. there's a whole line of checks they have to cross before I'm that confident. But I'm usually more in it for a more friends with benefits kind of relationship but like really good friends. Like legit connection and thats it.

Finchie40 · Answer

When you both agree that you don’t want to see anyone else and you both make it official

humanearth · Answer

Never used a computer to find dates, never had a problem doing it the old way

Paris13 · Answer

Leave it There until you both Are----Exclusive and Official. For Now, Stay OFF. xx

Hulk30 · Answer

im into open relationships and i dont go on dates unless we fuck first i can commit before fuckin no problem but datin just to see where things go for both sexes is expensive and a waste of energy time and money

Anonymous · Answer

NEVER stop your job search until you have a signed contract and a confirmed start date. NEVER stop your relationship search until you're having regular sex.

hellacray · Answer

Haha this must be a question for women.  I deleted it cause I get almost no matches each month.

anylolone · Answer

I know your answer is never. I wouldn't even use tinder, all it's useful for is casual sex, and I don't need an app for that.

ThatNoUVAtYourEyes · Answer

Pfff - there are countless useless strategies on all that It is incredible how little confidence girls have when it comes to dating and keeping someone's interest.

Anonymous · Answer

Dating apps aren't for serious relationships, they're to remove accountability for women to sleep around.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Dating sites are for dating until you meet your match. You don't stop at one person you meet

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Depending if going somewhere with the person or not

ronaldo75 · Answer

No one deletes their dating apps until you're damned near married and even then most people keep them.

OddBeMe · Answer

Whenever you want. It’s a social media. I wouldn’t care if you kept talking to guys or girls on the app. It’s life. Intent is the key.

Wise4myage · Answer

B. Id wait a while to make sure I thought she was the one.

Anonymous · Answer

Once you are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. Just have a convo to make sure you are both on the same page.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

When you make it exclusive

Guanfei · Answer

Immediately. I don't run after several people, if I'm with someone, I have no one else.

Ryfyle · Answer

You know like less than 5% of men actually get dates from Online dating right?

dray995 · Answer

I’d delete it, if things ended up going on the right direction.

Anonymous · Answer

Even if I get married, I won't stop talking to other men. 😅

TheAfrikan · Answer

It depends if our connection has grown strong and we are in love with each other's personality.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

When you talk about it and agree

Anonymous · Answer

When he asks me to be his girlfriend other than that I’m free game!!

Anonymous · Answer

When I know that our relationships become more serious..

fatimah01 · Answer

When you know he's serious and what he wants.😏

Tomsta · Answer

When we become official

Mofunfour20 · Answer

For men no, for women yes.

BCA6010 · Answer

As soon as a date has been scheduled.

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