A guy I was seeing ended things with me, and got mad when I unfollowed him on social media? Why would he care?

[Anonymous]

He said that it was radical that I unfollowed him. Why would he care?

[virtue2332]

This is because you both have two completely different definitions as to what that means. I use social media to gather information and exchange ideas with that I couldn't just as easily do in person. So I've been in your shoes kind of before when I didn't feel the need to profess my feeling to someone I was dating when our anniversary came up. She took it as she was unimportant and I was embarrassed. We lived together and I had picked up gifts and wrote out my feelings in a card. Even that I find a little weird because I'm all about action over words. Show me you love me I could care less who knows or even hearing it. It was important to her so She just took pictures of the gifts and card even what I wrote and posted it all over her social media. I don't see the need but I wasn't mad about it but the relationship didn't work out eventually anyway because we are just different in a way that just didn't work. There is nothing wrong with being different or having different strengths as long as the differences compliment eachother and benefit the relationship.

[Asker]

Our situation is different

[IJhonnyI]

Look from a honest point there are people that have literal messed up reasoning he shouldn't have cared if he ended things with you there should be no reason unless he's just toxic or regrets leaving you

[Asker]

We had that conversation today. After ending things with me on Monday and I unfollowed him same day. I called him today to clear things and possibly work things out. One of the first things he said was that he wanted to call me on Monday but he noticed that I had removed him from instagram and that it was radical. He said he’s not interested. I don't know if he’s hurt or he’s ego is talking or just plain simply not interested.

[IJhonnyI]

Could be a mix of all 3 options you said, there's all types of reasoning for people which a lot of the times people's reasoning are out of this world, i wanna say his ego, but why would he be hurt?

[Asker]

I’ve said some insensitive things to him in the past. I apologized to him for those during our phone call.

[Asker]

Also what about his ego?

[IJhonnyI]

Yea I'd say his ego because if he's still talking to you there's clearly something blocking him from leaving you out of his life like you said he left you right?

[Asker]

Yeah but I was the one who called him. When I called him he returned the phone call right away.

[IJhonnyI]

How do u talk to him do you talk to him as someone who wants a relationship again or are you just apologizing for all of your wrongs and you wanna leave it in the past

[Asker]

I asked if he’s mad at me or something and he said no. I also asked for second chance but he said no…

[IJhonnyI]

So what do you want too know?

[Asker]

When he said that it was radical that I unfollowed him did it show that he infact had/ has feelings for me?

[IJhonnyI]

No, like I said people have out of this world ways of reasoning reason why you should never assume anything until you got a direct answer reason I'm so direct nowadays I'm always saying shit straight up even if I sound like a dick I even say it I don't wanna sound like a dick but I think we should see other people just so there's no misunderstandings but at the same time yes its possible he has feeling for you and he just doesn't wanna go back not to get too much in my personal life but I was dealing with this with my ex I still had feelings for her but because of the disrespectful things she did I left her and had no thoughts of coming back it's was just hard to tell her because of how much i really cared but that's over now just wanted to give a good example

[Asker]

I’ve never called him names or anything

[IJhonnyI]

Not saying that's the case in your situation like I said in the beginning no he probably doesn't have feelings for you

[Asker]

I have said some insensitive things to him in the past. I apologized to him. He’s having a surgery this week. I don't know if he’s stressed, hurt, mad or just plain simply not interested.